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… with my present female lover … she and I spend anywhere from two hours to six hours in caressing, touching, cuddling, hugging, lip kissing, deep kissing and intimate conversation before,...
12 August 2024 4,383 0 View
Your partner’s not there to service you, it’s not their job to keep you sexually satisfied. You’re together because you love each other and want to make each other happy. Constantly hassling them...
09 August 2024 1,354 0 View
Women, on the other hand, can become physically aroused (increased blood flow in the reproductive organs) without becoming psychologically aroused even in the slightest. (Robert Weiss)
06 August 2024 9,476 2 View
Women often complain that their husbands never touch them unless they want sex. (Michele Weiner-Davis)
03 August 2024 7,707 2 View
Women need to feel a degree of sexual intimacy before sex becomes desirable… For women, intimacy sometimes results in sex; for men, sex sometimes results in intimacy. (Marina Muratore)
01 August 2024 8,790 0 View
Women associate affection with love. … Men associate affection much more directly with sex. … Men see affection of any kind as a sexual invitation. Many women find this bewildering. (Kramer &...
31 July 2024 9,433 2 View
Women also often find it easier to fantasise when self-pleasuring than in sex with a partner. The immediacy of someone else’s needs actually inhibits the expression and satisfaction of their own....
27 July 2024 8,274 2 View
Of the 82 percent of women who said they masturbated, 95 percent could orgasm easily and regularly, whenever they wanted. (Shere Hite)
24 July 2024 2,752 4 View
When men see an attractive woman, they fantasise about sex. When women see an attractive man, they fantasise about a relationship – charming, agreeable company over dinner, friendship and comfort....
21 July 2024 2,449 0 View
We have lots of expectations about how relationships are ‘supposed’ to look. Many times, this fairy-tale model doesn’t mimic our lives or our realities. (Logan Levkoff)
19 July 2024 8,123 2 View
Unlike a boy’s very obvious penis, which he knows is pleasurable to touch and fondle, a girl’s genitals are hidden, mysterious, remote. I find it remarkable (and disturbing) that many women have...
18 July 2024 3,808 0 View
To us men, sex is sex. We want it, let’s do it, we’re done. For many women it isn’t always that simple. You need to be in tune with her emotionally if you want to make her more receptive sexually....
16 July 2024 4,408 1 View
To be fair women are also guilty because she does not feel confident or comfortable to say to her partner, 'Hey, sex needs to be about what I want. And tonight it’s going to be an...
15 July 2024 5,860 11 View
There is a startling gulf between fantasy and what a woman is really seeking in a sexual relationship and she may find this very disturbing. (Sheila Kitzinger)
10 July 2024 8,341 0 View
According to some scholars, the allegedly high prevalence of female sexual dysfunction has to do with the fact that the standard of ‘normality’ is based on the male sexual response. Krasnow &...
04 July 2024 9,943 2 View
Surveys have revealed that 75% of men ejaculate within 2 minutes of penetration. (Anthony Mason)
30 June 2024 9,560 4 View
Sex is only one way in which people give and receive love, so although it is very important, it is not the only way to develop or express intimacy. (Jonathan Lenbuck)
29 June 2024 2,802 2 View
Relationships fail because men still don’t understand why a woman can’t be more like a man, and women expect their men to behave just like women do. (Allan & Barbara Pease)
27 June 2024 7,137 0 View
Orgasms are elusive. Most women don't have one every time (or maybe even most times) they hit the sheets. Plenty of surveys—and likely your own bedroom experience—verify that. (Anna Davies)
26 June 2024 6,668 0 View
The problem I’ve heard most about over the years … is the problem of mismatched desire … which is the issue of sex-starved men and reluctant women … (Bettina Arndt)
24 June 2024 832 2 View
So what turns her on? … A man who makes her feel ‘safe’ and treats her like she is a vital part of his very existence, and not just a favourite sperm dumpsite. (Yangki Akiteng)
23 June 2024 4,920 2 View
She can say she had 5 orgasms and you will have no way of proving her wrong. Truth is what man would even want to prove her wrong. We all like to believe that we laid it down right, so who is...
21 June 2024 1,018 0 View
Sex is the price women pay for marriage. Marriage is the price men pay for sex. (Allan & Barbara Pease)
20 June 2024 2,139 2 View
Sexual double standards that favour pleasuring men continue to prevail. But I also believe women often think they are having an orgasm when in fact they are not. (Nicole Prause)
18 June 2024 8,115 0 View
Porn to men is not a big deal. They honestly can’t see how watching a sexy film can be any sort of reflection on their love for their girlfriend. Most don’t understand why she takes offence...
17 June 2024 9,389 0 View
The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent full of doubt. (Bertrand Russell)
15 June 2024 8,385 0 View
Overall, men were more likely than women to be sexually active, report a good quality sex life, and be interested in sex. (Lindau & Gavrilova)
14 June 2024 5,302 0 View
People will hide behind lies because they are too scared to face the truth. (Stephan Labossiere)
12 June 2024 3,256 0 View
Orgasm is not just a vague feeling. (Sheila Kitzinger)
11 June 2024 430 2 View
One study reported that many women find their most satisfying sexual experiences involve a feeling of being connected to someone else, rather than basing their satisfaction solely on orgasm....
09 June 2024 7,170 2 View
One of the diagnostic criteria for FSD (female sexual dysfunction) is feeling distressed. But what causes the distress? Is it the condition itself, or is it what you think is expected of you and...
08 June 2024 1,220 0 View
Most couples who rate their sex lives highly say they are proactive in sex. They think about when, where and how they’ll have it and think up new things to try. (Tracey Cox)
06 June 2024 6,357 5 View
Men, remember, feel good as a result of having sex. Women want to feel good before having sex. (Kramer & Dunaway)
05 June 2024 1,463 7 View
Men want more sex than they usually get. … It’s no wonder, then, that couples argue most often about sexual frequency… (Kramer & Dunaway)
03 June 2024 1,186 2 View
"... it is time for the field to come together and resolve the differences about models of female sexual response and diagnostic consequences. We need to come to some consensus to move research...
