Most females seem to derive no particular satisfaction from their manipulations of the male. (Alfred Kinsey)
Men live for the erotic rewards of sex. Women look for emotional rewards from loving relationships. If the sexes were the same, we wouldn't have two sexes. Men and women's sexualities complement each other. Nothing sexist about that. We can still be equal even if we are different.
Thanks Nicola for commenting! Very few women do. Women's arousal is subconscious. It is not men's fault. Physical stimulation is only effective once a person is mentally aroused so it doesn't matter what anatomy men stimulate a woman will never have an orgasm. If women were aroused with a lover, they would be motivated to obtain their own stimulation. Very few women are responsive - they never masturbate to orgasm. So they have no idea how female arousal and orgasm are achieved. That is also not men's fault.
There are some severe generalisation here!!!
I would never claim that men and women were identical, but neither are all men or all women identical
Inherent testosterone levels may well play a part underneath a lot of natural variation between individuals. Overlapping distribution curves seem a far more productive way of looking at the variations rather than a very binary distinction
Are you speaking from some kind of scientific authority? Or are you just guessing? Kinsey concluded that women are much less sexually responsive than men are. He also indicated that women are not aroused by body parts as men are. No one can name any female erotic turn-ons. Sex is primarily a male pleasure because the penetrator obtains the erotic rewards. A woman must make the most of the emotional rewards of pleasing a lover. However, suggestions that women can orgasm from intercourse, or any other activity with a lover, cause endless frustration for men as well as women. Women are not aroused, as the receiver of the thrusting penis. Female orgasm is associated with clitoral stimulation and women's solitary masturbatory activities. The idea that women orgasm from intercourse was proposed by a man (Freud) and has never been confirmed unanimously by women.
Some years ago an english researcher claimed that the G spot does not exist,and used such evidence as a pair of identical twins. One said that it didn't exist for her while the other did. For the life of me, I cannot see that this was evidence for her view!
A french specialist was pitted against the english researcher on the Today programme with amusing results.....
Certainly, many women do not achieve vaginal orgasm and need clitoral stimulation. But others most definitely do. Evidence of an enormous variation in female sexuality, and NOT the rather binary view that you seem to propose
You have to explain how someone can orgasm from stimulation over which they have no control. Intercourse is dependent on a man having an erection. A woman cannot possibly orgasm within time limits set by another person's responsiveness. Neither could a man. Some women think they orgasm from intercourse because of the belief (coming from men) that they should. By asking the question "Do you orgasm from intercourse?" researchers imply that such a feat is possible. I am asking HOW? The penetrator always has to compensate the receiver for intercourse, whether it is by a relationship rewards, direct payment or other indirect rewards. The fact that men are willing to pay for sex is evidence that they know that it is a barter situation. No woman volunteers for intercourse without reliable contraception (unless she is trying to have a baby). It is a much more conscious choice for a woman to offer a man the pleasure he obtains from intercourse.
In my opinion you are allowing your own beliefs and biases to define what other women should and do think/feel/experience! Apart from anything else, some women orgasm through vaginal sex quickly and easily, while others do not. It is very well established that both physiological and psychological influences are important
To corral different subcohorts into a single uniform cohort is just plan bad science
If you know any WOMEN who are willing to discuss how they achieve this sexual arousal you believe in, then please ask them to contact me. Very few women are willing to be explicit about sexual response. You yourself also have no explanations, it would seem. What EROTIC turn-ons cause female sexual arousal with a lover? Why is there so much confusion over the anatomy involved in female orgasm, if women are so easily aroused? Men know which anatomy causes their arousal - not only because they have an erection. Mental arousal causes tumescence which motivates a person to stimulate the correct anatomy. In the case of women, this is not the vagina and it is also not the clitoral glans. A responsive women masturbates by pressing down rhythmically either side of the labia and clenching her buttocks. This stimulates the internal clitoral organ both from outside and from inside. But such stimulation is impossible with a lover. More importantly, it is not possible with a lover to achieve the intense focus on erotic fantasy that is required to experience the kind of arousal that leads to orgasm.
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