I never transfected murine primary cortical neurons, but I transfected many times Human primary Mesenchymal Stem cells. It is known (and I can confirm) that primary cells in general are very difficult to transfect. Lipofectamine is pretty toxic and not specific for siRNA. Lipofectamine 3000 is recommended for the co-transfection DNA/RNA. From my experience the best transfection agent for siRNA on primary cells is INTERFERin® from PolyPlus.