According to Einstein, education can help.

"Ego=1/Knowledge More the knowledge lesser the ego, lesser the knowledge more the ego.”.     - Albert Einstein 

People who are truly knowledgeable on a broader scale, picking up useful and interesting information here and there, understand the vastness of the universe and how insignificant humans really are. 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/gurdeep-pandher/does-knowledge-create-ego_b_8124908.html

There is some academics studies on emotional work. Perhaps these studies can higlight this phenomenon. Also The Palo Alto school adress this problem on their studies about non violent communication. It is very important to adress our comment about people realisation and not about people caracteristics. You are not stupid but your answer was stupid, its just an example, of course.

Humility is a coveted virtue. Absolute determination to be humble controls ego. I may sound religious, but as a Christian, I know that ''God resist the proud, but gives grace to the humble''. This is one very important check to ego in my life.  

The following quote gives a good hint to control one's ego:

"I work really hard at trying to see the big picture and not getting stuck in ego. I believe we're all put on this planet for a purpose, and we all have a different purpose... When you connect with that love and that compassion, that's when everything unfolds." — Ellen DeGeneres (Taken from

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/keywords/ego.html)

Namely, learning that we're all put on this planet for a purpose and that we all have a different purpose will foster the mind of love and compassion to overcome ego.

Thanks for the invitation.

I don't know if there is any research on this issue. From my experience, oppression, both inner and outer, feed egoism. Thus, a way to control an excessive ego may be the limitation of the oppression. Education has the potential to play a noticeable role towards this direction.

Usually humans are egoistic and quite emotional. The degree varies from person to person. Way to conquer ego is through LOVE. Try to see All persons equally whether poor or rich, bad or good. Help them if possible. There is saying that if your mouth is good whole world is good at you.

Controlling ego does not come in a single sit. As I told varies person to person and depends on many factors, family environment, how they born and brought up, friend circle etc.

Psychologists know/say about 'ego'. If people are too much egoistic better take counselling that helps. 

All actions, in all situations, are performed by the gunaas of prakriti. He who is completely deluded by the ego thinks “I am the doer”.

Bhagavad Gita Verse 27, Chapter 3

https://gitajourney.com/2012/01/04/bhagavad-gita-verse-27-chapter-3/

In order to control one'ego I has found very useful to us to always bear in mind either

-the Socratic paradox: “I know one thing: that I know nothing”

 -or the Delphic maxim: γνώσει δὲ σαυτὸν (Know yorself) (Thanks very much, Dr  Jon D. Mikalson).

Keeping silent for a few milliseconds without reacting to any situation, and then think before responding. This automatically controls ego. Mind has to be conditioned that way and then everything else will be in place.right away.

How to control one's ego?

I concurred with the comments shared by Emeka - humbleness is one of the keys to control ego.  When a person is humble, s/he sees others better or stronger than him / her, s/he has the willing heart to learn, s/he is willing to interact with others and s/he will gain more knowledge.  The more knowledge s/he has; the more s/he finds that s/he is lacking in which this causes him or her to be more humble etc.  So Ego = 1 / humbleness.  Moreover, humbleness is quite the opposite of ego which is more self-center.  When a person is egoistic, s/he will be proud, s/he will stop learning etc. that can lead to his / her downfall.

Of course, preaching does not help much. But, I  think, developing emotional intelligence is definitely important for controlling one's ego. So, when we work in an organization, attempts can be made to scientifically inculcate liking for improving people's incidence of emotional intelligence. Can there be other such techniques? Perhaps, meditation can also help.

I think:

Ego is produced in his or her brain (as it were body's computer), not in his or her mind.

Ego is a mental process working in the negative direction & very often so to say with an evil approach .Ego comes out with the glory & standing of an individual forgetting the basic facts that for such achievement you are merely moving in the ivory tower by viewing very important stars of the other person.

With this Ego comes from the person who has not seen & observed the negative traits of his life & also to make endeavor to improve in this direction for which his conscious mind has become the victim of the EGO .

Unfortunately his pride,Greed,Jealously ,Anger,remain the cause of his Ego & in their such individuals merely move in their growing without seeing the beautiful signal sign of other person achievement & contribution .

