Dear Victoria! You know that many forms of cancer are resistant to various forms of therapy. This fatally condemns patients to death. It's terrible for the patient and loved ones. In this situation, the patient can be depressed or aggression. The depression reside most loved ones.

A powerful tool for the doomed man is faith in God. Religion brings earthly life and the life in another world. For the Creator's earthly life of the people is only a part of human existence (the other part of it is extraterrestrial life in the world).

Much is determined by the situation in a family where the patient suffers. Much is determined by the presence or places without pain. Dear Victoria, is an ordeal for the patient and for the family. Many people have the experience of spiritual help suffering patients. But every time this experience is unique. Universal aid does not exist. The most important thing is to take care and to participate in terrible trouble.

Dear @Victoria, the answer is YES. According to my personal experience with members of my family who have had cancer, cancer can make the patient very aggressive!

 Dear Victoria,

 When I was in class seven (almost 14 years ago) my uncle suffered from cancer. According to doctors, he was at the last stage but he is still alive and living a healthy life. We people never behaved wrong with him. As we Pakistani people live in a family system so all the family members provided him inner strength to overcome his disease. We also have strong faith in God and so we prayed together for his healthy life. My uncle was extremely depressed, lost hope but we always encouraged him. I believe that good attitudes of family members is a psychological treatment for the cancer patient.  His aggressiveness is not a big issue....  This can be overcome. Take care the patient's emotions and feelings.

Dear Victoria! You know that many forms of cancer are resistant to various forms of therapy. This fatally condemns patients to death. It's terrible for the patient and loved ones. In this situation, the patient can be depressed or aggression. The depression reside most loved ones.

A powerful tool for the doomed man is faith in God. Religion brings earthly life and the life in another world. For the Creator's earthly life of the people is only a part of human existence (the other part of it is extraterrestrial life in the world).

Much is determined by the situation in a family where the patient suffers. Much is determined by the presence or places without pain. Dear Victoria, is an ordeal for the patient and for the family. Many people have the experience of spiritual help suffering patients. But every time this experience is unique. Universal aid does not exist. The most important thing is to take care and to participate in terrible trouble.

Dear Negro, I do not think so, as I have cancer patient in my family, she is totally depressed and suppressed, even she does not has mood to talk with us, then what about aggressiveness. TQ

Dear Victoria. This is a sad topic for discussion. On my opinion it depends on two things: character of a person and stage of the disease.

Those who tend to withdraw into themselves less inclined to direct anger at others. The one who in situations of coming out from comfort zone throws his irritation at others in this situation would react the same way, may be more expressively.

The fact that person probably doomed is even more important than concrete diagnosis. For a person in the natural healthy condition it is normal not to think about the limited life. Otherwise it is equivalent to the state of the condemned to death.

The stage of the disease with painful sufferings causes apathy and aggravates exclusion from the outer world.

I think is normal for a cancer patient to feel and behave aggressively. This is partly due to psychological confrontation with the new reality and, partly related with side effects of chemotherapy, radiotherapy and surgery. It is luckily one who is strong by character and surrounded by devoted and patient lovers and relatives. Cancer is a difficult battle but not invincible!

I am no expert in this area.

But earlier were very good answers.

I think it will help you.

I saw one cancer cases where the patient died hours after hearing Wright that he had cancer and I think that the guilt of the doctor, the hearing patient seriousness of his illness from the first time be difficult to afford, the doctors and the family of the patient to tell him gradually or use of the term other than cancer to mitigate the severity of the response and there will be plenty to accept psychological treatment by the patient

I think that agressivity is a sign of liveliness, i.e. that the ill person is prepared to fight against câncer, that can be defeated.

To know the inability to get cured creates two states of  mind of the patient: hopelessness, despair and running out of reason to see positive things out of any thing, a source of aggressive and destructive behaviors or the other is to utilize the power of reason of humility to be humble to live the life imposed by limitations of nature to the end.  Therefore, yes it is possible that the case you raised is a possibility, dear Victoria.   

 Victoria:

The Spirit can become downcast due to the terminal illness and affects everyone in the environment. I would suggest prayer to lift the heaviness and burden of the illness. I can recommend some Scripture verses if you would like. Also encourage members to prayer with the cancer patient.

Many thanks,

Debra

Dear Victoria,

I had experience with my heart attack. I stayed closed to the death. During the traffic from the emergence room to the hospital, I had a talk with my laboratory collaborator about the immediate decisions to make in the case of my survivorship, because we had some experiments in course. My experience indicates that there is no fear when we are close to death. It is part of the life. Otherwise, I believe that long time under treatment of a deadly disease people can have mood changes as have all the healthy people.

