Jane Elizabeth Thomas Hey Jane- How are you? You know, I believe sexologists champion the idea of orgasms with a partner not as some mythical fantasy, but as a technical goal rooted in anatomy and communication. The focus is less on a magic trick performed by a "lover" and more on the fact that the vast majority of women are physiologically capable of orgasm, but often require direct clitoral stimulation, a biological fact, not an opinion! So, we're really promoting a workshop on effective collaboration rather than selling a fairy tale. Think of it less like promoting a belief in unicorns and more like giving people a better map to find the horse that's already in the barn, which, with a little effort, can become pretty magical.

If women were aroused, they would supply or obtain their own stimulation. They would not wait for a partner to guess what is required. Sexologists have ignored the research findings. Clitoral stimulation is associated with women's solitary masturbatory activity and has never been part of heterosexual lovemaking. No one seems to appreciate that the clitoris does not equate to the clitoral glans. No one can name even one female erotic turn-on with a lover. So how on earth are women having these orgasms, which make no difference to intercourse frequencies?

Jane - data please - or is it just you - n=1??

Thanks for commenting Phil. What data are you asking for? My question points out that there are no research findings to support the idea that women can orgasm from intercourse. I am asking you to let me know if you know of any such research findings. Both Kinsey and Hite concluded that female orgasm is associated with clitoral stimulation and female masturbation. Masters and Johnson simply assumed that a small group of women could orgasm from intercourse on the basis of women's orgasm claims. But Kinsey found that women's orgasm claims have no impact on intercourse frequencies. Hite found that women talk of emotional orgasms. Rosemary Basson concluded that women have intercourse to perpetuate an emotional bond. Women seek emotional intimacy rather than orgasm with a lover.