This is my personal opinion 

Ego interacts with a panoply of emotional and character flaws that create a multitude of situational outcomes. The variety of ego response mechanisms differ with each individual. As Rohit notes, egotism arise from unrestrained or poorly managed jealousy, anger, self-importance, pride, stubbornness, superiority, inferiority, and a whole host of other human traits. Often these negative traits are not apparent to the person exhibiting them. Other times the person is fully aware, but either does not care or feels justified in their actions/conduct. Sometimes egotism comes from an individual never being humbled, "put in one's place", or told that they are wrong.

I differ from one comment in that I have met many smart, educated individuals who had egos of epic proportion. One had the whole premise of his dissertation proved conclusively wrong and, in his position of authority over a project, had our irrefutable findings rejected as sloppy work.

I think that in this matter, as in so many others, the best cure is education. The more education one gets, the more one is (or should be) aware of one's own limitations, and that can only help to control one's ego. This is also associated with religious extremism. The more you know, the more that should create doubt about what you think you know.

Most of the time, though, an overblown ego is a symptom of insecurity. It might seem counterintuitive, but I think this is generally the case. The question then MIGHT be, why is it that some well educated people are also so insecure? Could be any number of reasons for this, including their upbringing, being denigrated when they were young, overly critical parenting, and who knows what else.

Very difficult to remove ego but we should try. I personally feel just love without any expectation removes the ego of ones.

Are not religions about controlling ego? their answer is a rigid hierarchy

A more practical approach for researchers like ourselves: peer review is an effective tool for controlling ego or being over-confidence. Being rejected by a peer review process once in a while could reinforce one's humility and the value of self-re-examination.

Dear Debi S. Saini

 Thank you again for inviting me to participate in discussion forums that you coordinate. The question now is extremely important addresses (the Ego, the Self) in both human survival as individual and species, so that they remain on earth as hommo sapiens.

 Actually it has to do with moral values and ethical principles that guide the behavior of human beings in society and emotional and regulations governing their coexistence with others. Recently known for the development of these values, principles and behaviors and skills of Emotional Intelligence, which is increasingly recognized its quality and importance, as with cognitive intelligence, they are considered privileged means to succeed in life .

 I agree on the need to strengthen the ego to maintain mental and emotional health at the level of self-esteem, essential to handle safely in their family, work and general social environment. A weak ego can lead individuals to underestimate their emotional abilities (even more than already deteriorated) and being unappreciated by others in the fields where you intend to develop.

 On the contrary a hypertrophied Ego can bring the person beyond a mere selfishness low social impact, as it can lead to a pathological and emotional mental illness of such a degree situation that endangers his life and that of others, having no containment capacity, even the degree criminal brawls, or worse, in massive war crimes ((genocide).

 I have found serious pathological studies relating to mental illness Ego with the type of bipolar illness, diagnoses and specific treatments with scientifically well documented.

 Other neurological and psychological studies, both clinical and experimental, have documented alteration in the development and maturation of the frontal lobes, the seat of the ability to assess ethical and moral ideas, thoughts and behaviors social survival, coexistence and risk. Situation in the best becomes selfish and unsociable individual, but in severe cases makes the psychopath subject, with destructive behavior in society and potential murderer.

 In this also involves the development and maturation of a neurological structure called the amygdala in the brain stem, which along with retro-information from the frontal cortex regulates healthy social behavior (moral) human and avoid aggressive behavior at risk high impact.

 Finally there is increasing evidence that education in values and ethical and moral principles that depart fundamentally from the family, and they become stronger and mature in social interaction schooled, are vital for the healthy development of the ego, self-esteem, self-realization individually and respect and tolerance in communication and social interaction.

 regards

 Dr. Jose Luis Garcia Vigil

Do not feel high of yourself.

Stay Humble and all Humility.

If these two are practiced, any body can get rid of ego!!

“Don’t sacrifice yourself too much, because if you sacrifice too much there’s nothing else you can give and nobody will care for you.” ― Karl Lagerfeld

In ego death, you feel a unity with the entire world, but also, you experience the loss of your power of self-government. The first scope-of-concern is "being"; the second is cyber-agency, that is, personal governorship, personal steersmanship, self-steering, self-guiding, self-controlling.

Ego transcendence; ego death; the futility of the approaches that demonize ego

The problem is not to promote ego... or to condemn ego... THE PROBLEM IS TO EXPLAIN all the meanings, concepts, experiences, and usages of those things or patterns that can well be labelled 'ego'.