I hope these words can help you.

Walter

I thank every helpful andwer you send me. 

I am a little desperated, because my mother is ill, she has cancer of mama and few years of life. She used to be sweet and like every good mothers, but seeing her like this makes us so sad... I am sorry to tell you such a sad story.

She cannot make normal efforts, she cannot read or drive due to her dislexia... We all pray for her, and help her in the messure we can, but it is not easy sometimes. Ye doesn't want any help and act victimist like if we were the cause of her cancer. She is not she, but we still love her. But we are getting depressed with her so slowly...

Every one of us have different perspective for different situations or problems. But if we can make environment around the patient to be good or well managed, he/she can live life better. The very first thing, Don't let the person feel that he/she is a burden. It may create more depression. Keep that person free for some time, when it's not required to keep eye on the person. Keep that person busy with whatever he/she loves, because idle mind is demons place. 

Nothing is certain here. so we should not focus on the number of years mentioned by doctors for survival of that person. Even we are uncertain about our own life in the next second.  

Dear Debra, I will be thankfull if you recommend me some Scripture verses.

Thanks for your words, dear all. You inspire me more courage! 

Dear Victoria, 

Cancer can make persons more aggressive, but this is good because the natural killer cells work better then and fight the cancer

 Dear Victoria, 

You may like to see the attached publications.

Best regards

Mohammed

Querida Victoria,

La vida es un gran misterio. Creo que lo importante en cualquier caso es que te mantengas en equilibrio, tranquila, serena y en paz.

Con el espíritu y la mente en calma, pensarás, hablaras y actuarás mejor.

Si tú estás tranquila, le brindarás esa tranquilidad a tu mamá.

Si te ayuda rezar, reza, pero para que conserves tu tranquilidad y ánimo en medio de la dificultad por la que pasas.

Te envío un abrazo solidario.

Luis Fernando

Yes, I think Cancer sometime can make the patient more aggressive even when his/her environment tries to be good, when family are near them helping. It is very difficult to handle the situation in the case of the depressive and emotional patients. Yes, I think it Is normal. We should try to support, give them much time and stay with them means moral support. For me I think we should realize that everything is fixed and we are just going with this situation, then we are not depressed. 

We should help till to their death, knowing that they don't want help. And one thing I WANT TO SHARE WITH MY RG COLLEAGUES THAT IT IS NOT ABOUT CANCER PATIENT, BUT IT IS ABOUT LOVE, AFFECTION AND HUMANITY, IF WE ARE LOVABLE, AFFECTIONATE AND GOOD HUMAN BEING, THEN WE DEFINITELY HURT when someone dies EVEN WE DO NOT KNOW. Good Luck...

Belief in life after death and rebirth on earth and non destructible nature of the human soul could be of some help. As the embodied self attains in this body childhood, youth and old age, so does it attain another body. Just as a person gives up worn out clothes and puts on other new ones, even so does the embodied self give up decrepit

bodies and enter other new ones. More details in following book.

Srimad Bhagavad Gita by Swami Vireswarananda

http://www.chennaimath.org/istore/product/srimad-bhagavad-gita-sridhara-ordinary/

To my knowledge, some people say they have only learned to live after learning they have cancer. Apparently, the kind of reaction to this news vary among the individuals. 

These days, the Argentine media spread the news of a mother who, upon learning that she was suffering from terminal cancer, wrote a book --The Nippur Notebook- for her four years old son, so that he will read it when he is old enough. She already died and the book is a bestseller (link in Spanish).

Probably the most usual reaction is different from this. I think the help of a specialist can make a big difference.

http://www.clarin.com/sociedad/cuaderno-Nippur-escribio-morir-recuerde_0_1462054064.html

The combination of anti-inflammatory and proapoptotic drugs during a long period can be best solution. The sources stimulating a natural killer cells will be preferable, but an inflammation-inhibitory component should be present, too. An example, the combination of Panus spp. extracts with vinblastin can help to inhibition of metastatic progression.

