I have been asking women to explain how they achieve orgasm with a lover for years. Very few women ever respond. In fact, men have more to say about female orgasm than any woman does. The fact that female orgasm is a topic for discussion is clear evidence of the mystery surrounding it. No one discusses male orgasm - it occurs reliably. But no one can name even one female erotic turn-on. Research indicates that women are talking about emotional responses and equating these to sexual response (arousal and orgasm).