02 June 2024 9,014 0 View
It’s important to see three points: (1) change is possible; (2) it isn’t his fault that he is the way he is; and (3) there is no better alternative. (Kramer & Dunaway)
30 May 2024 6,200 0 View
I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t be satisfied if we only had sex when I feel like it. I have had to learn it’s not all about me. Sometimes I wish it was, but it’s not. (Valerie Harris)
28 May 2024 802 3 View
Tell her she’s important to you. For a woman to feel the desire for sex, she needs to feel loved, adored and significant. (Allan & Barbara Pease)
27 May 2024 5,744 2 View
I stumbled across the mysterious G-spot while looking at orgasm dysfunction. I noticed there were only a handful of studies on the subject, which relied on very small sample sizes. I found it...
25 May 2024 3,950 0 View
Men and women are mismatched in this respect because a man is MUCH MORE easily and quickly aroused, and reaches orgasm in a very short time in almost any situation. (Miriam Stoppard)
24 May 2024 1,128 0 View
However we feel about fantasies, it is clear that sex is not, for most of us, just a rubbing together of bodies, but involves our minds … We take our minds with us into each sexual...
22 May 2024 2,861 2 View
How to satisfy a woman every time: Caress, praise, pamper, … die for, dream of, tease, gratify, squeeze, indulge, idolise, worship. How to satisfy a man every time: Arrive naked. (Allan &...
21 May 2024 2,511 0 View
Furthermore it’s a pretty safe guess that the statistics are worse than that. Because if it’s a volunteer sample, the women most likely to come forward and be candid about sex are likely to be...
19 May 2024 2,276 0 View
Research has shown that orgasms are also not widely considered to be the most important aspect of sexual experience. (James McIntosh)
16 May 2024 4,558 0 View
At its core, we define state sexual pleasure as the experience of positive affect (“feeling good”) during sexual activities. Werner, Borgmann & Laan
15 May 2024 4,100 2 View
… certainly, it is easier for most women to be orgasmic during masturbation than during intercourse. … For most women, masturbation involves some form of stimulation of the clitoris, whereas with...
13 May 2024 7,105 2 View
It is difficult for most males to comprehend that females are not aroused by seeing male genitalia. Some males never come to comprehend this. (Alfred Kinsey)
12 May 2024 5,867 0 View
Most guys feel like they are always the initiator and that sets up disequilibrium on the passion scale in the relationship. (Les Parrot)
10 May 2024 1,573 1 View
Many of the (homosexual) males had been highly promiscuous, sometimes finding scores or hundreds of sexual partners. (Alfred Kinsey)
09 May 2024 3,976 0 View
Most females seem to derive no particular satisfaction from their manipulations of the male. (Alfred Kinsey)
06 May 2024 7,252 10 View
Rather than having sex, many women simply want to LOOK like they are having sex. (Bella Ellwood-Clayton)
06 May 2024 2,818 0 View
Just as in the human animal, and even more often than in the human animal, petting among the other mammals is primarily, although not exclusively, male activity which is directed toward the...
03 May 2024 6,087 5 View
We’ve got this generation of boys growing up thinking that, you know, women practically faint at the sight of an erection, that women orgasm through penetration, that threesomes are normal....
01 May 2024 5,984 7 View
In the younger boy there is no ejaculate because the prostate and seminal vesicles are not yet functionally developed, and in the female those glands are rudimentary and never develop. (Alfred Kinsey)
30 April 2024 6,437 0 View
Many younger females and, for that matter, a certain portion of the older and married female population, may engage in such specifically sexual activities as petting and even intercourse without...
27 April 2024 3,266 2 View
Unlike its vestibule, the vagina is derived embryologically from the primitive egg ducts which, like nearly all other internal body structures, are poorly supplied with end organs of touch....
25 April 2024 4,132 1 View
Fully 84 per cent of the females in the sample who had masturbated had depended chiefly on labial and clitorial stimulation. (Alfred Kinsey)
24 April 2024 651 0 View
Considerable psychiatric therapy can be wasted on persons (especially females) who are misjudged to be cases of repression when, in actuality, at least some of them never were equipped to respond...
22 April 2024 6,848 0 View
If you really think about why vaginal stimulation matters so much, it’s because it puts the focus on male pleasure. (Emily Nagoski)
19 April 2024 7,581 4 View
What women want in a sexual relationship: (1) More spontaneity: all too often the sexual pattern is routine, preordained, expected. (2) More passion – and less urgency to have intercourse quickly....
18 April 2024 9,606 4 View
Many females, of course, report that they are offended by portrayals of sexual action … most females are indifferent or antagonistic to the existence of such material because it means nothing to...
16 April 2024 6,068 0 View
The failure of the female to reach orgasm may also be a source of considerable disappointment to the male… Such failures lead not only to disappointment, frustration, and a sense of defeat, but...
15 April 2024 4,748 8 View
If you are a man whose partner is less interested in sex than you, start paying attention to your friendship. Many women are wired this way—they can't get turned on unless they feel close to you....
13 April 2024 5,287 0 View
Whether or not she herself reaches orgasm, many a female finds satisfaction in knowing that her husband or other sexual partner has enjoyed the contact, and in realizing that she has contributed...
12 April 2024 3,171 2 View
The average male … has a greater need than most females have for a regular and frequent sexual outlet. (Alfred Kinsey)
10 April 2024 9,334 3 View
In male prostitution, the prostitute usually experiences orgasm. This is in contrast to the situation among female prostitution, most of whom go into prostitution for the sake of the money that...
07 April 2024 8,968 0 View
Therapists focus on issues in the wider relationship, which may make a woman more amenable to providing the intercourse a man wants. A woman may enjoy pleasuring her lover when she feels that she...
06 April 2024 8,009 0 View
There is no accepted wisdom when it comes to sex. The research findings have been ignored. So we have no scientific (consisent and unbiased) account of human sexuality. Sex therapists focus on the...
04 April 2024 5,119 0 View
… ,but it is probable that few males would marry if they did not anticipate that they would have an opportunity to have coitus regularly with their wives. (Alfred Kinsey)
01 April 2024 9,500 0 View
… the average female marries to establish a home, to establish a long-time affectional relationship with a single spouse, and to have children whose welfare may become the prime business of her...
31 March 2024 5,502 3 View
… it’s time to talk about what most men could initiate more of, and that is non-sexual intimacy. … It involves any kind of intimacy that isn’t centered around sex. It can include making time to...