Personally, I think that patient care should not be completely emotional in nature. Emotional quotient is necessary, but conventions and standard regimens of mental treatment are also very necessary. Administration of antidepressants and related palliative care are important in such circumstances with patients suffering advanced stages of cancer. Otherwise, they can't even sleep! (Please find and read Redeker, N. S., Lev, E. L., & Ruggiero, J. (2000). Insomnia, fatigue, anxiety, depression, and quality of life of cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy. Research and Theory for Nursing Practice, 14(4), 275-290)

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1440-1819.1996.tb00570.x/pdf

http://jama.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=383261

http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00520-008-0529-7

http://jco.ascopubs.org/content/26/36/5890.full

http://jco.ascopubs.org/content/25/22/3313.long

http://www.ingentaconnect.com/content/springer/rtnp/2000/00000014/00000004/art00001

Dear Victoria,

I haven't experience in this topic. To my knowledge depression and aggressive behavior were linked to our life senses.

When cancer patients think that reach to end point of life he believed death really and wait for finish point . But we believed that live in this world would be first stage and life could be continue after our death. In fact our effects and behaviors and all acts could be continue several years after our death.

So, we should try to change our attitude! then world and permanent life would be live with us forever!

A cancer patient who happens to be agreasive needs to be followed by a doctor. His doctor needs to know aboit it to introduce a medicatilon ir balance the medication given bu him or.descontinue it at all.

Mindfulness may be important in disengaging individuals from automatic thoughts, habits, and unhealthy behavior patterns and thus could play a key role in fostering informed and self-endorsed behavioral regulation, which has long been associated with well-being enhancement

http://www.swarthmore.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2012/10/MindfulnessWell-Being1.pdf

Death can be one of the first things some people think of when they learn they have advanced cancer. Other people’s first concern could be how they break the news to their family. This reaction can often be mixed with other feelings, such as fear at the thought of what lies ahead – perhaps pain, loss of control, loneliness and even relief for some

http://www.cancervic.org.au/about-cancer/advanced-cancer

Aggressiveness has been linked with cancer and generally poorer health; as well as increased risk-taking, poor decision-making and substance misuse. Higher levels of anger are related to lower levels of social support and higher stress levels.High levels of anger expression have also been associated with less frequent use of positive coping strategies such as actively addressing problems avoiding negative effect on interpersonal relationships.

In addition

http://www.cancercompass.com/message-board/message/all,28840,0.htm

Dear

I suffered from cancer in 2008, and underwent chemotherapy and radiation for long periods, I have a sense of cancer patient feeling. The cancer patient has no aggressive.

But the patient thought he would die and the members of his family and friends love him too, and he will die. So he try to get away a little from the love when dealing with them to reduce the their sadness after his death.

Sometimes, the patient also think that there is no cure for his disease and he taketh thinking which may affect the psyche, where it seems Ana aggressive.

The role of the family is existence near the patient, raise his morale, and clarify to him that he is still alive. Also they told him that there are many people that are not patients were died, and the live is in God's hands

Dear Victoria,

sometimes we can't change anything, because our forces are limited, we are not gods, but we shouldn't stop hoping!

And we can go through these few years together with our sick relatives praying, doing smth good for other people and... enjoying the time that we spend together. If possible, read smth like a Wodehouse's "Joy in the Morning" more often, watch old good movies, play with pets, research family history 2 centuries ago  (these advises are from my personal very long contact with a very sick person). Because even we are sick, if we are alive, we should smile. And live.

Dear Ms. Negro, 

My best friend started having very long coughs, and I thought that he had a bad cold, and that he pretended to do that to be funny because many times when he coughed, he laughed at the same time. We couldn't laugh any more when he was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. Our first reaction was crying; I myself felt lost, and wasn't sure this was happening. He had both laser treatments and chemos; then the chemo stopped due to his poor health. The doctors said he'd have a few years, but then he got a letter asking him to check out a hospice. He still told me it’d be all right, but actually we knew what that meant.

He started to isolate himself, and he felt depressed even though he tried to put on a brave face. He went to join a support group, but didn't feel any better as he felt that people there were not sincere, and the support group made him feel even more hopeless.

Strange cloud formations, great colors of Fall, the first snowflakes that he used to love to photograph didn't mean anything to him any more even though I tried to get him out and cheer him up. He went out shopping, and went to a few parties, but he wanted to get back home quickly. It’s just like the more he saw liveliness and joy of others, the more he felt down. He just wanted to sit on his favorite couch, and watch his favorite movies and TV programs. He didn't feel like socializing with anyone any more. 

He became easily irritated, and would yell at me when I said anything about cancer and remedies. He didn't want to hear that. So I tried to have our conversations only about things he liked, and other general things unrelated to health issues, dreams, or future. He then started to ignore doctors' orders--ate what he liked, did what he liked, etc... And he became less in control of his emotions as the day passed. I admit that it was difficult for me to be around him, but I brought myself to be patient. I somehow knew…that was the time he needed company the most.  He passed away after becoming unconscious in the hospice for two weeks--February 7, 2014--about a week before Valentine's Day.   

