I have a few things I want to point out about this question. Firstly, on what do you base the claim that "no one" accepts this? In my view, it is pretty well known as a generalized distinction based on gender that women need more emotional connection than men do. It is also frequently featured as a trope in media productions and so on.

Secondly, on what grounds do you generalize the category "(most) women" in your question? Although I do accept that as a generalized distinction women often want more intimacy and connection, generalizations can also be essentializing and limiting. Women are different from each other and want and need different things. In the same sweep the question also generalize men as a group, who more often than many think also long for emotional connection.

For me, the issue is about communication. A person should communicate with their partner about what they need. Assuming that your partner need one thing or the other are both subpar solutions, as the best way to make everyone happy is to communicate what you want and ask what your partner want and need.

Thanks Oddmund for commenting! I have spent the last decade or so asking women about the erotic turn-ons that cause their arousal. I have not found a single woman who understands the concept that erotic stimuli can cause arousal - even in men. If you know anyone, male or female, who can explain how women achieve arousal, please ask them to contact me. Rosemary Basson pointed out that women think there is something wrong with them because they no longer have the orgasms they think they have when they are in love. I have masturbated to orgasm all of my adult life. I have not found another woman who understands that sexual response is not just about physical stimulation. I have concluded that female orgasm is extremely rare. It is an evolutionary redundancy in the female since orgasm is a characteristic of male reproductive function. This explains why pornography is censored worldwide. Women do not understand the pleasure of arousal.