Jean Elizabeth Thomas,

Your question mixes several issues. The way it is phrased suggests that a woman’s worth is judged solely through male behavior after casual sex, which is a problematic assumption.

So, the issue is not that “men don’t respect a reckless woman,” but rather that some men lack the maturity to take responsibility for their choices, and instead shift their discomfort onto others. The problem lies in their behavior, not in your dignity.

The woman's quote makes it clear that she blames the men for their behaviour. She has tried to ignore their insults. But women do not tend to behave in the same way towards promiscuous men. It is expected perhaps. My question is why do men insult women who are promiscuous? It is clear why women would not like prostitutes, for example, because they represent a threat to their own relationship with a man. But why do men disrespect prostitutes? It seems that a man expects a woman to be pleasured by his penis alone. He wants to feel that his lovemaking is special. This is the emotional bonding effect. This leads to the dual standard that is set by men. They expect the right to have sexual freedom themselves but do not allow women the same right. This is not a logical situation. It is an emotional one.

Jane Elizabeth,

The issue you raise is real in exposing the double standard: men demand freedoms for themselves while denying women the same. But this is not only about emotion or ego—it is the result of a long history where religious and executive powers were manipulated to reinforce male dominance. Across centuries, many men not only followed their desires but went further: they distorted divine teachings and interpreted them to serve their own appetites, reducing women to bodies and reshaping laws to tilt in their favor.

• You are right that women often blame men for their behavior, but the deeper injustice is that men claim sexual freedom for themselves while punishing women for the same choice. This transforms intimacy from partnership into control.
• As for your question—why do men insult promiscuous women, or prostitutes?—it is because many men see themselves as the sole measure of value. They want their pleasure to feel “exclusive,” and for the woman to be bound only to them. This is not love or bonding; it is selfishness masked as culture.
• You also noted that women do not treat promiscuous men the same way. Exactly—because this is not a natural truth, but a socially constructed one. Societies have taught that a man’s sexual transgression is a “conquest,” while a woman’s is “shame.” Yet this double standard does not come from true religion. In Islam, for example, adultery is equally forbidden for men and women; the responsibility is the same. It was later distortions—driven by men in power—that created this imbalance.
• At the same time, fairness requires acknowledging that women also bear some responsibility when they accept being reduced to their bodies, or when they submit to an unjust framework without challenging it. True freedom is not just rejecting constraints—it is building the moral and intellectual ground that forces society to respect women as mothers, sisters, daughters, colleagues, and full human beings.

So the “double standard” you describe is actually the outcome of shared corruption: men who exploited authority and twisted faith and law, and women who at times accepted this reduction of their dignity. The correct religious perspective, however, restores balance: dignity and respect are unconditional human rights, and guilt in casual encounters is shared by both men and women, not carried by one side alone.

In the end, the disrespect directed at “sexually independent women” says far less about the women themselves and far more about the weakness of men and the failure of entire systems that strayed from the true spirit of faith and ethics.

Thanks for your support Osama! This contradiction in men's behaviour, where they want women to be enthusiastic about sex but condemn female promiscuity, is about emotional responses. There is no logic as such. It's about understanding a man's view of himself as being the key agent in sexual activity. He is correct. But erotic fiction and male propaganda tends to imply that women want sex as much as men do. The truth is that men have to date women or hassle them to provide the frequency of sex that men want. This is natural given men's sex drive. A woman doesn't need sex at all and this explains why society does not encourage female promiscuity because it leads to high rates of abortion and teenage mothers raising children alone. A woman ideally needs to identify a man who will be loyal to her beyond a one-night stand. But the pill has allowed inexperienced women to play the field as a form of sexual bravado. Most of this behaviour soon dies as they learn that sex is primarily a male pleasure.