I hope my lived experience will be of any help to bring some understanding of how a patient with a later stage of cancer feels, and what the person may need the most. The person may appear hopeless and very emotional, but in fact, as in my case, he was living in fear, and felt frustrated that he’s losing control of his life—like suddenly his life stopped—no more plans, no more dreams—like suddenly the world shut him out. It's his fear and frustration that changed him. Besides, as I was told, the spreading of cancer and some medications may also have affected part of his brain that controls emotions. It's not that he wanted to be.

I'm sending you all my very best wishes. This is the time your mother needs you the most.

Sincerely,

Cameen

Is it possible, it is almost unbelievable to have downvoted answer on question about such sensitive subject!!!

Dear Cameen is absolutely right! Sick people want to sit on their favorite couches, and watch their favorite movies, read their favorite books, play with their favorite pets without any wish for socializing with anyone from outside.  I'm sure they have this right without any additional explanations. If they don't wish to discuss their state, we should respect their will. I've noticed that many sick people from special cancer medical "centers" (or hospitals) do not wish to inform their relatives about their medical state in detail because they don't wish to see their fear. I think dear Cameen made everything absolutely correctly in this situation.  

Estimada Victoria,

Lamento profundamente lo que le ocurre a tu madre, yo perdí la mía por culpa de esa misma enfermedad. Los notorios cambios que ha sufrido la conducta de mamá tienen que ver con una consecuencia directa del Ca de mama. Estos tumores tienen predilección para diseminarse más en unos órganos que en otros; y si bien, los más comunes son los huesos, los pulmones y el hígado, también sucede esto en el cerebro. La dislexia y las incapacidades que mencionas, perfectamente, se pueden explicar como consecuencia de metástasis cerebrales. La agresividad o su cuadro depresivo, en este caso, no depende de su personalidad previa ni tampoco del trato o cuidados que le brindes tú o los demás familiares, que a no dudarlo, es el mejor que se pueda brindar, sino de una alteración concreta de sus funciones psíquicas superiores.

Pienso que a este nivel, lo único que se puede hacer es tratar de brindarle la mejor calidad de vida posible (calmar sus dolores, si los tiene; tratar de estimularla, sin ser agresivos; no tratar de paliar su supuesta depresión, porque en realidad por lo que está pasado se llama depresión ansiosa, originada en parte, en los momentos en que es consciente de su estado, y esto no tiene nada que ver con una verdadera depresión. Los antidepresivos empeoran la situación; hablarle mucho, acompañarla, facilitarle sus tareas básicas pero dejando que ella las intente con nuestra mínima ayuda. No hay mejor estímulo para el espíritu, que el ver que se puede hacer algo; esto es, no hacerle ver, en ningún momento, que depende enteramente de los demás. Más que rezar por ella, sería bueno si esto está dentro de sus creencias habituales, rezar con ella, lo cual le dará confianza y esperanza de que el final no está tan cerca)

Sinceramente espero que estas pocas palabras te sean de alguna ayuda, ya que surgen no tanto de mi profesión médica sino de mi experiencia de vida. Mi madre murió tranquila, porque su hijo estuvo tomado de su mano hasta el último momento, diciéndole en voz baja, no mamá, no te estás muriendo, solo estás queriendo conciliar un hermoso sueño que ya hace tiempo tu cuerpo y tu espíritu te están reclamando. Duerme mamá, duerme tranquila...

The responses of persons, who become aware of having cancer at an advanced stage, varies according to their backgrounds. I have seen many such persons "old & young". Some of them become calm, some of them become nervous, some of them become aggressive, and some of them become very sad. Those around the patient have an important role to play: more understanding, more kindness, more encouragement, more tolerance, and more readiness to help with words & actions "such as calling for an ambulance car or taking the patient to a hospital when a need arises",

To this day, I still remember a student who came to my office in the 1980s telling me that she was inflicted by cancer & that her days in life were becoming very few. At once, tears came to my eyes but I controlled my emotions & gave her few strong words of encouragement. She left life in that month.

Hi all.

All of us have a closer or further experience with sytłacją when one of our friends or family is affected by this disease.

Different people differently survive this time of receiving the news that they have cancer until the time when pruóóje fight him. They are units that weapon before closing message to the outside world and react angrily at each game are saved, who'm trying to help them or sympathize. It seems to me that this anger and aggression is often due to the fact that the whole environment very starasię sympathize, it is intrusive in helping, and that's not the point. The patient wants to be treated just as when no one knew about his illness.

