fathers love female children
mothers love male children
Any explanation for that?
Your question comes with a conclusion that doesn't apply in my case. My children are unique and different and I love different things about each of them as individuals. It has nothing to do with their gender.
Father's generally feel protective of daughters because they were a young buck at one time and they don't trust any young bloke as far as they could throw them. ... Due to this attraction you will find that fathers love their daughters more than their son and mothers love their son more than their daughters.
It is the attraction to the opposite sex (a "feature" is our planet 1.5 billion years old). When they were small, the father was also adored by his mother and the mother was adored by her father and so on.
My 104 year-old mother is presently looked after by my two sisters, but she was very anxious for me to visit her and felt so happy to be near her. She is not neglected by her children, but in her life she was much happier to see me around than her daughters. We talk and do things much differently than with her daughters.
Yea .... it is the attraction to the opposite sex as opined by Issigonis
Your question comes with a conclusion that doesn't apply in my case. My children are unique and different and I love different things about each of them as individuals. It has nothing to do with their gender.
we have mana( spiritual power) and anima or animus( unconsciousness apsect of other sex).I think this is an archetype, and theory of C.Jung is the best that explain these relatioship.( Theories of personality by Dr.C.George Boeree) ( in albanian: Teorite e personalitetit-faqja 70-73)
Dear Godwin Jejeti
Your question is very interesting, but I can´t say why fathers love female children and mothers love male children. Hope the participants in this forum will tell you from a scientific point of view.
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Litart
Your analysis did not apply in my case. Although my father wanted a daughter because I was born disabled I was a disappointment. Even up until he died he never cared about my accomplishments and if he were alive when I got my PhD he could care less. In cases where father's favour daughters, I think it is a protection issue. However not all father's favour daughters. My mother does favour my second brother not my oldest one because he has the physical ability and financial resources to help her but she always favoured him because he is not disabled but I never knew why she favoured him over my oldest brother. I do not think it is gender related
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Hello,
The love of mothers for sons and the natural tendency of fathers towards daughters have long been a matter of great interest and psychological debate. Of course, such tendencies have often been associated with children rather than the parents. Traditionally, Freud described such feelings in terms of Oedipus complex and Electra complex. Whereas the former refers to a child's feelings of desire for his or her same-sex parent and resentment toward the opposite-sex parent, the latter analogously refers to a stage whereby girls feel a desire for their fathers and jealousy of their mothers. Therefore, the relationship may be reciprocal in some way-that is it may equally be applicable to parents' psyche as well. Since both sexes experience this unconsciously during the phallic stage of their psychosexual development, which is between ages 3-5, chances are the desire remains dormant and repressed , but it inadvertently manifests itself in certain parents in later years of life and during adulthood.
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R. Biria
Interesting.
I don't think that is a general fact though.
It doesn't apply to me also.
Waiting to learn more
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The Oedipus complex was merely a Freudian concept where a son loves his mother in a romantic sense but it is the son that initiates the so-called romance, not the mother. I do not believe this applies in the majority of families.
Dr Réagan
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agree with those who think human are naturally attract to their opposite sex. daughter need protection of father and son need affections
I do not agree with you .............
You may mean Freud's theory, which I often do not believe in
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In my own opinion, I think it is natural because opposite attracts.
It is not so in my case. The statement of opposite sex should not be generalized. many times if you make a survey will find reverse.
Further, What I have observed is both boy and girl love mother the most and then the love for father follows.
I do not think that could applies to every family contains male and female children, however sometimes the father tends to the daughter more than his son because of the nature of the girl who come closer to her father and take care for him, on the other hand the mother tries to balance the situation and tend to the male, for me unfortunately I have only boys.
It is psychology behavior of the mankind as a whole . As we know our mother is a creator for our entry in this universe for which we all human beings either a male or female have been brought under the loving care of mother & to a mother in love & care they may not be any weight age of their love between the children whether a son or daughter .
The problems comes when the children grow up in their respective forum for carrying out the action of their life passage for creating their image ,behavior , in the social forum. For daughter the entire living pattern in their nature ,behavior code of conduct ,understanding ,& caring love for the members of the family including parents are totally different in the comparison with their brother . This is the said difference which especially father noticed in their life by experiencing loving care of their daughter .
If I touch my personal observation in my life that children especially son after their grown up age have change their behavior with the parents in the sense that quite good suggestion which parents want to pass their children with they have to overlook & carry out their norm in their own manner .
It is the society every where in the world irrespective of caste ,creed,& religion have their social norms & culture for which especially male members have adopted their own liking . We know the marriage system have everywhere in the world are the function of pleasure, joy ,& social gathering for the celebration . In case of male member daughter of different parents they come with the establishment of their relation between a Husband & Wife which the wife from the different family join with the Husband & his family as a member of her own home .
