What women want in a sexual relationship: (1) More spontaneity: all too often the sexual pattern is routine, preordained, expected. (2) More passion – and less urgency to have intercourse quickly. (3) Their man to have less preoccupation with his own penis. (Derek Llewellyn-Jones)
Imo, the organizing principle of female sexuality is the desire to be desired; female desire is activated when a woman feels overwhelmingly desired. Your citation Jane Elizabeth Thomas captures parts of this hope, with respect to arousal and desire.
Thanks Stephen for your on-going support! I don't use the term 'sexual desire'. What people are really talking about is women's amenability to cooperate with men's desire for intercourse. This is encapsulated in the concept of consent, which gives the receiver of male ejaculate the right to decline opportunities for intercourse. Women make a conscious choice to engage in sexual activity that is to their political, financial or emotional benefit. Both female sex drive and desire are terms invented to imply that women want penetrative sex for erotic reasons as much as men do.
It depends from the gender hierarchy, which is different in every country/culture even situated in the same geographic location.
In general look for emotional rewards from their relationships. Men tend to look for erotic rewards regardless of country or culture. This is due to a biological difference between the sexes. Male sexual response is essential to human reproductive function. Women's reproductive role focuses more on bearing and raising children. Both sexes contribute in different ways to the continuation of the species.