I forfeiture of my friend. Her father has a cancer, fortunately chemistry and radiation therapy great help. But the attitude of this man to the loved ones and the environment was extremely volatile, as he lay in the hospital briefly was nice, if a hospital visit turned into a week lying after a few days was unbearable. When he returned home, everything returned to normal. However, when his wife reminded of medicines and checking if everything ingested by your doctor again returned anger. So, it seems to me that he wanted to be treated normally, as with any other illness. Such as when he had the flu, and no one in control of his medication.

However, he did not take into account that cancerous disease was a bit different. Often fainted, she had nausea, it was necessary to help you move from room to the bathroom. So these its weakening influence of the family on the sensitivity and control. But he that niedostrzegał. Only now, when it is already well slowly he understands what drove his aggression.

Cancer can be really hard on its patients, especially with no known causes,uncertain cures, and fear of relapse. That's one of the main factors contributing to the patients aggression or lack of cooperation. Advances in palliative care emphasizing on the spiritual dimensions of coping with such debilitating ailments might contribute richly to this area of dealing with behavioral issues in such cases.

In order to lesson cancer patient's aggressiveness, it would be useful to let the patient do some activity she or he can do and likes most, for example, making poems, drawing pictures, reading books, etc.

Being aggressive is perhaps a coping mechanism for patients to deal with their illness. Its hard to be in a situation where you can't do anything but rely on others for help. People sometimes don't like the idea of having to rely on people for help and so they try to push them away by being aggressive. Feeling helpless can sometimes lead people to in depressive state. A lot of patience and understanding from family members is needed in this type of situations.

Changes in behavior is natural at this situation. There may arise two conditions for a patient who is sure that there is no chance of recovery. Either he/she will accept the truth or reject the truth. If the patient accept the truth he/she will be cool and try to behave very well with his/her relatives. On the hand if the patient finds hard to accept the truth the patient will reflect hopelessness, irritation and aggression. 

In my opinion, it depend upon the will power of the patient.

Victoria , your question is really very heart touching .  That's why , we pronounce science and spirituality   flourish beautifully when they  are together.  If we understand the psychology of a cancer patient who knows the end results , mostly in negativity . Despite all sympathies and family cooperation , another side of brain keeps operating in a reverse direction evaluating pros- and cons- of the situation,  a patient is in .The psychological strength of  will power of the patient will make him a winner or a looser in the persuit to fight such a  deadly disease like cancer. Surely a doctor has a different role to play than patients different relations , but all need to work in tandem to give patient kind collective  affirmation so that  a cancer patient takes over the fatalities of the disease as a fighter than a tame looser.  

Dear Victoria,

I believe this is a very common reaction facing the inescapable death....

please compare the "5 stages of dying after kübler-ross".........

best regards

Andreas

this link maybe help to understand:

http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/

Ms Victoria, My mother died due to cancer. She was suffering with throat cancer and one part of tung was also even operated and platinum plate was fixed in that. She died after 8 months of operation. She never depressed and was having no negative thought. Another patient I saw who was suffering with cervical cancer after few month of her marriage. Now she is cure and also gave one birth of a male child. They are very happy. Third patient who was suffering with cancer, surviving by drinking cow urine. so many thing depend upon the person itself.  If a person is having positive thinking problem will  not be a big problem. 

Here is one old paper of mine on how children reacted to cancer

Data Aggression the dominant psychological response (1)

Dear Victoria,

You have such a significant given name, and I feel that whatever I say related to this question may seem so trivial!

Any chronic illness is at risk to develop depression if the person ceases to fight. Therefore we must give such people the opportunity and support to set goals, to feel useful inside family / community, to ask them for advice and experience (especially a mother should remain the most important adviser), to have friends (real and virtual), to have a confessor, to have a pet, to have the example of other people in similar situations, to learn something new, to try alternative therapies, and more simple things about the dignity of living. What we have to see is the patient, not the disease!

A relative of mine was paralyzed after a metastatic cancer, followed by surgery and many complications at the age of 28 years. He is the father of a beautiful little girl. Nobody gave him chances to survive. Although he became a person with physical disability, now he learned computer use, he become more faithful, he moved downstairs to have better access, and he saves money for medical rehabilitation. Besides family, a social worker was very helpful to him.

