Surveys have revealed that 75% of men ejaculate within 2 minutes of penetration. (Anthony Mason)
Foreplay has been marketed as a modern phenomenon. But Kinsey talked of it well before anyone knew about the clitoris. He found that only more educated or imaginative men offer foreplay. The vast majority of men focus solely on intercourse. Kinsey found these men have higher intercourse frequencies because they only take up 2 minutes of a woman's time. A man who wants to extend his own arousal through foreplay expects a partner to invest considerably longer. This explains why these men get less sex.
While Kinsey was a long time ago and his work was instrumental to present awareness, this was only in the West and a consequence of the public puritanism of the 19th century. For a long while, female sexual experience was negated and held by some not to truly exist. But this was only for a specific and short period (see Foucault on how female sexuality was controlled and denied). Shakespeare knew. Romeo and Juliet concerns female sexual satisfaction.
A common joke before WW2 was the man acting in the selfish fashion common then of achieving satisfaction and indifferent to his lover who complains and he suggests she starts before him. It's all in the telling!
I agree that men think they know it all. Women lack confidence in their sexual experiences due to their lack of arousal and consequent passive role. Men are acutely conscious of their sexual arousal and sex drive so they dominate sexual relationships. A woman looks for emotional rewards including romantic love but also the political and financial benefits that men offer to women who provide them with regular intercourse. Kinsey's work is as relevant today as it ever was. Sexuality does not change over decades. Just because women now have reliable contraception men have the impression that women want intercourse as men do. Men are missing the fact that they need to invest in satisfying women's emotional needs.
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