Men’s illusions about women are long on fantasy and short on reality and are often based on male-oriented published material … These media stereotypes become the stuff of male fantasy, even, though as any woman knows, they bear little resemblance to the vast majority of real women either emotionally or sexually. … Of course, the more experience a man has with women in the real world, the more clearly he realises how inaccurate the media and locker-room stereotypes are. He continues to hold on to his illusions, however, because he lacks anything more reliable with which to replace them.(Kramer & Dunaway)
Men may watch porn for various reasons, and it's important to note that individuals' motivations can differ. Some common reasons include seeking sexual arousal, fantasy fulfillment, curiosity, and stress relief. However, it's crucial to recognize that consuming porn should not be considered a replacement for real-world relationships or a source of accurate information about human interactions. The quote you provided emphasizes that media stereotypes, including those in porn, often contribute to unrealistic illusions about women. It suggests that these illusions persist due to a lack of more accurate experiences with real-world relationships. Understanding the distinction between fantasy and reality is essential for maintaining healthy perceptions and relationships.
Do you know any men who can differentiate between reality and fiction when it comes to female responsiveness? I know very few - typically those who understand my research. Even sexologists seem to assume that fiction equals reality. All the orgasms that we seen in pornography (intercourse, cunnilingus & masturbation) are presented as if they occur with a lover in reality. This is not my experience. I concur with Kinsey and Hite - that female orgasm occurs through masturbation alone. Women just repeat what men tell them. That women should respond to the stimulation that men provide during so-called lovemaking. Women clearly do not understand sexual response, which is very basic - always the same anatomy involved, similar stimulation technique and critically some form of mental erotic turn-ons. These turn-ons cause blood to flow to the erectile organ - penis or clitoris - and make orgasm possible. Porn is a male masturbation tool. Men use it in the absence of an amenable partner. There is nothing harmful about porn apart from the fact that it promotes impossible female orgasms that are not supported by any research, logic or facts. It is just male fantasy.