29 March 2024 9,691 7 View
Read all the sex surveys you want but you still won’t really know what other people do in bed because what people say and what people do are two totally different things. (Tracey Cox)
26 March 2024 5,777 0 View
Far from being a disorder, low libido is just the natural state of affairs for many women. (Bella Ellwood-Clayton)
25 March 2024 4,786 18 View
There are some who advocate the perpetuation of our ignorance because they fear that science will undermine the mystical concepts that they have substituted for reality. (Alfred Kinsey)
23 March 2024 4,395 4 View
The so-called sex instruction which is given by parents and schools usually consists of a certain amount of information concerning the anatomy and mechanics of reproduction. (Alfred Kinsey)
20 March 2024 1,491 3 View
Many males … poorly understand the techniques by which females masturbate, the anatomy which may be involved … and the part which fantasy plays in her masturbation. (Alfred Kinsey)
19 March 2024 5,053 0 View
… men come to the sexual experience with only his porno-sex-ed and general socialization – ergo pleasing a woman means: 1) A big penis 2) Lasting a long time during intercourse 3) Making her...
17 March 2024 9,477 0 View
Another important reason why women fake their orgasm is the fear of upsetting their partner. Many men anxiously insist that the woman must have satisfaction. (Rachel Swift)
13 March 2024 4,664 10 View
… commercial exhibitions of female nudity … are taken by many of the males in the audience to indicate that the exhibiting females are tremendously aroused. Most of the females … were highly...
11 March 2024 4,534 4 View
A smaller percentage of the females in the sample reported erotic arousal as a product of their observation of male genitalia, and more than half (52 per cent) reported that they had never been...
10 March 2024 9,098 0 View
Even Sharon Stone admits that she did women a disservice in ‘Basic Instinct’ by suggesting that they could reach orgasm in about 30 seconds flat. This is just not how the female body works, and...
28 February 2024 9,597 5 View
It is less easy to assess psycho-sexual triggers for women than for men. (Andrew Stanway)
27 February 2024 8,767 0 View
My work focuses on sexual response and explaining how and when female orgasm occurs. Typically only men comment on female sexuality. What is most noticeable is that no one contributes to my ideas...
26 February 2024 1,462 0 View
Few of us reach orgasm without fantasy, so let your imagination go wild! … Don’t get hung up about your fantasy; it doesn’t mean you’re odd, gay or secretly want to be raped. Most women fantasise...
25 February 2024 2,945 2 View
A woman… wants more intimacy, comprising affection, commitment, and respect for individual identity… Although she knows he wants sex, she is frustrated because this seems to be the only form of...
24 February 2024 5,612 12 View
Men’s illusions about women are long on fantasy and short on reality and are often based on male-oriented published material … These media stereotypes become the stuff of male fantasy, even,...
22 February 2024 9,584 2 View
Biologically and hormonally, men are MUCH MORE driven to be sexual than women are. (John Gray)
19 February 2024 9,185 2 View
Few males achieve any real freedom in their sexual relations even with their wives. Few males realize how badly inhibited they are on these matters. (Alfred Kinsey)
18 February 2024 4,412 2 View
Men will do anything for sex, and will behave quite out of character to achieve it, such as spending several hours being romantic, and paying attention to what a woman says. (Anthony Mason)
16 February 2024 3,527 2 View
Men often feel very angry with women who never initiate sex and too often don’t want sex. But this anger has a tone of alienation, guilt, and insecurity: men feel instinctively on some level that...
15 February 2024 3,828 2 View
Females… are much less often attracted by observing the male partner, his genitalia, or other objects associated with the sexual performance. (Alfred Kinsey)
12 February 2024 9,086 0 View
Studies have shown anywhere from 55% – 80% (If not more) of women fake orgasms. Yet ask any man on the street and they think they are handing out orgasms like a bag of peanuts on an airplane. That...
10 February 2024 7,191 1 View
Who wants to have sex for eight hours?Ask a dude. Ask even a tired dude. No contest. (Joan Sewell)
07 February 2024 576 6 View
A woman doesn’t want sex for the same reasons a man does. A woman enters a new relationship looking for romance and love. Sex comes as a consequence. (Allan & Barbara Pease)
04 February 2024 6,369 0 View
Nothing in porn is real. You need to watch porn knowing that this is all completely fabricated. (Tracey Cox)
03 February 2024 1,963 2 View
I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious. (Albert Einstein)
02 February 2024 6,675 0 View
Given women’s sexual passivity and their reluctance to refer directly to sex, men fill the void by assuming that women respond sexually as men do. Women who boast about orgasm to attract male...
01 February 2024 7,879 0 View
Our society censors all sexual content. We have no authoritative account of our sexuality or of sexual response. So adults base their beliefs on erotic fiction, which is aimed at providing...
30 January 2024 1,292 0 View
A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be. (Albert Einstein)
29 January 2024 8,968 0 View
People are unaware of their sexual ignorance. As soon as anyone has sex, they assume that they know it all. Women associate sex with a loving relationship. Men associate sex with erotic scenarios....
27 January 2024 2,342 0 View
Sex is important because when there is a feeling of understanding and appreciation between two people – sex can make life together something special. It shows ‘you mean more to me than others do’....
26 January 2024 172 5 View
Men are aroused by nudity and in anticipation of sexual opportunities. Men approach sexual scenarios already mentally aroused. They want to enjoy penile stimulation with a lover. They are aroused...
24 January 2024 6,563 0 View
The penis, for example, has two roots known as crura which play an essential role in its functioning. During sexual excitation these crura become engorged with blood and contribute to erection of...
23 January 2024 4,525 0 View
It is assumed that female arousal works differently to male arousal because most women are offended by eroticism. Women refer to emotional stimuli with a lover because they experience sex as a...
21 January 2024 5,158 3 View
Sex in our society is an extremely important way of being close – almost the only way we can be really physically or even spiritually intimate with another human being. (Shere Hite)
20 January 2024 7,819 0 View
Everyone believes that what they read in erotic fiction and see in pornography must be possible in reality. So we expect women to orgasm from intercourse, masturbation and cunnilingus with a...
17 January 2024 8,528 0 View
Sex drive is experienced by a male who anticipates penetrative sex. It is a significant urge that can be difficult for a man to resist. No one has an urge to be penetrated by a penis or any other...