To declare ego flat-out nonexistent is to FAIL TO EXPLAIN anything.

http://www.egodeath.com/egodeath.htm

Dear Debi,

Meditation, Acting  with love and compassion. Not trying to impress others, Notspeaking badly of others are suggested among other practical ways to control the ego. Bearing in mind that change in behavour is difficult :)

Please see the links for more details 

http://www.dawngluskin.com/2012/01/19/7-tips-to-gaining-insights-that-will-quiet-ego-and-allow-your-bright-light-to-shine/

http://advancedlifeskills.com/blog/personal-development-–-is-your-ego-getting-in-the-way/

http://www.srichinmoybio.co.uk/blog/self-improvement/how-to-reduce-the-ego/

Ego is a psychological issue and depends on ones mental frame and conditioning during the growing years. A learned person is generally polite, but sometimes, there could be intellectual arrogance, which is a negative disposition. The controlling of ego requires the realization of self, which is possible through yogic exercises and meditation, that will provide inner peace and tranquility.

In vedic times yogis investigated the deepest nature of human being. They developed a coherent philosophy on human existence on the material, psychological and spiritual levels. The vedic model of human psychology consists of five concentric circles or koshas representing body, mind, ego, intellect, and self. An ego is an inflated sense of self-worth. When ego is used in excessive form it leads to karmic issue which in turn take the human life towards unhappiness. Ego is some sort of dark force associated with the persons mind which causes the person to take the wrong decision of life taking into account the self rather than the whole. Ego is the conscious-thinking of the self which causes the person to separates from the whole. Vedic mantra "ऊँ (Om)" provides solutions to deal with such kind of ego and some sort of emotions whether it is jealousy, attachment, arrogance, grief, worries, fear or ignorance etc.

My little contribution on this topic: I think that the ego can be controlled by increasing awareness on the tension between ego-the others; going beyond the individual-communitarian tension, throught the learning of co-generative thinking and educational attitudes focused on the relational being. I think that Gergen's work is useful.

Above all: Gergen, Kenneth (2009) Relational being: Beyond self and community.

Best wishes, 

Marisa

I think that the ego consists of many pairs of negative and positive matters. However, they are necessary to live and learn in this world.  Too negative side is always bad. Too positive side is always good.

Akira Iwasaki

it is psychosexual theory of Freud's theory.

Id it is biological derivative, superego is asking for libido but ego can be grown through community moral, I think it is very important to return back to the previous believe, in all overall religions, they asking for good behavior and avoid bad one. also it is very important for every one to understand what is good behavior and what is bad behavior, the differentiation between this two question is very important. overall my idea is human composed of three components which are mental, psychosocial, and physical. it is essential for every one to keep and save all this three components. three anatomical part such as tongue, eyes, which is affect of their genital area and hands are very important to used correctly , because all abuse, violence, injuries, psychosocial problems are victims of the above areas.

To be able to control one’s mind, ego and desire corresponding to a given situation is required in undertaking an unemotional and rational consideration of other people’s opinions, values, beliefs, or ideas towards a fair decision-making. Tolerance, in other words, neutralises biases or any other form of preconceptions and, therefore, allows an individual to be more open to new possibilities and to think creatively. Wilkinson, in his Modes of Leadership Theory that is mostly founded on the construct of ambiguity tolerance, suggested that individuals who are more tolerant about the various ambiguities of life are more likely to be the innovators and inveterate learners (Marchington and Wilkinson 2002).

For more information please refer to the following link

http://www.genuinewriting.com/blog/tag/controlling-of-ones-ego/

Mr. Artur, I like Ronaldo too.  He is definitely one of the best players in the history . Perhaps everyone would have liked him more if .....

Please see the link:

There is no doubt that a touch of humility would make Ronaldo more personable, appreciated even. “In football I don’t have a lot of friends,” he says. “People I really trust? Not many. Most of the time I’m alone. I consider myself an isolated person.”

To criticise Ronaldo for his ego is to misunderstand the role that such confidence plays at the highest level. There is a necessity for self-confidence in sport, because it provides belief; nobody ever won a race they did not believe they could win. Arrogance is borne out of a desire to cover up vulnerability. At the highest level of sport, vulnerability is exploited as a weakness; arrogance is the comfort blanket.

Ego also allows for setbacks to be acknowledged and then vanquished, with psychological studies revealing that those with high self-confidence are likely to enjoy increased long-term performance. Success breeds confidence and confidence breeds success.