So men, however, are those hardest to get into medical control. If you already decide it is often already too late.

my father died was diagnosed with two severe cancers twice, and he was 'aggressive' to the person who took care of him as she was the person who was the closest to him in the early days. As time went on, he accepted that he had cancer. The first time he was diagnosed with cancer the tumours reduce to a 2p and stays stable for 10 years. When they began to grow again, he accepted that this time round there was no way that he could be the cancer and the anger which was then the first time was no more. He was definitely depressive all the way through the first and second time round but he did not accepted this as he did not wanted to seem weak. More could be done for the families as I was working in Edinburgh in the hospital as a student dietician and there was no counselling support for me and I had a nervous breakdown. This time round I have already accepted my father's death as I had to be there for him. For my stepmother she is going through chronic depression, there could be more counselling and support for those who are supporting down loved ones at home as now she is suffering those times she saw my father suffered those nights and days when he was ill. I myself, still suffered from chronic depression as I do miss my father is so much but I manage.

The patient was suffering from neoplasm should not be left alone with the disease. Then, the patient realizes that he is not alone in the struggle.

we never left my father side, until his dying day, but the aftereffect on the family can be more worse as it took me five years to get help with the depression, but i was awful to my mother really bad Moods as I did not accept the help until I hold my hands up. If someone came to me and said you are in chronic depression I will got the help the night clipping with my father more the first time round. But he wanted to protect me but I did not want that I wanted to be with him. This time round I was with him as much as I can as I am severely disabled. I came to every single appointment, even to the one where they said sorry we cannot do anything for you and he was so adamant that he was going to have that treatment and we had to sit him down and tell him if you do not improve you're eating and weight you'll never get on that treatment. It's seamed that we was once the good guys then turn the badguys. He hated us for a bit but soon Hee realise what he meant, then he accepted what was to come.

when my father had the cancers the first time he had pancreatic cancer, gullet cancer, stomach cancer. he had treatment at a fabulous hospital near manchester, england a new treatment at the time and they told him this will only expand your life by a few weeks and he lasted 10 years. the second time he had liver, pancreatic, stomach and another treatment. he had an endoscopic treatment to get a sample of the cancer which at that time he only had pancreatic cancer, after the procedure it accelerated the cancer cells into the rest of the organs which basically killed him. he died 4 days before my 40th birthday

so when a treatment is given, this may expand a life past beyond 'a few week' doctors needs to change their way of telling patients how a treatment can affect them as it may expand their life further and beyond the expected deadline as they originally said to my father 3 moths on the first time in 2005 and 10 years later in 2015 he past away on 29th june 2015 in his sleep.

In recent decades, interest in the influence of psychosocial factors in the course of cancer has grown.

At the same time it has increased the demand for professional help to psychologists from the staff of oncology.

The task of the psychologist is to understand the patient's needs and intervene in all the different chronological phases of cancer progression.

The treatment step may require an intervention of support for the fears relating to the intervention of pain, loss of control and increase of vulnerability. The losses relate to the hardships of a breast, uterus, limb, hair, or job, social contacts, ability to move freely and sexual functioning. In the post-treatment patients have to cope with fears of possible repercussions when doctors do not directly control the course and when there is no treatment in place. Finally in the terminal phase / palliative there is awareness of the irreversible nature of the disease. Concerns may include abandonment, loss of dignity of one's body, the physical pain, the anguish for the aspirations unrealized and children left without protection.

Many sources of cancer patient aggressivity are considered in the psychological approach.

Seven Points to Uplift Depression

When people get into depression it can cause terrible suffering for themselves and their families.  I am recommending seven points from my own personal journey of overcoming depression in myself and my loved ones.

First get up and walk and do deep breathing this is a significant help.

Program a daily period of aerobic exercise. Exercise can be better as part of a group. When the body is limited up so is the mind and spirit.

Second develop consistent sleep habits. Sleeping is the natural way we cope with our calamities.

Third watch your families diet to have a healthy diet with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. Drink a lot of water. Much of our afflictions are diet based.

Fourth when people can visualize and  believe they can heal. Start using positive visualization about how you are overcoming suffering. It is critical to develop positive visualizations to replace the negative thought patterns.

Music dance and singing can be very therapeutic as well as taking care of animals and plants.

Fifth the reading of Scripture and meditation upon it can be very helpful. It would particularly helpful to get together with people who have overcome depression and cancer as there is power in people overcoming together.

Sixth pray for yourself and your loved ones.

Seventh Do service for others in need.

In my times of need I return to Psalm 23 and Phillipians Chapter 4.  Please read these daily and then meditate and ask what the deeper meanings are.

