It’s a common misconception that women are “unwilling” to discuss their erotic fantasies or mental arousal. Research and personal accounts show that many women are, in fact, open to discussing these aspects when they feel comfortable, respected, and free of judgment.

The reluctance some women may have around discussing sexual fantasies often stems from societal pressures, double standards, and outdated taboos surrounding female sexuality. Women have historically faced stigma for expressing interest in or enjoyment of sexuality, leading to lingering shame or discomfort about openly sharing these experiences. When these barriers are addressed—whether through supportive relationships, more open cultural conversations, or safe environments for self-expression—many women feel much freer to discuss their sexual preferences, arousal patterns, and fantasies openly.

María Herrera has answered it.

Strange then that I have not found a single woman who refers to any form of eroticism in a positive way. Nor have I found a woman who can describe one of her fantasies. On the other hand, many women are clearly shocked by any sexual reference. Presumably men are responsible for the censorship of sexual content in social media? But why then do men watch porn?

Rad Maythil Thank you for uplifting my voice and not allowing Jane to silence me. I truly appreciate your support. Women supporting women! 😊

Dear Jane Elizabeth Thomas

I am deep into a project right now.

I will return to this page asap. But before sigining off I want to tell you one thing. Although the opening sentence of Maria appears to contradict with the content of youe question, she and you are looking at the different sides of the same coin (to use a cliche). And so...

Dear María Herrera

I am a man supporting both you and Jane.

Apparent contradiction could be a sign that two statements are not necessarily contradictory. See you later.

I do not engage with people who bring negative attitudes to sexuality. Nor with people who have nothing constructive to say and who are uninformed. Many people think they know everything about sex when they have never read the research findings. They are basing their views on ignorance. I suggest you both take your uninformed views elsewhere. I have no time for them. You cannot answer any of the logical explanations that I present.