In this line joy of mother is totally different as the daughter of the different family joins with her family with becomes & overall joy for the mother & it is this speaking that mother so to say ladies desire a son in their life .For ladies so to say daughters they love & take care of entire household with the loving care including her entire care for her father in their day to day life .The behavior between the Sons & Daughters differ fundamentally with father is observing both with the smiles & unpleasantness between the daughter & son respectively.
Just as the son ,daughter marriage is also a joyful function for the family in case of daughter they have to leave the house of their parents permanently as she is joining with her husband in their house to her it is her totally new environment to adjust in the new house ,in the parents & other member of the family of her husband . Parent of the daughter have with them the glory & memory of the daughter & with their culture & atmosphere which daughter has received from the parents has made a part of the daughter should be a member of their own family . Coming to the points of son they desire to have t heir independent life for which they wish to live separately from the parents which is in an indirect manner create a sorrow & tears in the parent .This has become the way of the life in every society . Children after separation ,in their own life they forget the early feeling for the parents & as such in every society in everywhere in the world their is an old age house for the parents whose son have either not taken care or in certain case total neglected their parents .
For daughters it has observed that whatever the marriage life they take all the time loving care of parents & in case of need daughters run immediately to their parents for their loving care & all the necessary help . With this right from earlier age till today I have my observation for son & daughter in the life of the family ,we know that while expressing the views I am fully aware that they are rule & rules for which some are to be observed in words & some are to be in spirit . In this line my answer also to be viewed in this line .
This is my personal opinion
I guess since opposites attract thus we,are the products of polarity, ask any magnet :)
Dr Réagan
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it is also psycho Analysis theory given by Sigmund Freud which is mostly popular in Literature genres. According to this attraction for opposite sex in some cases develops these kinds of characteristics.
Dear Godwin Jejeti , it is a wonderful question and my specific answer is yes. But, as a father, what I believe is love should be shared equally.
Little girls often adore their fathers and little boys seem to stick to Mom. Its funny, 90% of the people whom I met said the same. Girls are attached to their fathers and boys to their mothers. It might be same on the other side too.
It has lot to do with one’s upbringing, keeping in my with the society and culture.
In childhood, we tend to spend more time with our mothers as fathers gets busy with daily works. But when growing up this would change for most of the people. It can also depend upon the attachment and love giving to the child by the parents.
Fathers want their daughters to be grownup like princess. And mothers want their son to be seen like a king. Mothers want their daughter to be safe and Fathers want their son to succeed and get stable.
There is still a research going on about this topic. According to the research:
- It was found that, Fathers were more likely to use comparative words, such as "much" and "better," which indicate more complex types of discussions with the girls. With the boys, fathers were more likely to use words related to competition, such as "win" and "top."
- The fathers also talked about sadness more with the girls than with the boys, and they were more likely to engage in rough physical play with their sons than with their daughters.
- Mothers are more emotional than the fathers. May be lets keep it this way, mothers try to always help or cover up the mistakes made by kids. For fathers their daughter is been seen as their “mother”. That might be one of the reason why dads are favorable or attached to their daughters. Dads become hero for their kids.
- In some cases this phrase is been used too . “ like father like son.” “Like mother like daughter”. Love is been equally shared and traits are been passed.
https://www.girls-are-more-attached-to-their-fathers-and-boys-to-their-mothers
It is the nature of human beings soul, it is a holy gift from the GOD.
Regards,
Emad
This maybe true and supported by valid examples but its not always the case. There are examples of fathers adoring their sons and neglecting their daughters.
Interesting discourse. If there is theoretical credibility in this question then I think a bit of magnetization is at play here where like poles repel and unlike poles attract.
I think Dr K N Sheth is right. Children love mother more and reverse is also true.
That is described as Oedipus complex by Sigmund Freud's theory under psychology. You can read more.
Though not a rule, this is a general observation, which maybe because one tends to understand one's own gender more, is more confident about it and more protective about the other one! A father thinks his daughter needs more protection while a mother wants to protect her son from all odds😊
Your question seems quite "hypothetical" but I think from your observation I will be in your shoes as part of your family... Daughters might be second in command when the mother is away in helping cook for the father. Likewise the mothers.
i totally side with all the submissions stated above but i think that is natural and do not have particular reasons attached.
Dear Dr. Godwin Jejeti,
Children like and love mothers, this is a steady state phenomenon. However, daughters are really lovely addition to a family. They always bother about their parental responsibilities more as compare to sons. This may be one of the reasons that gives impression that father likes daughters.
It is explained by the Oedipus Complex of each parent for his kid of the opposite sex.
In our society, this doesn't apply. Both father and mother adore their male children more than their female children.
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