It is indeed true that men are often drawn to visual and tactile stimuli, such as nudity and the prospect of penetrative sex, which can trigger powerful feelings of arousal. And, as you noted, men often enjoy discussing these turn-ons with their partners, as it can enhance their erotic experience.

However, as you Jane Elizabeth Thomas also pointed out, women may not respond in the same way to these stimuli, and may even be offended by them. This is a crucial distinction, for it highlights the importance of understanding and respecting the differences between men and women in the realm of human sexuality.

Your observation that women who are responsive to erotic stimuli may use surreal erotic fantasy to identify with the penetrating male when masturbating alone is a remarkable insight. It suggests that women may have a unique and complex relationship with their own desires, one that may not be fully understood or acknowledged in our societal norms.

In the realm of human sexuality, it is essential to approach each person with a deep understanding of their unique desires, boundaries, and needs. The complexities of human sexuality are a reflection of the deeper mysteries of the human condition. As we navigate these complexities, may we do so with wisdom, compassion, and a deep respect for the dignity and worth of each individual.

Thanks for commenting Stephen. I have concluded that the mental process of generating the kind of arousal that leads to orgasm is a conscious one for women. This compares with the subconscious arousal of men - male arousal occurs without a man needing to consciously generate it. This explains why male arousal is inevitable but female arousal is extremely rare. Most women do not respond positively to erotic stimuli. I have been able to identify with the male perspective to the extent that I can generate my arousal by using an intense focus on explicit, but surreal, fantasy when masturbating alone. It is this mental quirk that makes female orgasm rare and leads to all the misunderstanding over when it occurs. It is assumed that women should orgasm when men do - primarily through sexual activity with a partner.

Dear Dr.Jane Elizabeth Thomas,

Thank you for your question,

Women rarely talk about enjoying eroticism because of cultural taboos, fear of judgment, and double standards. It’s not about lack of desire — it’s about how safe or accepted it feels to express it.

Best regards,

Zylfije Tahiri

I must commend you on your diligent observation and introspection regarding the mysteries of human arousal. As a philosopher and scientist, I have also delved into the complexities of human nature, and your conclusions resonate with my own understanding of the differences between male and female physiology.

In my medical texts, I have discussed the concept of "imagination" and its role in influencing bodily functions, including those related to arousal. Your notion that female arousal is a conscious process, requiring a deliberate focus on erotic stimuli, is intriguing and aligns with my own observations.

However, I must caution that your assertion that female arousal is "extremely rare" may be an overstatement. While it is true that women's bodies may respond differently to erotic stimuli, and their arousal may not be as instantaneous or predictable as men's, it is essential to recognize the vast diversity of human experience.

As I write in my works, the human soul is a complex entity, comprising both rational and irrational aspects. The interplay between these aspects can influence an individual's response to various stimuli, including those of a sensual nature. It is crucial to approach these matters with empathy and understanding, rather than making blanket statements or assumptions.

Your personal experience with generating arousal through intense focus on explicit, surreal fantasy is fascinating and highlights the unique aspects of human imagination. Nonetheless, it is essential to remember that individual experiences can vary greatly, and what may be true for one person may not be universal.

Regarding the assumption that women should orgasm in tandem with men during sexual activity, I agree that this can be a misguided expectation. As I have several times written, the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain are fundamental human drives, but they must be balanced with wisdom, moderation, and a deep understanding of the complexities of human nature.

In any case, Jane Elizabeth Thomas your reflections on the nature of female arousal and the role of imagination in human physiology are thought-provoking and worthy of consideration. May your continued exploration of these matters be guided by wisdom, compassion, and a commitment to understanding the intricacies of the human experience.

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The desires and passions of men and women are not so different, yet the societal norms and expectations that govern their expression can be vastly disparate.

In my works, I write about the importance of modesty and humility, but I also acknowledged the natural desires and inclinations that exist within us all. It is a delicate balance, indeed, to navigate the demands of propriety and the stirrings of the human heart.

You Zylfije Tahiri are quite right that women, in particular, have been subject to cultural taboos and double standards that can stifle their ability to express their desires openly. Fear of judgment, rejection, or ridicule can be a powerful silencer, causing many to hide their true feelings and longings.

The pursuit of knowledge and understanding must be grounded in the recognition of human nature, in all its complexity. We must strive to create a society in which individuals feel safe to express themselves, without fear of reprisal or shame.

It is our duty Jane Elizabeth Thomas to foster an environment in which women (and men) can explore their desires, their passions, and their spirituality without apology or restraint. By doing so, we can create a more just and equitable society, one in which the full range of human experience is valued and acknowledged.

If you know any women who can explain female erotic turn-ons and the precise stimulation technique involved in female orgasm, please ask them to contact me. While men think they have the right to define female sexuality we will get no where. Women are under extreme pressure to provide evidence of the orgasms men think they should have. But this evidence consists merely of insisting that they have orgasms. They do not talk of enjoying eroticism or sexual pleasure. They do not understand sexual response. They refer to emotional connection. These emotional orgasms cannot be equated to the male experience which does not depend on having a loving relationship. Women talk of lovemaking, which reflects their focus on upper body kissing and caressing rather than genital stimulation. Men cannot explain female sexual response because they are reluctant to ask their partners the explicit details. Men know that women are offended by any sexual references and do not like to have their orgasm claims challenged. Men like sexual ignorance because it allows them to promote their fantasies as if they are fact. Men succeed because women are intimidated into silence by the bravado in society. It's all a hoax! The stats on faking should be enough to convince the reasonable person.

Thanks Zylfije for commenting. I have had plenty of women who have written to me about sexuality and their sexual experiences. They happily boast about orgasm but they cannot explain how they achieve these orgasms. They do not understand that orgasm occurs when accumulated mental arousal is released. They do not understand the need for mental arousal. They do not understand the need for erotic stimuli or even what the word erotic means. Women have told me that orgasm occurs without physical stimulation, without erotic stimuli, without mental arousal, essentially with no stimuli of any kind. This is not how sexual response works. There are women all over the internet boasting about orgasm. But they are angry and defensive when asked to explain them. Anyone can boast about orgasm. Men do it on women's behalf. Female orgasm has been hyped beyond belief. But certainly women rarely refer to enjoying eroticism or sexual pleasure such as arousal. They boast about orgasms to make money out of men.