Dear Victoria

I pray and cry out in intercession to my Savior Jesus Christ to touch you through His Holy Spirit.

Let Victoria have victory in her life through a deep and personal relationship with you.

Help her family in their time of need and cast out the demon of cancer and depression in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.

You have told us that you have plans for us to prosper reveal this to your children Jeremiah 29:11.

Give them your Spirit of overcoming the challenges of this world for your glory.

Amen.

With God nothing is impossible.

Dear Victoria,

I wish you all the best and a lot of power and love to stay aside with your mother in this very sad and hard time ....

best regards

Andreas

Dear all! Empathy and compassion unite people if even one person is suffering.

Dear Victoria,

Sorry that I could not make time to visit research gate for a couple of days. Normally I avoid discussing cancer because my mother also died from this disease. However when I understand that your mother also is suffering from the same ailment I could not check myself from writing few lines to show my heart felt sympathy. From such a distance I can not give you any assistance. However please note that mentally I am always with you. I do hope that you will definitely be able to deal with this difficult situation. With all the best wishes,

An old man from India

Terminal illness like cancer are devastating for the person and the family. One has to deal such people with utmost empathy. Be a very patient listener. They could be aggressive and depressed. Seeing a family member going through this phase is  emotionally draining. So take frequent time out with them and make them aware that there are worst scenarios for others who don't have even have empathetic carers. Do things with them which will make them happy even though it may be silly for us. Find time for them. There are forums / group where they could catch with other patients who has similar problems. That will help them vent out their feelings and get some moral boost from someone who has overcome the terminal illness. Prayers for all the patients who are suffering from this illness and their families. God bless :)

Very well-said Meena. Thank you

 I want to thank you all, dear collegues, your powerful words.

Some of you wrote sad stories, others hopeful words, some others send me a lot of info about this field, other of you wrote some prays... 

I have no words... 

I know patients want their families treat them like if they had no illness. That reminds me the film "The fault in our stars". I know it is dificult... but I think I can with my family, do more confortable my mom's life. I thank you once more all the info.

When it all ends, my wish is to help others in the same situation with the experience I've improved all this years. We are expecting a miracle, and also if it happens I want and need to help others.

Good luck dear @Victoria with your mom. My best wishes to all of your family. I have had such experience so I do understand your attitude. Very positive one, indeed.

Dear Victoria,

I wish you and respected Mom Health and living without painful seconds.

I pray him and you will be be patient in this difficult days and consider this situation as serious exam that Lord prepared for you!

Hopefully you will be passed with successful result.

Wish you all the best

Victoria, may I know that who is suffering with cancer and what type? But any condition please bear coolly, pray to god.

Dear Victoria,

You're such a brave girl to share sth so personal. And you are so noble. See, how many people give you a hand!

In spite of all the difficulties, do not forget to tell your Mom how much you love her, and to ask for her help and valuable advices. Sometimes this could work and awake incredible powers, because the meaning of life of a mother is to take care.

Take care and be strong!

N.F.

Thinking that this is only but one of the challenges that life poses to eveybody in each moment and at any rate. To find an answer to these is right the individual sense of life. Point to goodness and take care. Hugs Luigi

Thank the Creator for all colleagues in the RG understand and feel pity in a situation where trouble comes. If you can not really help, then there is a chance of spiritual compassion.

Hello dear all. I am sorry I couldn't answer before. My mother, Bárbara, has type IV, with metastasis on bones (specially on vertebras) and has lungs and liver damaged...

She has Breast Cancer... And she is on an experimental essay. We are expecting a miracle.

So sorry to listen dear Victoria. God will shower miracle on  your mother . We all pray together for early  wellness of your mother. Amen.

It is the fact that cancer is the disturbing disease with creates a depression on the patient & all the members of the family get involved in the patient & in certain cases creating a sorry episode for the patient .

For the member of the family ,they should understand that our life is the time passage between the birth & the death & where the death is certain -not in our hand.

With this pure understanding members of the family should not create an sorry environment for the patient & they should create a positive atmosphere for the patient so that they may establish hope & aspiration for the patient to move the pathway of recovery with the help of Dr s' advice & the necessary therapy if it is needed .

For any serious illness of any nature including cancer we have to establish firm faith within the patient with the help of power of prayer,meditation ,& such other practices . In two serious case of cancer which have observed & noticed by me for my close associated friends who have been suffering 1 with throat cancer & another with breast cancer .Throat cancer patient took his treatment at USA & for inspiration of the faith every treatment & appointment of therapy is family is to contact me which i used to pass them atmosphere of hopes,faith ,for his speedy recovery .

