Unfortunately, I have now no grandmother, but I am a grandfather. Grandmothers are special because they take care of their grandsons and grandaughters when their parents are working. Grandmothers are also irreplacable in telling stories to their grandaughters and grandsons. For some children, their grandmothers are , say, their second parents. There is accumulated evidence that shows that grandmother are highly influencind in shaping their grandaughters' and grandsons' psychological development.
My understanding for grandmothers after spending 22years with her and losing her i realised what i lost...my storyteller, mentor, playmate, caretaker and most important my friend.
Grandmothers have walked extra mile. Mothers love and care but associated with other responsibilities whereas grandmothers have different priorities. They have passed financial responsibility phase so they spare time to be our playmates. They incorporate values through stories and nurture our upcoming with their experiences. They are carefree as only thing that they care is happiness and laughter so they are like reborn child.
Grandmother is the most warm place someone recourse in difficulties. She has an endurable listening ability beside affording solutions and consoling us at the same time.
As a clinician, I noticed you did not, perhaps intentionally, specify maternal/paternal. I had both. Paternal GM died when I was 3. Family members who knew her characterize her as quiet and gentle! My maternal GM, who I knew much better was gentle and loving. I am blessed!
This is why oral history/narratives over the generations is so significant. We learn a heck of a lot more than via DNA analysis which I refuse to give to Ancestry. The parent company originates out of China. They do not list top executives! I am quite suspicious about their true motives%. Data mining is a booming enriched and highly profitable industry.
The most special moments I share with my maternal GM is when I have the opportunity to hear stories about HER grandparents (and grand grand parents). That brings me back to at least a century and a half ago, imagining how my most distant ancestors were, what they did, how they lived and how I keep carrying a little bit of them in myself.
João Paulo dos Santos Vieira de Alencar Thank you for sharing. My dear departed grandparents were born in 1906, 1909, 1911 and 1913. Their stories still live in my memories.