Why do we love for someone or something? Is it just for fulfilling our physical, psychological, emotional, financial or social needs or something else? Is it for mutual fulfillment of these needs -not the zero sum gain? Or if it is beyond what we expect from others, then how can we nurture such unconditional love within?
Dear colleagues , your opinions would be much appreciated . Wishing you Happy Valentine's Day 2016 !
it is simple and complicated simultanousely.
In my point of view
Love is nothing but everything
Dear Bikash,
Love is our strongest motivational factor, something we fantasize about and something that seldom turns out in the way we thought.
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Dear Beatrice,
Many thanks for sharing highly illuminating articles and it is fascinating to investigate how and why even the agapic orientation of people toward love may change over varied phases of their life history.
it is simple and complicated simultanousely.
In my point of view
Love is nothing but everything
Good day Bikash:
Love, the willingness to share your life with another person as one.
True love, the ability to let go even what you want the most with a smile when love ends.
As sometimes we need to go from island of love to island of love until the day we find paradise.
love is an innate affinity to beauty ... what is beauty? beauty is a challenge of something beyond one's current state of being.
Love is to first think about the other person and then about yourself
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What is love ?
There are different types of love e.g. desire & longing / sexual love, God's divine love, bortherly / sisterly / companion love etc. Generally love can be translated into sacrificial act perform by one party for the benefit of the other party - sometimes to the extent willing to give up one's life.
I would argue as Han has stated before that there are different kinds of love.
Furthermore I would say that most love is "ego" and consciousness based. We usually think of love as a concept to explain our desires to anything that has a form. Be it materialistic, divine or relationship. I think it is therefore very important to understand that the pain that is caused by the loss of love for the materialistic is caused by the 'echo of the ego' and consciousness. While scientific knowledgde of the consciousness is still limited I would suggest to take a look at western methodes of spirituality where another kind of love is explained that is apart and different from the love for the love found in form. (Eckhart Tolle, Sam Harris, Jeff Foster are sure to give you some ideas of what I am talking about)
One of Tolle's videos about love can be found : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yg_Tm3oHFc8. Just to give you an idea. (Notice that when he uses the word 'God' it has nothing to do with religion) Perhaps Love is 'God'.
Thanks Beatrice for hitting the essence of my question- the conundrum of lust –love continuum as a transition from conditional to unconditional love.
Lust is our necessary physical desire leading us to love( regardless of whether or not it stays as love develops depending on how lucky we are in balancing them) but not the sufficient condition for real unconditional love like the divine love that is ever-existing, ever-conscious and ever-new Bliss.
Dear Bikash, here sharing on of the short poems I have written on what is love and its nature:
Greetings;
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One tear is too much
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Love is compassion,
Joy, forgiveness,
Friendly ears, passion,
Smiles, and tenderness.
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And when you believe in love as such,
With blindness,
One tear is too much,
As there is no room for sadness.
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Poem by Lucio Muñoz
Vancouver, BC, Canada.
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
― Lao Tzu
Dear Colleagues, Good Day,
"Love isn't love until you give it away."
John H. MacDonald Jr. 1992
Dear Colleagues, Good Day,
"Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses."
----- Ann Landers
RE: Love is the epitome of goodness and kindness
Love can have a dark side too. The love of a mother for her child can be steadfastly unconditional, and may result in moral failure and disregard of others, e.g. the mother of a serial rapist, who nonetheless shields her son from the law. Love can also be jealously possessive....
Love is to lure us to create the next generation, so that life continues....
"now abide faith, hope and love but greatest is love"
Love, according to Thich Nhat Hanh, is the desire to bring happiness to others, together with the skills to realise this aim.
Many thanks for unfolding the love conundrum in varied ways. I posed this question assuming that love is the only answer to the problem of human existence. If so, then at the heart of the secret of life is the discovery of love -- the ultimate quest to be scientifically discovered yet. To me, love is the state of mind which in turn is driven by our state of breathing, for our emotional state both direct and is affected by our breathing either consciously or unconsciously. There is no love when everything is known and there is no uncertainty. If so, love emanate from knowing the unknown - the challenge of first knowing ourselves !
You wrote "To me, love is the state of mind which in turn is driven by our state of breathing, for our emotional state both direct and is affected by our breathing either consciously or unconsciously." I would add that love also expresses itself as a mental disorder, preferable a hypomanic state. Perhaps we breath in an exaggerated pace then.
the opposite of hate.... respect for everyone, no matter how different the other person is
Dear Colleagues, Good Day,
“Love makes the time pass. Time makes love pass.”
