I can explain exactly how I achieve orgasm. I can explain the erotic turn-ons I use for arousal, the specific anatomy involved and the stimulation technique. Yet my experience has nothing in common with beliefs about female orgasm in our society! The belief (there is no research evidence) that women respond to the stimulation that men provide is more attractive to men (who attribute female orgasm to their own sexual prowess) and to women (who eulogise about lovemaking and prefer to leave any genital stimulation to men).