Another important reason why women fake their orgasm is the fear of upsetting their partner. Many men anxiously insist that the woman must have satisfaction. (Rachel Swift)
Some women feign/fake orgasm just to please their weak spouse. They understand that men feel good when praised that they are good in bed, hence faking
I think it is a more complex issue than you imply. Men are not weak. They want to be reassured that their lovemaking pleases a woman. Unfortunately, the word "orgasm" has been coined to encapsulate this pleasure. In truth, women look for emotional rewards with a lover. But men cannot accept that women respond so differently to how men respond. Women are emotional. Men are sexual. Every man feels good when told that he is good in bed.
Jane Elizabeth Thomas perhaps this comment of yours about men being sexual and women being emotional is too sexist, besides of course being not very correct. Moreover, who says women don't feel the need for sexual gratification?! If what you said was the case, then something called "sexual pleasure" or "orgasm" shouldn't even exist in women!
But I got your point. You are referring to the stereotypes of extreme (toxic) masculinity (womanizer; mostly sexual urges in misogynistic relationships) as well as extreme (toxic) femininity (the frigid gold digger, just faking intimacy in relationships to get goals/resources).
In any case, women faking orgasms has multiple reasons, only one of which is to ensure the man is happy. Besides, it is not MEN who want to do their actions right, regardless of their action. ANY human (man or woman) would be happy if they do something positive and see the pleasant result of their positive action. This has nothing to do to the BED or manhood!
1. Reward of action: If a person (man and woman) does something good for any other person or even to an innocent animal and gets a sincere "thanks" in response, he will be glad for doing something good. This thanks shouldn't be always expressed directly. Sometimes, it is the happiness in the face of the receiver of the action that means the gratitude. So it doesn't need to be in bed for men; men don't line to be good in bed only; men like to be good in anything they do; women are like this TOO. Women get happy when they see the food they have cooked is delicious and their man is eating it up eagerly.
2. Like it or not, orgasm matters. Reaching an orgasm is the PEAK of sexual satisfaction, even in the most frigid women. So if a woman doesn't reach an orgasm, the man might get upset that his partner didn't experience the peak.
3. Technically, women CAN fake an orgasm because there is no way to catch them faking. Obviously, men can't; otherwise rest assured men too would fake it at many points.
4. Some people (both men and women) are by nature, manipulative liars. For women, faking orgasm and inducing false intimacy (for future plans like gold digging) is a good method of manipulation.
5. To ensure their man is happy, while they are not in a mood to reach orgasm.
6. To wrap it up!, when the woman doesn't feel for sex but for any reason is doing it. This way, she can say OK I climaxed, so it's finished! :D
7. etc.
As a woman who has never had one of these orgasms we see in pornography, I struggle to understand your points. It would be helpful if men stopped theorising and women came forward with some first-hand experiences of orgasm. Why don't you ask your partner? I am asking WOMEN about the erotic turn-ons involved in their orgasms, the specific anatomy and the stimulation technique. Of course, as a heterosexual man, you could ask you partner these questions. I suspect you know that you would not obtain meaningful answers. But before you give your own opinions, you should also check the research. There is no research to support the idea that women orgasm with a partner.
Jane Elizabeth Thomas you are saying only women can give you good answers about women's orgasm. That's very incorrect.
There is no need for first-hand experience. This topic is already well-documented. There are thousands of books/articles written on female sexuality by sexologists through studying hundreds or thousands of women per study.
Men can read!
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Even AI knows the answer to your question! Google Gemini:
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There are several reasons why women fake orgasms, and it can be a complex issue. Here's a breakdown of some common factors:
Pressure and Communication:
- Ego Boost: Faking an orgasm can be a way to reassure a partner and protect their ego. Sometimes there's a fear of hurting their feelings if they haven't "performed well."
- Lack of Communication: Open communication about sex and what feels good is essential. Without it, women might feel unsure how to guide their partner or ask for what they need, leading them to fake an orgasm to avoid the awkwardness.
Emotional Factors:
- Insecurity: Women may worry being unable to orgasm makes them unattractive or undesirable. Faking it can be a way to mask these insecurities and feel more in control.
- Fear of Rejection: Some women fear their partner will be less interested in them if they don't orgasm. This can be especially true in new relationships.
Experience and Knowledge:
- Unrealistic Expectations: Societal portrayals of sex can be unrealistic and focus on the quick, dramatic female orgasm. This can lead to disappointment and women feeling like they're failing if they don't experience something similar.
- Lack of Self-Knowledge: Women may not fully understand their own bodies and what turns them on. This can make it difficult to communicate their needs or guide their partner for a satisfying experience.
Other Reasons:
- Boredom or Discomfort: Faking an orgasm can be a way to end sex quickly if it's boring, uncomfortable, or painful.
- External Factors: Tiredness, stress, or distractions can all make it harder for a woman to orgasm. Faking it can be a way to enjoy some intimacy without the pressure to achieve orgasm.
Important to Note:
- Faking orgasms can be detrimental to a relationship in the long run. It can lead to frustration, a lack of intimacy, and difficulty achieving real orgasms.
- Honest communication is key. Partners should feel comfortable discussing their needs and desires to create a more fulfilling sexual experience.
If you're concerned about faking orgasms in your own relationship, consider talking to a therapist or counselor specializing in sexual health. They can help you and your partner develop healthier communication patterns and explore ways to improve your sexual satisfaction.
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/study-most-women-fake-orgasms-but-why/
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fake_orgasm
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https://www.nbcnews.com/id/wbna38006774
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https://www.byquanna.com/blogs/qurious-club/5-reasons-why-women-fake-orgasms
*image from Wikipedia from ABC News 2004:
https://abcnews.go.com/images/Politics/959a1AmericanSexSurvey.pdf
Sure but that information has to come from women. Men are only observers of women's behaviours. They do not know what is going on inside a woman's head. That is why men cannot name even one female erotic turn-on. There are none. But men don't even ask their partner what arouses them. If they did, they would realise that women talk of emotional rewards with a lover rather than erotic arousal. No arousal = no orgasm.
Jane Elizabeth Thomas you said:
"men cannot name even one female erotic turn-on"
"men don't even ask their partner what arouses them"
"men are sexual"
"Many men anxiously insist that the woman must have satisfaction."
etc.
Your very negative bias towards men interests me. Anyways, I see you are not from a scientific background and apparently can't appreciate a scientific answer --otherwise, you would get your answer from multiple studies I posted. Instead, you seem to prefer directionless chitchats about how men's insecurity or ignorance force poor women to fake orgasm! ;)
So I'm out of this discussion since it is not scientific. You should satisfy your urge to gossip not on ResearchGate but on yellow pages.
Most of my supporters are male. They have congratulated me on my sex-positive explanations for sexual response. They have admired my courage in talking about a topic no one else can discuss explicitly. I would appreciate it if you could stop using my discussions to promote your own work. You clearly cannot provide the information about female sexuality that you infer I am criticising men for. Men can't provide the information because women themselves don't know. Your defensiveness means you won't ever learn anything about women's sexuality. You need courage to ask the unpopular questions. That is the role of scientists - to challenge the status quo.
I provide hundreds of articles and quotations for the sex research to discuss all the topics that I am raising. I am using these questions to highlight that the general level of sex education in the general population and even among the scientific community is very low to non-existent. Please see Nosper.com which is the gateway to all my websites, books and detailed research.