After taking the treatment of 9 month time he has been recovered & started during his activities . 

The same is to for a patient suffering from breast cancer taking the treatment about last one yrs or more but she is in a comfortable stage with the confidence ,& faith which has been generated to her for the recovery .In short it is the responsibility of family to create necessary & to establish a faith & confidence on the patient for speedy recovery .

Dear Victoria :

In my experience, I have two or more cases of people with diseases such as cancer , and did not present depressive behaviors. The factor is the same faith. When people are faced with death, it may be that they need more than hope given by science. They need to feel the support not only of his family and friends, a "supernatural" help is needed. I'm not an expert in this topics, I'm sharing my experience. I hope this comment help you in your research

Many people understand that death is a natural process. But few people humbled with this understanding, because life expectancy correlate different people.

Dear Victoria, 

Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last, and the living one, and I became dead, but look! I am living forever and ever, and I have the keys of death and of the Grave.

Jesus, Revelation 1:17-18, NWT

Help your mother to draw a line from birth till today. Help her to mark her meaningful events and years on the line.  What happened to your mother and what is important to her according to her opinion, makes its more clear  for her to see that she is "closing  the doors to filled barns and not just gazing at empty  fields" (V.E. Frankl)

warm regards

Béatrice

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Dear Beatrice, thank you for supporting Victoria.

Human in the life and death should not be alone with death.

Vladimir

 Dear Victoria, I express my sympathies to you. May the Almighty bestow on you a lot of patience and courage to face the stark reality. 

Dear Victoria

Your question makes me nervous. But after the spell of nervousness comes the braveness from within- from the depths of the eternal self, you can say if you please, the soul! The thought of someone near and dear being terminally ill is both a cause of worry and responsibility. Those around the patient can bring magic and magical improvements in the life of the suffering soul. 

Everybody knows that one day one has to depart from this world to another world; the journey ahead in the heavens which for all purposes of creation is anticipated to be better than this present life. Sufferings are not but either the test of our patience and thankfulness to our Creator and Sustainer or the washing away of our mistakes and misgivings. 

God has created the world. God has created the sufferings and enjoyments like days and nights. After every night, there is a day. So, after every suffering, there is a joy.   After every pain, there is a relief. 

I cannot but feel the grief of the cancer patients. I have seen a few ones' pains. But I have also seen some of them who tried to take control of their will-power and faced the reality with all braveness. Many a times, the will-power helps a lot magically. There is no medicine against death. But there is every cure against anything less than that. 

Being positive and hopeful for the better is the last thing I will say to you.

Believe in GOD! Believe in yourself being a creation of GOD! Submit yourself to the will of GOD! Rest assured GOD is Great, and GOD is the Kindest to the Mankind.

Please, excuse me for my lack of appropriate words. Words can never be the cariers of one's sentiments.

With apologies and WITH THE BEST WISHES

Israr

Dear all,

I want to thank all your answers once more, because they encourage me a lot.

But I also have to say sorry that I am very occuppied at home that I cannot answer your private messages nor your answers to my questions.

Work at home is that hard.

I promise you I will be soon back again.

Best regards,

Victoria Negro.

Dear Victoria! We understand. We are together. The courage peculiar to women. Men bow to such courage.

Vladimir

In my own search for truth I found it came when I searched and asked.

Renzo you are right that God must be experienced to be real to the person.

To be revealed people must 1) be in search 2) ask for revelation 3) accept their relationship with Him.

Without the new birth one cannot start the Spiritual growth process. The cultivation of the new Spirit is by relationship, reading and doing according to the prompting which comes in the secret place of worship sanctuary with us.

In busy modern life many have not allocated time and space for spiritual growth through their relationship with God.

Dear Victoria, Please know that your loved one is acting normally under his/her circumstances. The patient is most likely very angry with this revolt by the cancer against his or her own body. One may become actually become angry with their body for failing them! There may be a feeling of helplessness that goes along with the situation, and after helplessness comes depression, for the options can be few. No one wants to die, but knowing that this could happen and that cancer is the culprit is so sad. Suddenly time is limited. You say that there is a good support group around the patient - if so, the patient may take his hostilities and anger out on those that are closest, which is a very human reaction. And of course chemotherapy will make anyone physically ill and can drain them of energy and cheer. Understand, forgive, continue to love and have faith. Honor the patient's wishes even though it may hurt you emotionally. My prayers are with you.