15 January 2024 6,113 30 View
I would like to know more about sex, but most of the books I have read are not very revealing. They don’t answer the important questions. … At our age (I am eighteen years old – almost nineteen)...
14 January 2024 5,287 0 View
Female orgasm is defined so that every woman can imagine she might have had one. No one can name any female erotic turn-ons. Either different women are assumed to respond to stimulation of...
12 January 2024 9,097 3 View
The woman-in-the-street (most of us) still has the impression that it is ‘normal’ to orgasm from male thrusting. (Shere Hite)
11 January 2024 503 0 View
In questions of science, the authority of a thousand is not worth the humble reasoning of a single individual. (Galileo Galilei)
09 January 2024 9,939 0 View
Surely they should be able to differentiate between erotic fiction and reality? So why do their theories and advice on orgasm suggest that real woman should respond exactly as the female porn...
08 January 2024 336 12 View
Men believe that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. But where does this belief come from? It doesn't come from any research findings. Cunnilingus is clearly associated with pornography rather than...
18 December 2023 7,653 0 View
Erotic and sexual content is censored in every society on the planet to protect women's sensitivities. Women are offended by the crude nature of men's sexual urges and by the graphic and explicit...
17 December 2023 9,475 0 View
In summary, since intercourse has been defined as the basic form of sexuality, and the only natural, healthy, and moral form of physical contact, it has automatically been assumed that this is...
15 December 2023 4,785 0 View
Without the protection of reliable contraception, few women would volunteer for unprotected intercourse. The idea that women have a sex drive to be impregnated is ludicrous. Women offer sex to a...
14 December 2023 9,850 2 View
It is, at once, an interesting reflection of man’s absorbing interest in sex, and his astounding ignorance of it; his desire to know and his unwillingness to face the facts; his respect for an...
11 December 2023 7,115 0 View
When I talk about my personal experience, men will often tell me that I am wrong. But men have no idea what a woman experiences from sex. Intercourse provides zero stimulation for a woman. Every...
09 December 2023 6,688 1 View
Of all the women who described how they masturbated, only 1.5 percent masturbated only by vaginal insertion, plus another 0.4 percent who used this method sometimes. (Shere Hite)
08 December 2023 1,773 0 View
There is great pressure on women in our society now to say they like ‘sex’. (Shere Hite)
06 December 2023 1,241 0 View
The sex toy companies never guarantee that their accessories provide orgasms. They are often shaped like an erect male phallus – a long-time symbol of eroticism. But research indicates that women...
05 December 2023 5,352 2 View
Anyone who can orgasm knows exactly how they got there because orgasm involves releasing the sexual tension that builds from mental arousal. It is a reasonably reliable process.
03 December 2023 5,933 2 View
There were, unfortunately, many women who orgasmed regularly during masturbation but almost never during sex with another person in any way. (Shere Hite)
02 December 2023 6,055 0 View
We have arrived at a point in our thinking as a society where it has become acceptable for women to enjoy sex, as long as we are fulfilling our roles as women – that is, giving pleasure to men…...
29 November 2023 2,995 0 View
Women learn that claiming to orgasm (or at least not denying that it occurs) enhances their attractiveness to men. It also speeds up sex if a woman fakes her pleasure, arousal and orgasm. Sex is...
27 November 2023 387 0 View
Why don't women define male sexuality? Women never talk of eroticism or sexual pleasure. They talk of lovemaking, a loving relationship and family.
26 November 2023 1,116 2 View
They think that this makes them a sexual woman. No man ever says “I use porn to get aroused” because porn is just a portrayal of what men enjoy in reality. But they would much prefer to have the...
25 November 2023 9,310 0 View
I think our culture has made sex overimportant. (Shere Hite)
23 November 2023 6,898 0 View
There is an honesty in science which refuses to accept the idea that there are aspects of the material universe that are better not investigated, or better not known, or the knowledge of which...
21 November 2023 6,764 7 View
The question should not be: Why aren’t woman having orgasms from intercourse? But, rather: Why have we insisted women should orgasm from intercourse? (Shere Hite)
18 November 2023 693 0 View
If no one, neither women nor their lovers, can explain how women achieve mental arousal as a response to eroticism, then how on earth are they ever having orgasms with a lover?
17 November 2023 933 8 View
Not only were women tired of the old mechanical pattern of ‘foreplay’, penetration, intercourse, and ejaculation, but many found that always having to have intercourse, knowing you will have...
14 November 2023 877 0 View
The key reason that sex education and sex research are so unpopular is due to the conflict with erotic fiction and wishful thinking.
12 November 2023 5,016 0 View
Who would set a limit to the mind of man? Who would dare assert that we know all there is to be known? (Galileo Galilei)
11 November 2023 4,336 3 View
I have a lifetime of sexual experience. I am explicit about how and when I am able to achieve arousal and orgasm. Sadly, it does not occur with a lover but that does not mean that a woman cannot...
10 November 2023 7,540 0 View
08 November 2023 4,451 2 View
During eighteen years of marriage, we did everything but stand on our heads, but there were few orgasms for me … Masturbation has always worked. (Shere Hite)
06 November 2023 5,354 4 View
No theory, no philosophy, no body of theology, no political expediency, no wishful thinking, can provide a satisfactory substitute for the observation of material objects and of the way in which...
02 November 2023 7,387 0 View
Emotional orgasm is a feeling of love and communion with another human being that reaches a peak, a great welling up of intensity of feeling, … (Shere Hite)
30 October 2023 9,982 2 View
Of course once he (Freud) had laid down this definition of our sexuality, Freud not so strangely discovered a tremendous ‘problem’ of ‘frigidity’ in women. (Shere Hite)
28 October 2023 504 4 View
Men can be put into two groups: straight intercourse men and foreplay men. Straight intercourse men I have had are usually less experienced, they just screw. Others indulge in a great deal of...
27 October 2023 5,393 0 View
This explains the need for consent. A woman is supposed to have a choice!
25 October 2023 2,692 0 View
It is not female sexuality that has a problem (‘dysfunction’) but society that has a problem in its definition of sex and the subordinate role that definition gives women. (Shere Hite)
18 October 2023 7,710 8 View
Freud was the founding father of vaginal orgasm. He theorized that the clitoral orgasm (orgasm caused by clitoral stimulation) was adolescent and that, upon puberty, when women began having...