... Sports psychologist Bill Beswick, who has worked with Manchester United and England, takes that line. “Ego is very powerful and can be the driving force behind performance. Roy Keane had intense self-belief. He maximised his ego to make the absolute best of himself.” There is a difference between Keane’s ego and Ronaldo’s, of course, but that is only natural. Just as players rely on speed, strength and technical ability in differing quantities, so too with ego.

It is not difficult to understand why Ronaldo is disliked. He will forever be a divisive figure, a stunning on-field record undermined by his personality in the minds of millions who will never meet him. Those are the pitfalls of success and fame.

http://www.football365.com/news/cristiano-ronaldo-and-a-necessary-arrogance

You have asked the twisted question !!!!

We can control our own EGO, and the outcome of the results we have to bear it.

The other's EGO can be controlled by how you SACRIFICE for him !

Giving up each other could be better way of letting go the EGO

"Fear and stress cause slavery"- as an effective tool of violence of all kinds.Ego and fear, ego and experience, ego and creativity, "enculturated ego and transcendental ego", "The Ego and Ego Identity" by K.Ferlic. "The ego is not something we normally consciously create. Rather it arises from, and assumes a form, quite naturally within mind based on the experiences we have had and our perception of those experiences. It's an iceberg: how our inner world is reflected in the outer. In any case, most memories bind some amount of our creative life energy. We are a being of unlimited creativity"

"Do you agree that everything in our life has a so called "dose-related effect?"

https://www.researchgate.net/post/Do_you_agree_that_everything_in_our_life_has_a_so_called_dose-related_effect#view=570f1fcbcbd5c211165cc0e1

"Cost of Creativity and "Stress-to-Steron"??

https://www.researchgate.net/post/Cost_of_Creativity_Stress-to-Steron#view=57373826f7b67ecc1d2280fd

 http://ryuc.info/creativityphysics/mind/ego.htm

A high  Emotional Intelligence level may help in overcoming the Ego problem that most of the people face knowingly-unknowingly.The study of Kenneth S. Law & Chi-Sum Wong  suggest four sub dimensions :Self Emotions Appraisal, Others' Emotion Appraisal,Use of Emotions & Regulation of emotion.Understanding & execution of these dimensions  in one's life  helps to a large extent in balancing one's emotions which are the prime source of EGO, thereby reducing & controlling negative feelings towards others. 

No ego as Ego.

Dear Debi:

In my view, as another colleague said before, emotional intelligence is probably a key factor. I imagine however that the issue is less severe if the person is already predisposed to monitor and control his/her "egotistic" outlook and impulses. The real problem, I think, arises when the individual is too egotistic to even think about that possibility. 

I would state that the ego is made up of healthy and unhealthy egos. the unhealthy (often referred as egocentric) is created by a feeling of insecurity in the people often resulting in toxic behavior like materialistic and power greed with personalized goals . The healthy ego is where one is conscious and aware of the self..seen more in authentic people with social goals.

I am on the side that much better than controlling one's ego is just not having any ego. This is the real liberation. The death of one' s ego is indeed the liberation from many unnecessary burdens that culture, society, and history have thrown over each of us.

An ego-centered life can be considered a very sad and unfortunate life. Our ability to connect, love and laugh together is what makes the human experience so wonderful and enjoyable. When we let our egos take control of our lives, we break with the most satisfying elements of life. It's as if we forget that it's all just a movie, and we take things more seriously than they should be.

Effective Ways To Help You Control Your Ego

• Do something nice for a subordinate.
• Tell someone something you've been keeping in for long.
• Let someone else talk for a change.
• And really listen to them.
• Step down if you have to.
• Compliment someone.
• Put yourself in the other person's shoes.
• Maybe avoid using the word “I” often.

I think it depends on the person. I think sometimes, I ought to have a bit more ego! I think I probably did before I retired, but now, I think I'm the quiet one.

My ego argues with me. With some things I have the ego to just go and do it, such as in a work situation. I can do my work confidently, work with colleagues of all grades equally, and ask questions where I need to. On the other hand, I may wish to give a dear friend a big hug and talk to him non-stop about different things, but my self-esteem lets me down and I don't give that hug or say those things. Then I feel guilty because that dear friend may want or need that hug and that support.

Always accept correction

“A high self-esteem having artist works hard to be understood. A low self-esteem having artist works hard to be agreed with.”

― Mokokoma Mokhonoana https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/consensus

I basically wrote an entire paper on this subject from the "Eastern perspective."

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