The point is that women obtain emotional rewards from providing a man with his orgasm. They have no interest in the genital stimulation, which might cause their own orgasm. This is because women are not aroused with a lover. No one can name any female erotic turn-ons. Women enjoy upper body kissing and caressing. Above all women value affection and caring behaviours in a lover. This is why they refer to lovemaking rather than sex.

Emotional control is different for each person. I wonder if he really has a gender. Each person reacts differently in the sexual act, some people try to get closer to what the other person feels and in fact leave their own emotions in the background, others need to be at the center of the relationship and do everything to be satisfied without worrying about how their partner feels.

Thanks Veronique for commenting! Women have an advantage over men because of men's need for regular sexual contact. By offering sex, women obtain men's financial and moral support. Sex becomes a bargaining chip in relationships because it is the one thing that men want from women. Women want love and men want sex. It is the 'give and take' of heterosexual relationships that keeps men and women tied to each other over decades.