16 October 2023 9,335 0 View
No one can explain the erotic turn-ons involved or even the specific anatomy and stimulation technique.
15 October 2023 5,732 0 View
There are no research findings and no other evidence from the population at large to indicate that most women think it is possible to orgasm by any means with a lover.
13 October 2023 3,417 0 View
To consider all non-reproductive sexual contact ‘an error of nature’ is a very narrow view. (Shere Hite)
12 October 2023 1,112 0 View
I have concluded it is because there is no alternative - comprehensive and authoratative sex education is non-existent!
10 October 2023 1,826 13 View
To assume that intercourse is the basis expression of female sexuality, during which women should orgasm, and then to analyze women’s ‘responses’ to intercourse – is to look at the issue...
04 October 2023 4,029 0 View
We do not believe that the happiness of individual men, and the good of the total social organization, is ever furthered by the perpetuation of ignorance. (Alfred Kinsey)
01 October 2023 7,448 0 View
Women look for a loving relationship rather than for sex itself. Effectively, they offer intercourse in exchange for platonic love.
30 September 2023 6,076 0 View
If so, how come no one can specify the anatomy involved in female orgasm? Why can no one explain female erotic arousal?
27 September 2023 7,144 2 View
Sex is initiated by a man because the motivation for sexual contact comes from male responses.
25 September 2023 7,444 4 View
Why doesn’t a man say to a woman that he wants to insert his penis into her vagina and thrust until he ejaculates? Firstly, women are hugely offended by any mention of the genitals of either sex....
19 September 2023 6,604 0 View
Women boast about orgasm. Men boast about their sexual opportunities, numbers of lovers & their ability to pleasure a lover.
13 September 2023 1,961 0 View
Female sexuality has been seen essentially as a response to male sexuality and intercourse. There has rarely been any acknowledgement that female sexuality might have a complex nature of its own...
10 September 2023 2,128 4 View
Again, the penis contains within its shaft two caverns or spaces known as corpora cavernosa, which fill with blood during sexual excitation, and contribute to the expanded size of the erect penis....
07 September 2023 10,002 0 View
Is knowledge of reproductive biology, contraception & sexual disease truly sufficient for a heathy life-long sex life?
04 September 2023 8,132 3 View
There is an honesty in science which demands that the best means be used for the determination of the truth. (Alfred Kinsey)
03 September 2023 7,155 2 View
I suggest that men are proactive due to their arousal. Women are passive due to lack of arousal.
31 August 2023 4,084 0 View
However, since female orgasm is not necessary during intercourse for reproduction to occur, why should nature provide stimulation for female orgasm during intercourse? (Shere Hite)
30 August 2023 8,416 0 View
Women are clearly not aroused by eroticism as men are. No one can name any female erotic turn-ons.
28 August 2023 5,694 2 View
Sex is a form of communication without words based on bodily responses, and is the ultimate in human closeness where a person can express and understand more than the mind can conceive of. (Shere...
27 August 2023 1,217 0 View
Why is it considered immoral to recommend techniques for enjoying sexual pleasure?
24 August 2023 3,947 0 View
… it is the emotional warmth shared at this time, and the feeling of being wanted and needed (not the plain physical act) which are the chief pleasures of sex and intercourse (for women). (Shere Hite)
23 August 2023 3,380 0 View
All truths are easy to understand once they are discovered; the point is to discover them. (Galileo Galilei)
21 August 2023 9,447 2 View
Why do women not talk about eroticism, sexual pleasure, male orgasm, male ejaculation and ogle over images of the penis?
20 August 2023 2,700 0 View
Men are certainly not offended by sex. It seems to me, that one way or another, the silent female population has its say. The overwhelming majority of women answered that sex meant a great deal...
18 August 2023 8,333 6 View
Women who claim to orgasm but then insist that men must always ask permission if they want sex.
16 August 2023 9,360 2 View
In fact, even women who did orgasm during intercourse most frequently gave affection and closeness as their basic reason for liking intercourse, rarely mentioning orgasm. (Shere Hite)
10 August 2023 8,419 2 View
Male orgasm is achieved by massaging the blood flow (tumescence) within the corpora cavernosa of the phallus.
09 August 2023 5,061 0 View
It has been interesting to observe how far the ancient traditions and social custom influence even persons who are trained as scientists. (Alfred Kinsey)
06 August 2023 1,927 2 View
Heterosexual men (note that ‘hetero’ means different in Greek) have the significant advantage of never needing to reciprocate in intercourse by taking their turn as the receiver. Unlike homosexual...
02 August 2023 847 10 View
Why are women so often unaware orgasm occurs because our mental arousal motivates us to supply (ourselves) or obtain (from a lover) the appropriate stimulation?
14 July 2023 9,679 0 View
As Ann Koedt put it, in ‘The myth of the vaginal orgasm’: Perhaps one of the most infuriating and damaging result of this whole charade has been that women who were perfectly healthy sexually were...
13 July 2023 856 0 View
Men promote their fantasies in the void left by women’s silence. Women are responsible for creating this void. In women’s defence, it is much easier to fill the void with erotic fantasy than to...
11 July 2023 5,298 4 View
The only way to understand how nature works is to look at it and then use logic and reason to understand and explain what you see. Newton was one of the first to interrogate Nature using the...
10 July 2023 1,689 2 View
Why are women unwilling to discuss their enjoyment of the erotic fantasies and mental arousal that are essential to achieving orgasm?
08 July 2023 5,023 2 View
In fact, for over 70 per cent of women, intercourse – the penis thrusting in the vagina – did not regularly lead to orgasm. … In other words, not to have orgasm from intercourse is the experience...
07 July 2023 6,452 0 View
One woman accused me of letting the side down. The implication is that women should boast about orgasm to prove that we are men’s equals.
05 July 2023 10,001 0 View
Waiting for the Right Man to make us orgasm is like waiting for the prince to come. (Shere Hite)
04 July 2023 5,149 0 View
Why do women so habitually satisfy men’s needs during sex and ignore their own? The fact is that the role of women in sex, as in very other aspect of life, has been to serve the needs of others –...
