Men are aroused by erotic turn-ons. The excitation in the brain, which responds to erotic stimuli (for a responsive person), causes blood to be sent to the genitals. This causes tumescence of the genital structures but particularly the erectile phallus - clitoris or penis. Being in love and feeling affection do not cause arousal and hence cannot cause orgasm. Women mistake emotional and sensual feelings during so-called lovemaking for what men call erotic arousal and orgasm. Women show zero interest in any erotic turn-ons and specific genital stimulation. Many women cannot even say the word sex. Those women who talking about sex in public are making money from promoting male fantasies and enhancing female attractiveness in the eyes of men. There is ZERO research to prove that women ever orgasm by any means with a lover. Both Kinsey, Hite and Basson (among others) have concluded that orgasm is not critical to female satisfaction. Indeed orgasm is not critical to male satisfaction either. It is just a load of hype because women are much less enthusiastic about sex than men. Men are seeking emotional reassurance that their so-called lovemaking is welcome.