For most emotional problems, being there can be the best thing. Listening, going out with them, tolerating the obsessive concentration on their pain and finding ways to not allow theobsessions to develop too far. Dive into work, or as the questioner says, poetry. Have fun in order to charge the brain. Time is important but never go out and immediately have another serious relationship/it will not work.
Psychologically, a person can write themselves out of one mindset and into another. But few have such levels of creativity.
For most emotional problems, being there can be the best thing. Listening, going out with them, tolerating the obsessive concentration on their pain and finding ways to not allow theobsessions to develop too far. Dive into work, or as the questioner says, poetry. Have fun in order to charge the brain. Time is important but never go out and immediately have another serious relationship/it will not work.
Psychologically, a person can write themselves out of one mindset and into another. But few have such levels of creativity.
I agree with Dr. Stanley. Isolation and segregation from all activities worsen the condition of broken heart husbands. Being active is the only feasible way to overcome the deep hole in one's heart.
similar with the women sub-conscientious fear that is not good enough to properly propagate his genes. Coping with this problem may vary but hard working (and a new women :)) may speed the healing process sometimes.
You are quite right@s. Béatrice Marianne Ewalds-Kvist but it goes both sides. I am of the opinion that such person should depend on God, the source of all joy and comfort.
Beatrice, I agree with you fundamentally but I bear in mind also not to cast blame. If a man first has affairs and betrays his wife then his feelings may not anyway run deep. The same when a wife has an affair. The betrayer (a rather strong term) moves on more quickly. People fall out of love or simply find someone they prefer. Morals perhaps do not always come into it.
I am mindful also that in the UK for example it is the man who suffers most in law
and can lose his home and even his children-whether he is the instigator or victim. Personally, I give help to those I can, not to those I like or approve of.