01 July 2023 7,448 0 View
Orgasm is a response to eroticism. It occurs when a person who is mentally aroused by erotic stimuli decides to obtain the stimulation that they know instinctively will allow them to release their...
30 June 2023 8,503 0 View
The history of science is part of the history of the freedom to observe, to reflect, to experiment, to record, and to bear witness. (Alan Gregg)
29 June 2023 4,100 0 View
The fact is that prostitutes are involved in providing male pleasure. Lesbians don't need to focus on orgasm because they have no penis to satisfy. They can enjoy the emotional & sensual...
28 June 2023 3,472 0 View
Is sexual pleasure really defined solely by orgasm? If so, isn't it that men never eulogise about their own orgasm?
26 June 2023 9,883 0 View
This is my first sexual relationship. I am eighteen – almost nineteen. I must say that I had expected much more. … When I am having sex, I don’t really feel anything. Sometimes I feel him in me...
25 June 2023 9,186 4 View
23 June 2023 8,362 0 View
When a man displays his genitals, women scream & run away. So why do people suggest that women are aroused by male nudity and sexual opportunities as men are?
22 June 2023 4,660 0 View
19 June 2023 5,119 2 View
I find very few people (even researchers) who have the intellect, experience & emotional detachment needed to understand sexuality. Do you know anyone capable of discussing sexuality objectively?
17 June 2023 921 0 View
If women enjoyed their sexual experiences, surely older women would be more sexually willing than younger women?
16 June 2023 1,307 0 View
It's easy to suggest PHYSICAL STIMULATION techniques but what is the point if no one can name any EROTIC TURN-ONS that cause female arousal?
14 June 2023 358 0 View
Surely it is self-evident that the truth about our sexuality is of value, not just to scientists but also to anyone who is interested in the facts?
13 June 2023 8,376 0 View
Men like erotic turn-ons … Women like a pretty face, reassuring voice, charming manner? How is that supposed to work?
11 June 2023 8,440 2 View
Is sex drive about our motivation to reproduce or to experience orgasm? Is it logical to use the expression 'sexual desire' for women's less obvious amenability to sexual activity?
10 June 2023 7,924 5 View
If single women are so readily available, why does any man ever agree to get married?
31 May 2023 3,969 7 View
I hope you will agree that female orgasm claims (by men or women) are worthless if no one can explain the anatomy, stimulation & turn-ons involved?
30 May 2023 9,586 3 View
Men enjoy the EROTIC rewards of sex. Women enjoy the EMOTIONAL rewards of pleasing a lover. Isn't it rather spoiled to want both?
28 May 2023 4,023 3 View
If female orgasm were common, surely every woman would be an orgasm expert? Why are women so reluctant to comment?
26 May 2023 4,184 0 View
Even if women are too modest to explain female erotic turn-ons, surely their lovers should know?
25 May 2023 8,985 5 View
What do we expect of a sex researcher or sexologist? Surely they should be able to differentiate between erotic fiction and reality?
24 May 2023 3,362 2 View
Do people really think social media networks censor any sexual content (even when it is educational in nature) because MEN are offended?
22 May 2023 3,492 0 View
How on earth can anyone believe that women have a sex drive to engage in activity that is designed to impregnate them?
21 May 2023 8,047 0 View
With all the male-driven demand for pornography & prostitution, how can anyone equate the sexuality of the sexes?
20 May 2023 4,754 0 View
I have been ridiculed & patronised for talking realistically about female orgasm. Do you wonder why most women refuse to comment on sexuality?
17 May 2023 4,714 0 View
How would you talk to teenagers about what is meant by 'consensual sex'? Essentially, a man needs consent to enjoy the pleasure of penetration.
15 May 2023 3,416 0 View
I find that achieving orgasm is a reasonably reliable process. So why can other women not explain how they got there (including the erotic turn-ons they use)?
13 May 2023 6,277 0 View
I have been asking women to explain how they achieve orgasm with a lover for years. Very few women ever respond. In fact, probably more men have to say about female orgasm than any woman does. But...
09 May 2023 3,487 17 View
I have spent years on social media discussing sexual response. Very few people appear capable of articulating on the subject. Sexual ignorance abounds even among those who are qualifications in...
28 January 2023 5,270 11 View
Science involves challenging the status quo and being willing to ask difficult questions. Scientists need to be curious but also unbiased (not intent on proving any preconceived preferred result...
01 January 1970 1,619 5 View
Few researchers ever ask women in the population to comment on or confirm the theories that promote their supposed responsiveness. Alfred Kinsey & Shere Hite were the only ones brave enough to...
01 January 1970 5,558 0 View
My partner and I have compared notes on arousal and orgasm. We have concluded that the anticipation of sexual activity, the sense of urgency, the physical and mental arousal, the emotional...
01 January 1970 7,661 2 View
The hype over female orgasm is so extreme that all logic are lost. The sex toy companies have capitalised on this confusion and ignorance. But they never say that their products give anyone an...
01 January 1970 5,507 6 View
No one seems to notice that beliefs about female orgasm are based on pornography - a male masturbation tool. Porn provides male turn-ons, or fantasies, to assist with male arousal in the absence...
01 January 1970 3,614 8 View
I have never been a sexually timid woman. Over a period of more than three decades I have explored sex play with my partner. We have engaged in intercourse (vaginal and anal), mutual oral sex,...
01 January 1970 6,328 0 View
The aim of my research is to help other women understand and interpret their sexual experiences. I do this by providing them with explicit details of my own. But often they are offended. They even...
01 January 1970 244 0 View
Freud acknowledged the clitoral orgasm that women experience from masturbation. But naturally, as a man, he thought women should transfer this response (despite the change in anatomy involved) to...
01 January 1970 9,151 11 View
Implicit within marriage is the expectation that a man will support a family in return for regular sex but sometimes discussion is needed. There needs to be more honesty about sex and we need to...
01 January 1970 6,933 0 View
Don't you think this is evidence that men know that a woman offers sex because she loves a man?
01 January 1970 6,016 0 View
Orgasm is a sporadic response that arises when the brain responds to stimuli of an erotic nature. Due to this mental arousal the brain sends blood to the phallus (causing tumescence) which makes...