―Euripides
''Love is like a fever which comes and goes quite independently of the will... there are no age limits for love''.
-Stendhal
We all love our parents, children; partners in life. We are all born with this affection. We did not make any effort. However, loving people just because they are human like us is the Real Love.
Love is an attachment with someone for which a lot is to be sacrificed. It's a kind of relationship which makes a permanent bond between two persons, thereby gives a feeling of completeness. The existence of real love is a gift of God.
With best regards.
this link is useful
https://www.chabad.org › ... › Relationships › Love & Judaism
regards
Dear Colleagues, Good Day,
"The most important medicine is tender love and care."
---- Mother Teresa
Dear Colleagues, Good Day,
"Love Yourself and Care Others,People Will Respect You Automatically"
---- Chiranjit Paul
After all these definitions, did anybody found the real love?
Dear Béatrice Marianne Ewalds-Kvist
“Only the dead have seen the end of war.”
Plato
Yes, of course. I am living my life happily with a feeling of real love with my wife, children, and parents.
The greatest love you can experience is in communion with God in meditation. The love between the soul and Spirit is the perfect love, the love you are all seeking. When you meditate, love grows. Millions of thrills pass through your heart.If you meditate deeply, a love will come over you such as no human tongue can describe. you will know His divine love, and you will be able to give that pure love to others.
It is also an Expression in the form of sacrifice for the cause of Humanity.
Mahesh Kumar
Sounds very very good! Congratulations! However, the answers vary so not all persons are that lucky. Enjoy!
Often the definition of things loses her taste, living the moment is the most important
To help others, I will explain this: I was the director of the section (I) of the Faculty of Science of the Lebanese University (93-96), and it was only in French and the English sections are closed due to civil war.
In the year 95, the number of successful students in the bac. In English language were about 500 students (and will increase with years). But there is no place for them except the American University (AMU) and its annual premium is about 15000$. After contacts with the officials I found an opposition to open English sections.
What to do: I asked my assistants to register who submits the request of these students and without informing the press Thus, the officials put under the fait accompli and forced the government to discharge 41 doctors for teaching. Then the government transferred the discharge from the university to the Council of Ministers and I am punished for non-renewal for a second time.
And while I was listening to a lecture at the CAMS of (AMU) a student approached to me and said, if you had not opened the English sections, I would not have followed my studies here, thank you. I am very happy with what I have done and I see that helping and loving others is the most important thing in life.
Dear Colleagues, Good Day,
“Love is something that you nurture every day and every single moment, with every breath you take.”
― Angie karan
Dear Colleagues, Good Day,
“Love ? Love is when you are ready to do every possible and positive thing for someone,”
― sid
Love means knowing that no matter what, you have someone to count on. It's unconditional and makes you feel good on the inside.
I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.
- Roy Croft
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
- Robert A. Heinlein
Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.
- Robert A. Heinlein
Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence.
- David Byrne
The simple lack of her is more to me than others' presence.
- Edward Thomas
I pretended indifference…even in the presence of love, in the presence of hunger. And the more deeply I felt, the less able I was to respond.
- Louise Glück
The extent of your consciousness is limited only by your ability to love and to embrace with your love the space around you, and all it contains.
- Napoleon Bonaparte
Love is one of the most profound emotions we experience as humans. It’s bigger than us, meaning, though we can invite it into our lives, we do not have the control over the how, when and where love starts to express itself. Maybe that’s why 72% of people believe in love at first sight. Sometimes, love truly does strike like a bolt of lightening to the chest, and you aren’t prepared for it.
Since love is inherently free, we spend nights tossing and turning in an attempt to understand what it is, and how to know if we have it. How do you define something so uncontrollable and versatile?
That’s the tricky thing about love, we can feel it in a variety of different states–when we’re happy, sad, angry, confused or excited–and our attitudes about love can range from affectionate love, to infatuation and pleasure. We even use love as an action, as a force to keep our relationships with partners, or friends and family, together.
The ancient Greeks used seven words to define the different states of love we can experience:
- Storage: natural affection
- Philia: friendship
- Eros: sexual and erotica
- Agape: unconditional, divine love
- Ludus: flirting
- Pragma: committed, married love
- Philautia: self love [https://www.eharmony.com/what-is-love/]
One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.
Sophocles
Love’s greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.
Barbara De Angelis
Age does not protect you from love, but love to some extent protects you from age.
Jeanne Moreau
Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third.
Marge Piercy
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