Jane, I can see what you are doing but women-s arousal can and often is evident and they communicate it by often engaging in numerous relationships and affairs. It is visible during lovemaking.

But why do you distrust women so much?

In 20 years of asking women about sex and orgasm, very few are willing to comment. Men are much more interested in female arousal and orgasm than women ever are. If you know even one woman who is willing to comment, please ask her to contact me! Why are you so convinced by what a few women say? Why do men marry if sex is so widely available from single women? You cannot explain how women are aroused, let alone orgasm. What erotic turn-ons cause female arousal? What anatomy is involved in female orgasm? Women talk of love and romance. Research shows that women respond to intercourse because a man makes them feel sexually desirable, because of the emotional and other rewards they obtain in exchange and because they feel obligated. Women rarely refer to sexual pleasure or enjoying eroticism. They see these as part of male sexuality. They believe that orgasm occurs without erotic stimuli, without arousal and without physical stimulation. They only need emotional connection. That doesn't sound like the same sexual urges and responses that men are talking about to me. Please desist from promoting your ego & fantasies!

You are strange people, Tourmalays and Russians, who often use this word in St. Petersburg, don't I really deserve a like?

Jane I asked one partner who said it was like a shot of excitement, and no i cannot give you her name and contact details as she now hates me because I took that excitement away and gave it to another.

Jane times have changed and female experiences are now preferenced and women feel more free to express their experiences. But honestly your own blindness seems evident in your belief that the experience of sex dominates in all male and female relationships and there are no other experiences.

Why don't you go elsewhere then? I can't please everyone. Nor can I convince people of truths they don't want to hear. There is no sex education in our society or honest sexual discussions. I am trying to provide some. But men seem to think they have a right to comment on female sexuality. They don't think it odd that women almost never comment on the topic.

How can anyone believe that women are aroused as easily as men are?

The mechanisms of sexual arousal in men and women differ. The main differences include:

These differences can create problems in a relationship. Men are sometimes straightforward in their sexual desires and may not consider their partner's needs. Constant sexual hunger hinders the development of a culture of intimate relationships.

Women are more likely to view sex as part of a relationship, paying attention to the partner's personality and foreplay. Men are more focused on appearance. In patriarchal societies, sex is often the goal for men and the means for women.

Today, in a post-patriarchal world, these attitudes are changing. Women are becoming more open about sexual issues, and their social roles are becoming more masculine. This demonstrates how culture influences the formation of arousal mechanisms.

If you know any women willing to discuss sexual response, please ask them to contact me! I have found very few women willing to comment. Men, however, think they know all there is to know about female sexuality. Alfred Kinsey pointed out decades ago (1948-1953) that women are much less sexually responsive than men. Female orgasm is associated with clitoral stimulation and women's solitary masturbatory activities. But men want intercourse, so heterosexual women are obliged to supply it if they want a relationship with a man. The 2 minutes required is not onerous when a woman is in love and a man is dedicated to spending time with her. But over decades, even two minutes becomes a chore. We can see from the male experience that arousal mechanisms do not change over time. Men are aroused by a partner's nudity and opportunities for penetrative sex as the penetrating male. Women are not aroused with a lover. No one can name even one female erotic turn-on. Responsive women, who masturbate to orgasm, use explicit erotic fantasies to achieve arousal when alone.