No one can name even one female erotic turn-on. So they are not having orgasms with a lover. The research clearly associates female orgasm with clitoral stimulation and women's solitary masturbatory activities. Many researchers have concluded that women enjoy emotional (rather than erotic) rewards with a lover. Men talk of sex but women talk of love. Certainly, men talk of female orgasm much more often and more explicitly than women ever do. Some women assume they orgasm just because they engage in intercourse. Women's ignorance of sexual response is clear. Arousal and orgasm occur when the brain responds to eroticism, which most women dislike. So they are not having orgasms by any means.

• Hi.
• 1. What you call an internal phallus, I would simply call a vagina. Some also believe that the clitoris is a failed phallus. It is simply a clitoris and not something failed.
• 2. I believe that the idea that men become aroused by more stimuli and more quickly is purely a political, social, and cultural construct. Women can become sexually aroused vaginally just by having an image or desire in their mind, just like men.
• 3. Arousal is not only caused by stimulation of the clitoris, but also by the excitation of the vaginal walls, through contact with the penis or, as I say, mentally, leading to orgasm.
• Thank you

Every foetus has a phallus, which becomes either the penis or the clitoris. So the clitoris is equivalent to the penis. Men always seek stimulation of the penis - during intercourse, masturbation and fellatio. Women masturbate by stimulating the clitoris - please see Kinsey & Hite's work from decades ago. The fact that women do not identify with clitoral stimulation is evidence that they do not masturbate to orgasm. The clitoris does not respond with a lover because women are not aroused by real-world erotic triggers as men are. If you have ever been with a man, you will know that men are aroused in anticipation of intercourse as women are not. Intercourse is purely a mating act for women, who are receivers of male ejaculate. A woman assumes a passive role involving waiting for a man to ejaculate. This explains the success of human reproduction - men are proactive while women are passive. Can you name even one female erotic turn-on?

Jane Elizabeth Thomas May be there is a proto phallus in the foetus which becomes a pennis in boys, but when it becomes a clitoris it is not more a phallus, it is a clitoris.

It has a different function: it does not want to penetrate a vagina nor to pee nor to ejaculate.

Women can be excited in different forms: nipples, clitoris, skin, ears, mouth, vagina to the bottom, anal arousal, etc. And mental of course. Women are not passive, they are receptive which is different (and men also, sometimes, why not). Sometimes is the woman who needs a penetration urgently without preambles at all. Sometimes everything is in her mind. Babies are not passive neither. Passivity does not exist. Everything is in a continuous activity. Moving. Alive. Only dead people and things can be passive.@

Sexual passivity involves allowing the other person to provide all the physical stimulation of a sexual relationship. It involves giving permission for a man to use the receivers body to enjoy the pleasures a man enjoys from penetration. Human reproduction depends on male proactive behaviour of obtaining intercourse and (ideally) a woman giving her consent. Consent is core to women's sexual rights. Consent reflects the different rewards that the penetrating male and the receiver obtain from intercourse. The function of the male and female phallus is to become tumescent in response to mental arousal, causing instinctive stimulation of the phallus to cause orgasm. Sexual response is a characteristic of male reproductive function. The only reason that women are capable of orgasm is because they also have a phallus. But it is internal and therefore largely ignored by women. Women also do not respond to the same kind of erotic triggers that arouse men so that they are rarely conscious of any mental arousal. A responsive woman has to focus on erotic fantasies during masturbation alone to reach orgasm. Women enjoy sensual and emotional pleasure with a lover.

@Jane Elizabeth Thomas To say "sexual passivity" is a contradiction in terms. It can't be both sexual and passive. I agree that a woman should consent to penetration, but when she does, she does so actively. Being sexually aroused enough to have intercourse means that a woman is erotically and mentally active. And another thing: not every woman needs to masturbate to reach orgasm. That's a generalization: she may or may not want to masturbate. Consentir la penetración es estar activamente alerta en cuanto a tus derechos.

So what male anatomy do you stimulate? What male turn-ons do you offer? Do you offer fellatio or masturbation by hand? Do you offer different positions for intercourse? If you do any of these things, you are either being paid or you are encouraging male orgasm to speed up sex. Or do you just lie there and leave all the genital stimulation to a man? Do you leave a man to initiate intercourse? Do you leave it up to him to put his penis into your vagina? Do you allow him to stimulate you through foreplay or do you avoid letting him stimulate you? You need to be explicit if you want to be credible. You appear to be unaware of the research that has been done. Before Kinsey it was not generally known that women are capable of orgasm. But he highlighted that female orgasm is associated with direct manual clitoral stimulation and female masturbation. So if you are not masturbating, you have not discovered orgasm. This is why women talk of loving relationships.

• @Jane Elizabeth Thomas First of all I don't understand your questions at all. Are you asking me which part of male anatomy I stimulate or what male stimuli I offer—oral sex or manual masturbation—whether I pay for sex or get paid, or if I engage in prostitution or if I encourage male orgasm to speed up sex or if I leave it up to him to put his penis into my vagina or if I allow him to stimulate me through foreplay or if I avoid letting him stimulate me? I don’t understand what kind of question are these. But I’ll try to be explicit: I don’t know what kind of literature you are reading but it is clear that YOU NEED TO READ SOMETHING TO KNOW YOUR OWN BODY AND YOUR OWN FEELINGS. You should understand that each woman has different needs: I don’t know which are yours and I’m not interested to know your needs. In my case, you can be sure that I’m not what you say I am, and I don’t need to do those things you say to have an orgasm. Sexual intercourse is something that two people do TOGETHER. They just have to let themselves go. I DON’T LIKE MASTURBATION. I don’t like prostitution. I just like to let my body and my mind FEEL: sometimes I’m the first to begin because I’m already mentally excited, as if I am “illuminated”, like an animal. For example. I throw myself on my guy and just with my movements, I encourage him to penetrate me deeply into my vagina, quickly. This excites him a lot. Then I reach orgasm right there, with my clitoris in contact with his phallus, feeling also my anus, and my whole body excited. Fluid comes out of my vagina and the guy has his orgasm also. We both move a lot and and sweat. And all of this happens in 5 minutes. I don’t know if this enough for you or if you need more vivid explanations. I don’t know Dr. Kinsley. I don’t want to know him. Or her.

If you don't like masturbation it is because you haven't discovered orgasm. Research indicates that female orgasm is associated with direct manual clitoral stimulation and female masturbation. So you have never had an orgasm. Women don't masturbate if they are unresponsive. They do not respond positively to eroticism. I am asking you about the PROACTIVE behaviours you use with a lover. Because you insist that women are not PASSIVE. The male is proactive and the female is passive. But you are questioning this biological fact. Even in plants, but also in animals, the male is always the proactive agent in reproduction. You are promoting ignorance and an unwillingness to inform yourself of the facts. I suggest you go elsewhere.