Having a man love me and want to have sex with me is necessary to my happiness. It gives me a feeling of being worthwhile if I can turn a man on. (Shere Hite)
Thanks for your input but I'm not sure exactly what you mean. Are you agreeing with the fact that women respond emotionally rather than sexually in your experience? It is true the world over. Men talk of sex. Women talk of love.
I am sorry but I don't understand. You should use Google translate if English is not your first language. Men interpret sexual activity in erotic terms so they naturally assume that women experience sex the same way. But women respond to men with affection. They see sex in terms of male lovemaking. Men provide all the initiative and stimulation of sex.
This quote is funny to me because it's not necessary to my happiness. I don't need to turn a man on to feel worthwhile. These things are great and can add to happiness but not necessary.
Thanks Najma for commenting! I think as women we take it for granted that a man is aroused by our body. Male admiration is a given for an attractive woman. It must be confusing for men that women do not respond similarly to their bodies. I think men assume that women's affectionate response equates to arousal. Some people are much more insecure than others - women especially tend to lack confidence in their looks. Hence why women spend so much time and money on enhancing their attractiveness. I enjoyed being able to arouse my partner. It's just a shame that it doesn't work the other way around. I have concluded that women's arousal is largely subconscious. It is only by focusing on erotic fantasy that arousal is evident.
Accepting that women are motivated by emotional rewards can be difficult due to ingrained stereotypes and societal norms that portray women as less rational and more emotional. This perception can lead to bias, minimizing women's motivations and contributions. Additionally, traditional views on gender roles may prioritize logic and objectivity, creating resistance to recognizing emotional intelligence and motivation as valid and powerful drivers for women. Such challenges are rooted in broader cultural attitudes toward gender and emotion.
Sexual response is the most primitive response of the human body. It has nothing to do with culture, religion or attitudes. Sexual response is a characteristic of male reproductive function. The fact that some women are responsive when masturbating alone is a miracle. The mystery over female orgasm comes from ignoring the research findings (Kinsey and Hite) which clearly indicated that female orgasm is associated with clitoral stimulation and women's solitary masturbatory activities. It is clear that very few women masturbate to orgasm and hence female orgasm is extremely rare. But it is talked about a lot primarily by men but also by women who are selling sex to men - an easy task!
Chuck A Arize If it's due to "ingrained stereotypes and societal that portray women as less rational and more emotional" then it would be more easy to accept that women are motivated by emotional rewards.
I would say that these days people are less likely to believe that women are more emotional because feminism has drummed into the culture that we must not view women this way. Perhaps this is why it's difficult to accept that women are motivated by emotional rewards.
Thanks Najma for your support! I agree entirely. There has been a political movement based on the idea that for women to be equal to men we must be identical in all respects. We can be equal but still be different. Men are aroused erotically while women are not. So women equate their emotional experiences to what men are calling erotic arousal caused by erotic turn-ons and opportunities to penetrate a partner as a penetrating male. A woman never does this and so lacks many of the brain responses to stimuli that are relevant to men. There is no parallel instinct/desire/drive to be penetrated by a penis or any other object. Sex drive arises in the mind of the penetrating male. Women's minds response to emotional stimuli. Female orgasm is rare and only occurs when masturbating alone when a woman is responsive.
Thanks Mia for your support! The key reason for the continuing misunderstanding is that men cannot accept that women have not evolved to be nearly as sexually responsive as men. Men want to believe that women achieve emotional happiness through intercourse much as men do. This justifies men wanting intercourse from women. It is a political and emotional battle due to male sex drive. Men want regular intercourse from a female partner and so they have to promote intercourse as a female erotic pleasure. Some women also insist that to be equal women must be identical to men in every respect. Women's emotional drive to establish and maintain a loving relationship capable of supporting family life is quite as strong as male sex drive but longer in duration and more likely to be loyal to one partner.