Not for gay men though. They can just go to the bathroom and do it. They don't need any prelude to sex. Most women are looking for a relationship rather than sex itself. So they prefer a man who is interested in them.

The function of dating and romance extends beyond mere companionship; it plays a crucial role in human emotional and social development. Dating serves as a foundation for building intimate relationships, where individuals learn about each other's personalities, values, and life goals. It is a process of mutual discovery that helps partners assess compatibility and build trust.

Romance, on the other hand, adds a layer of emotional depth and connection to a relationship. Romantic gestures and expressions of love foster a sense of closeness and affection, reinforcing the emotional bond between partners. Romance can act as a catalyst for deeper emotional intimacy, making partners feel valued, cherished, and understood.

In terms of gender perspectives, as highlighted by Kramer & Dunaway, men often feel good as a result of having sex, while women generally prefer to feel emotionally connected before engaging in sex. This difference underscores the importance of emotional readiness and connection in romantic relationships. For women, feeling emotionally secure and loved can enhance their sexual experience, making it more fulfilling.

Moreover, dating and romance contribute to personal growth. They teach individuals how to communicate effectively, resolve conflicts, and navigate the complexities of human emotions. These experiences shape one's ability to form and maintain healthy relationships throughout life.

In essence, dating and romance are fundamental aspects of human interaction that facilitate emotional bonding, personal growth, and the establishment of meaningful and lasting connections.

How do you explain that gay men just meet in a bar and head for the men's room to have sex? Do men really want to spend days or weeks waiting to have sex with an attractive partner? Personally I doubt it. Women need time to assess a man's motives in approaching her. She is looking for a relationship more often than a one-night stand. Men want sex. Women want companionship, affection and personal commitment.

Jane, in USA a great number of women act the same way and I've known many as well in the UK. Its an attitude not a gender condition. Otherwise, the relationship prognosis also here exists in some societies but far fewer in the West. A Canadian comedienne, Kathreen Ryan, is open about her sexual practices which she declares are like a man's. Sexual activity is spontaneous and at the drop of a hat. Sorry, but many women are like that as they have less risk nowadays of being called names. Tinder, etc, makes coition anonymous and for some more exciting and fulfilling. STDs are less vigorous because of new treatments. In Victorian times thousands of men and women died horribly from sexually transmitted diseases.

A celebrity couple in America, the husband a top baseball player if I remember, divorced recently because his wife, a top model, had affairs before and throughout their marriage. Many top Hollywood female stars were the same engaging in such behaviour throughout the early 20th century, read up on Clara Bow. In fact, nearly all of them. As with men, it may just be energy levels and physical attributes not the dictates of gender.

The moral agenda of sexual behavior was set up by the sexually unadventurous and unlucky.

I see no evidence that women want sex for arousal and orgasm. I have not found a single woman who can explain the erotic turn-ons, anatomy and stimulation technique involved in these orgasms men presume women have. If you know any women willing to be explicit, please ask them to contact me. Perhaps you could ask the women in your life to divulge these secrets? I am not the only person with the means of researching this topic. Why do men believe the impossible? Stimulation is only useful up to orgasm and not beyond. It is not possible for women to orgasm from intercourse because it ends with male orgasm. Women seem to believe that sex toys or a penis can give them an orgasm. The sexual ignorance is monumental. The clitoral glans does not have the erectile tissue required to produce a sexual response.

Gay men can get sex without relationship commitment since they articulate the sexual transaction that will occur between the counterparts, and negociate. They fear less the risk of being forced and the consequences that might occur. Women know that in any purely sexual encounter, they risk more: pregnancy or std outcome or in case of violence, pain, trauma and physiological enlasting consequences. They also are made more aware of the risk due to society and family pressure, culture (books, films) or personal experience. Some gay adult men are also aware, but do not feel at risk, unless they already have been victims. If women were facing less risks (and it shows in societies such as France where abortion, contraception, free accessible healthcare is provided and where the social norms on female sexual freedom are more loose), they would probably be more prone to sexual encounters only. On the emotional level, though, both sexes may wish to have intimate secure relationships. Gay men tend to get more easily then ever before the possibility to build couples, emotionnaly secure bonds, while maintaining the sexually free encounters. Heterosexual men who have the know-hows on dating and romance tend to build couples and if not satisfied, cheat more easily due to dating apps. Women are looking for safe partners and both sexes are increasingly using counselling to be able to maintain sex life and emotional intimacy in long-lasting relationships. Hence the development of the love coaching and sexology market, the social science studies on dating and mating, and psychological research development on trauma bond and how dating and relationships are a way to identify those issues (codependancy) and also deal with them to improve quality of dating and romance.

Men are looking directly for sex. Women are looking for a loving relationship involving affection and loyalty. Dating allows a woman to assess a man's longer-term commitment to a relationship. A man is just looking for the next sexual opportunity. Some men can be highly committed. Others are highly promiscuous. There is a range as in everything to do with sexuality.