A turn-on is a real-world erotic trigger (such as a partner’s nudity or an opportunity for intercourse) that causes male arousal. Women are not aroused by such triggers. Responsive women use erotic fantasy to achieve the kind of arousal that leads to orgasm when alone. This mechanism allows a woman to adopt a male view on the imagined sexual scenario. An erotic turn-on is effective regardless of the intention of the person providing it (unlike a sexual come-on which is a sexual invitation).
The question and accompanying discussion seem to be based on a limited and somewhat outdated understanding of sexual arousal and turn-ons. It's important to recognize that sexual arousal and what constitutes an erotic turn-on are highly individual and vary greatly among people, regardless of gender.
The assertion that women are not aroused by real-world erotic triggers and that they exclusively use erotic fantasy to achieve arousal is a sweeping generalization that doesn't align with current sexual psychology understanding. Both men and women can be aroused by a range of stimuli, including physical, psychological, and contextual factors.
Moreover, the idea that women adopt a "male view" in their sexual fantasies is an oversimplification and can be misleading. Sexual fantasies and what individuals find erotic are deeply personal and cannot be neatly categorized into male or female perspectives.
In summary, erotic turn-ons are diverse and individualistic. They can involve physical stimuli, emotional connections, fantasies, and various other factors. It's critical to approach such topics with an open mind and an understanding of the complexities and variations in human sexuality.
So what turns women on? Can you name any female erotic turn-ons? So far, in many years of asking people this question, no one has been able to answer. They all supply emotional stimuli or refuse to comment. I am explaining that I use fantasy to masturbate alone - this is my experience. As a woman, I am talking explicitly about how I have experienced arousal & orgasm. Do you think it appropriate for a man to question a woman's experience of her own arousal? Perhaps I should start telling you how a man should experience arousal? Men have to stop telling women how their sexuality works and start listening!
Thank you for sharing your perspective and personal experiences. It’s clear that this topic is both complex and deeply personal, and I appreciate the opportunity to engage in a thoughtful discussion about it.
I want to clarify that my intent was never to invalidate or question your individual experiences. Sexual arousal and turn-ons are indeed highly individual, and everyone's experiences and preferences are valid. I respect and acknowledge that your experiences with arousal and orgasm are authentic and unique to you. Your insight adds valuable depth to the conversation.
The diversity of human sexuality means that there is a broad spectrum of ways people experience arousal and pleasure. My initial response was aimed at highlighting this diversity and the caution against overgeneralization. However, I understand now how my words might have seemed to overlook your personal narrative, which was not my intention.
I believe that a meaningful dialogue about sexuality benefits greatly from listening to a variety of experiences, including yours. Your point about the importance of not imposing views on others’ sexual experiences is well taken and is a reminder of the need for sensitivity and openness in these discussions.
I’m grateful for your candidness and for providing a perspective that challenges generalized views. It's conversations like these that enrich our understanding and help us learn from each other.
Thanks Michael for commenting. You still have not named any female erotic turn-ons. Surely if women were having orgasms, men would know what turns women on sexually? You have to appreciate that the only people who comment explicitly on sex are men. Most women refuse to comment and those who do are never explicit. They talk of loving relationships and emotional responses. They do not appear to understand the nature of sexual response. As a woman who has masturbated to orgasm all of her adult life, I am explaining that I have never experienced anything close with a lover. Nor have a found one single woman (over years of asking) who can explain these orgasms men think women have. I do not see how anyone can think female orgasm is common when only men talk about it. Women never refer to enjoying eroticism or sexual pleasure. These are all male domains.
Thank you for your response and for sharing your insights. I appreciate the depth and personal nature of your experiences, and I respect the perspective you bring to this conversation.
I understand that this is a subject with many layers and varied experiences. It's clear that there's a significant personal aspect to this topic, and everyone's journey with sexuality and understanding of it is unique.
I also recognize that the nature of this discussion is such that it may not lead to a result, as experiences and beliefs about sexuality can and should be deeply personal and varied. Therefore, in the spirit of respecting differing viewpoints and experiences, I believe it may be best to agree that this is a complex topic with many perspectives.
Thank you again for the engaging conversation and for sharing your personal experiences. It's discussions like these that help broaden our understanding of such multifaceted topics
Still no female erotic turn-ons ... As a young woman I had questions about sex but could find no one to answer them. After many years of doing my own research, I have found that even women who are sex therapists or sex researchers refuse to engage on any discussion about sexual response. No one else seems to see a problem with this. But as a scientist and an advocate of human rights, I believe that women and their partners deserve to know the facts, logic and research findings that explain the reality of female responsiveness.
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