01 January 1970 4,992 12 View
A turn-on is a real-world erotic trigger (such as a partner’s nudity or an opportunity for intercourse) that causes male arousal. Women are not aroused by such triggers. Responsive women use...
01 January 1970 9,913 6 View
01 January 1970 896 1 View
In a boy the Wolffian ducts develop into the male reproductive organs but in a female these ducts waste away. In a girl the Müllerian ducts form the female reproductive organs but in a male embryo...
01 January 1970 3,697 2 View
Kinsey talked to thousands of men and women. He found that intercourse frequencies were directly correlated with men’s own sex drive. Regardless of whether a woman thinks she has orgasms or not,...
01 January 1970 4,128 4 View
Sexologists appear to have lost sight of what science is about. They do not appreciate that before you can research a topic, you must first apply some common sense. There is nothing unscientific...
01 January 1970 7,439 2 View
There are many reasons why couples stop having sex. Certainly, part of the problem is men’s refusal to acknowledge the effort women make on their behalf in many areas. But women are also...
01 January 1970 6,696 2 View
I have never had an orgasm from intercourse or any other sexual activity with a lover. In my thirties, I consulted a clinical psychologist, who told me that there is nothing wrong with me. In...
01 January 1970 1,030 0 View
Why do some women think that they are aroused by pornography? Clearly women do not know how their own arousal works so they copy what men use instead. Such claims make women attractive to men....
01 January 1970 6,661 4 View
The vaginal orgasm was proposed by a man (Freud). Imagine a woman defining how men should orgasm! The fact that women accept a man defining their sexuality indicates women's lack of experience of...
01 January 1970 7,552 0 View
Originally, I blamed male fantasies for the modern pressure on women to fake orgasm with a lover. But I have come to realise that the true pressure comes from feminists, intent on proving women’s...
01 January 1970 8,641 7 View
When I first had sex, I told my boyfriend that I felt no sensation from intercourse. He replied that other virgins had made the same comment. More importantly I had felt zero erotic arousal. Yet...
01 January 1970 2,435 5 View
01 January 1970 9,188 1 View
Sexual ignorance is not limited to male fantasies about women’s sexuality. It also includes women’s denial of men’s sexual needs. Even in this supposed age of information, women tell me that men...
01 January 1970 4,359 2 View
I have been asking women to explain how they achieve orgasm with a lover for years. Very few women ever respond. In fact, men have more to say about female orgasm than any woman does. But even men...
01 January 1970 8,874 2 View
Throughout my adult life, I have been surrounded by a portrayal of female sexuality that has nothing in common with my own experience. Moreover, I have not found anyone who can explain this belief...
01 January 1970 6,392 3 View
Sexual ignorance over female sexual anatomy - https://apple.news/A6k_mRAz6Rjiih5FNJgojww
01 January 1970 5,035 2 View
I support other women by quoting their work. I have contacted some of them, but they all refuse to discuss sexuality. Nor do they support me in return. I assume they exclude me because I am not...
01 January 1970 779 0 View
When I was a young woman, I couldn’t understand why I could easily masturbate to orgasm and yet nothing worked with a lover. Later when I discovered Hite, I was amazed that more women did not...
01 January 1970 4,193 2 View
Glossary of sexual terms Clitoral glans = the only visible part (the tip) of the clitoral organ, which is usually (but misleadingly) referred to as “the clitoris” Clitoral organ = the whole...
01 January 1970 5,175 4 View
Men’s assumption that they are entitled to define female sexuality astounds me. Even though other women are silent on every aspect of sexual response, my first-hand account is ignored. Despite...
01 January 1970 3,325 0 View
Sociocultural influence more often than not places woman in a position in which she must adapt, sublimate, inhibit, or even distort her natural capacity to function sexually in order to fulfil her...
01 January 1970 4,149 2 View
We have the impression that sexual knowledge today is based on modern research. But there is none. The research findings relating to sexual response have all been ignored. The beliefs that are...
01 January 1970 8,101 0 View
A key characteristic of orgasm is that stimulation must continue up until orgasm and then preferably cease. Consequently a woman can never orgasm through intercourse because this activity only...
01 January 1970 537 0 View
01 January 1970 2,137 0 View
The only researchers to focus on understanding female responsiveness, Kinsey & Hite, have been ignored. They concluded that female orgasm arises primarily from women’s solitary masturbatory...
01 January 1970 276 0 View
01 January 1970 768 0 View
When I was first asked to speak to groups of academics in sexology, I was surprised that I was not supported through the process. I was not invited to discuss my work with the professors in...
01 January 1970 672 0 View
My work includes highlighting that sexologists have ignored the research findings relating to sexual response. Kinsey concluded that men are much more sexually responsive than women. Hite...
01 January 1970 6,524 0 View
I assumed that sexologists had research findings to support their theories about female responsiveness. Frankly, I find it astounding and almost criminal that women are told that they should be...
01 January 1970 1,248 0 View
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01 January 1970 8,585 8 View
Female orgasm is about providing women's pleasure - NOT men's! Yet it is men who insist on it, thereby causing the modern sexual dysfunction in women when there is nothing wrong with them....
01 January 1970 5,169 0 View
A come-on is provided by a sexually experienced woman who understands how male arousal works. Given women’s sexual passivity, most men look for some sign of encouragement. Some men are also...
01 January 1970 4,389 0 View
I have concluded that it is because they are not constantly aroused by the physical presence of men.
01 January 1970 7,505 8 View
01 January 1970 4,936 2 View
01 January 1970 9,974 0 View
Women are clearly not aroused by real-world erotic turn-ons as men are. No one can name any female turn-ons. Only the male view of sexuality is promoted. Women's focus on emotional stimuli with a...
01 January 1970 3,721 0 View
Sexologists focus on presenting female sexual anatomy as evidence for female orgasm. The thinking is that if women have sexual anatomy (such as the clitoris that is clearly the equivalent of the...
01 January 1970 2,710 0 View
People seem to be under the impression that someone somewhere said that cunnilingus causes female orgasm. Neither Kinsey nor Hite confirmed this. They were the only researchers brave enough to...
01 January 1970 7,870 0 View
I am challenging porno orgasms that porno actresses pretend to have. Men want to believe that women are pleasured through stimulation that they supply. So they think real women should respond in...
01 January 1970 7,923 2 View
There is a belief that sexuality must include sexual responsiveness – that is the ability to experience erotic arousal and orgasm. But, in fact, responsiveness is clearly a characteristic of male...
01 January 1970 9,332 0 View
I can explain exactly how I achieve orgasm. I can explain the erotic turn-ons I use for arousal, the specific anatomy involved and the stimulation technique. I have concluded that the erotic...
01 January 1970 3,184 0 View
Some boys have a porn stash that they have to hide from their mothers or girlfriends. I have kept a collection of erotic novels throughout my adult life. I didn’t use them when I first discovered...
01 January 1970 4,588 0 View
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01 January 1970 1,397 0 View
Even a man cannot orgasm from stimulation over which he has no control. So a woman can never orgasm from intercourse, which depends on a man’s responses of erection and ejaculation. It’s as if...
01 January 1970 4,821 0 View
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01 January 1970 6,597 2 View
Millions of women who assume there's something wrong with them because of a few bogus orgasm claims. The research has made it very clear that women mistake orgasm with a lover. They assume that...
01 January 1970 2,605 0 View
When I ask people to explain the old wives’ tales about sexuality that define popular beliefs, no one has anything to say. When I ask women to explain porno orgasms (those orgasms that men think...
01 January 1970 4,449 0 View
01 January 1970 3,990 0 View
I suggest that men's territorial instincts cause sex to be portrayed as a male conquest rather than what it is - a conscious decision by a woman to please a man. "… the basic value of sex and...
01 January 1970 5,592 0 View
There is so much wrong with the sex information that is circulated on the internet and elsewhere that it is easier to suggest that people ignore it all. But most people cannot believe that...
01 January 1970 5,995 0 View
Sex is initiated by a man because the motivation for sexual contact comes from male responses. So sex makes little sense to women. Their role as the receiver of male ejaculate involves lying in...
01 January 1970 7,210 0 View
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Some women tell me that men are attracted to a woman who can cook. Others tell me that if science allowed men to have babies, they would want to have them as much as women do. Some women think men...
01 January 1970 1,350 0 View
01 January 1970 2,556 5 View
Over many years, I have found that only men comment on sexual pleasure and eroticism. Women talk of a loving relationship. This is a key difference between the sexes. Few women ever comment on...
01 January 1970 2,468 0 View
Women boast about orgasm. Men boast about their sexual opportunities, numbers of lovers & their ability to pleasure a lover. Women are using orgasm claims to enhance their attractiveness to...
01 January 1970 7,528 0 View
Sex education has always included advice on how to have a baby, how to avoid a baby and sexual disease. But why does no one discuss how a couple can maintain a sexual relationship over decades?...
01 January 1970 6,951 3 View
Why do women accept intercourse when it does so little for them? Women focus on rewards in the wider relationship including affectionate companionship, a subsidised lifestyle and support for...
01 January 1970 6,601 0 View
Despite all the hype linking vibrators and female sexual pleasure, there is no research to support the idea that anyone can orgasm by using a vibrating device. Men certainly do not use vibrators...
01 January 1970 6,810 0 View
I suggest that men are proactive due to their arousal. Women are sexually passive due to lack of arousal. Men assume that women are aroused as they are. So they think that physical stimulation...
01 January 1970 8,249 0 View
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01 January 1970 8,280 0 View
My work focuses on sexual response and explaining how and when female orgasm occurs. I provide a comprehensive explanation of human sexuality via my books (all of the content is available for free...
01 January 1970 4,871 4 View
01 January 1970 6,399 0 View
I can explain exactly how I achieve orgasm. I can explain the erotic turn-ons I use for arousal, the specific anatomy involved and the stimulation technique. Yet my experience has nothing in...
01 January 1970 8,784 7 View
Male erotic turn-ons are typically very evident. A man may refer to them. He may ask a partner to provide them. Men enjoy talking about what arouses them because such references are arousing in...
01 January 1970 3,086 4 View
I have found women to be abusive, angry and defensive when asked about orgasm. Silence is simply another way of not commenting on the reality of their sexuality. Men don't accept what women have...
01 January 1970 7,332 0 View
01 January 1970 5,796 0 View
One woman accused me of letting the side down. The implication is that women should boast about orgasm to prove that we are men’s equals. Equality doesn't mean that we are the same. There are two...
01 January 1970 4,007 0 View
The status quo evidently suits the majority of people otherwise there would be more motivation to change the shameful sexual ignorance that exists in every society. Most people cannot believe that...
01 January 1970 2,118 0 View
There are no facts, logic or research to support “porno orgasms” (those orgasms porno actresses appear to have with a lover). Yet women are told there is something wrong with them, if they don’t...
01 January 1970 5,916 0 View
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01 January 1970 7,450 0 View
When I was a young woman, I was surprised that other women had no interest in talking about any aspect of sexuality. It was never possible to compare notes on masturbation and responsiveness. Over...
01 January 1970 8,813 0 View
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Women have no experience of arousal so they cannot understand men's need for intercourse, which prevents them from being objective. Men want to believe that women enjoy intercourse as an act that...
01 January 1970 4,649 0 View
No one can explain the erotic turn-ons involved or even the specific anatomy and stimulation technique. Women are silent while men insist they are possible. Does no one else appreciate that there...
01 January 1970 3,383 0 View
01 January 1970 9,646 3 View
I suggest that men want to believe that sex involves men doing women a favour - rather than the reverse. The key reason that sex education and sex research are so unpopular is due to the conflict...
01 January 1970 2,708 0 View
By asking: “do you orgasm with a lover?”, researchers give women two options. If they say “yes”, they are categorised as sexually “normal”. If they say “no”, they are categorised as sexually...
01 January 1970 2,033 0 View
Sex is the physical act (sexual activity) whereas eroticism is the virtual representation of the same. Eroticism is any portrayal of sex that stops short of physical contact. Eroticism is a male...
01 January 1970 1,832 0 View
I provide a series of questions that challenge the sexual ignorance in the population that is so accurately reflected in the theories suggested by sexologists. I am sure that scientists will...
01 January 1970 2,020 7 View
01 January 1970 3,022 0 View
I have concluded it is because there is no alternative - comprehensive and authoratative sex education is non-existent! Apart from my websites nosper.com etc. of course! Please take a look!
01 January 1970 4,247 4 View
