How is character important in achieving goals? What effect does character have on your relationship with others? How does character allow you to fit in?
For the past fifty years, there has been no external value or reward when it comes to character and integrity; it does not offer anything in today's society. Ultimately, it ostracizes you from society without the intention of doing so. You will not fit in and you will not achieve your goals since you are deemed as not conforming and not being obedient to social norms. What you do have is the freedom to be yourself, think for yourself, but not too many individuals will understand you since it is rare that we strive or embody that mode of living these days. You will have strength with no effort and a satisfied mind. It is lonely at the top.
Dear respected Adina Cameo,
Uhmmmm, reality of life. There has been no external value or reward when it comes to character and integrity but you will have strength over other with no effort and also have a satisfied mind.
Thanks for informative comment of yours.
Best regards.
Kifilideen.
No good character, ones success could turn to failure in one day. Success in life cannot and will not be sustained without good character.
I guess the the answer is in your question; to be a very important and somone consider as goals traker ; just be happy and satisfy by your first mistake and then ; be happy again because ; happiness and satisfication most important two elements to be as a successful individual 🙏
10 character building points to Live Yourself Happy, succeed.
1. Be Humble
The highest form of humility is the acceptance of our limitations – even if acknowledging our limitless potential – while unflinchingly recognizing the truth of humanity’s interdependence and our reliance on something or someone higher than us.
Humility is a quiet sort of confidence, an inner strength that allows for vulnerability because its possessor cares more about what is true than who is right. Humble people are teachable because, unlike the proud, they are open to criticism and correction without being emotionally battered and bruised by what is said or even how it’s said. True humility not only requires emotional strength and confidence, but an inner maturity and emotional independence of others’ opinions.
It is in that inner strength that happiness can grow to full maturity. Humility is also the gateway to developing all other character traits in that humble people are open to opportunities to learn and grow, to develop and improve. Therein lay the secret of humility’s influence on happiness: Humility leads to personal growth. Personal growth leads to more joy.
2. Be Courageous
At exactly that point where courage falters, is the point at which all other character traits fail as well. In other words, courage is needed to nail every other character trait to the wall of integrity.
Loving the loveable is easy. But loving the unlovable takes courage. Being loyal to your friends is easy in front of your friends. Being loyal when there is pressure to be disloyal requires courage to stay true. Honesty when you know you will be praised for speaking it is easy. But honesty when you know you will be in all kinds of trouble for telling the truth requires all kinds of courage to tell it anyway.
Confronting weakness. Stepping into the unknown. Grabbing hold of life-changing opportunity. Trying something you’ve never done before. Opening your heart after having it broken. Ending the subtle poison of procrastination. Jumping into the deep-end of life. All such behavior requires varying degrees of courage. Happiness requires all such behavior.
3. Be Grateful
Habitually grateful people – those for whom gratitude is a way of life – are not only thankful for what most of us are thankful for (a promotion, a birthday gift, a strangers’ good deed), but are even thankful for lessons buried deep in the trial and heartbreak of life.
Grateful people notice the light in the dark, joy in the sad and purpose in sorrow. Where ingrates only see pain, despair and emptiness, those who have mastered the attitude of gratitude see opportunity and fullness and Heaven’s guiding hand even at those moments it may appear we’ve been abandoned.
They are also grateful for what others might consider the ordinary and common – that which is so easily taken for granted. They notice the rose along the path and appreciate its fragrance. They smile at the curiosity of the child who asks question after question after question. They notice the flutter of leaves in the breeze and the blueness of the sky and the crispness of autumn. And they feel the radiant glow of joy in each act of appreciation they offer.
4. Be Tolerant
The truly happy are a tolerant bunch. They are tolerant of others’ mistakes. They are appropriately tolerant of their own (see #10). They tolerate the uncertainty of life. They don’t feel the need to control it or to control others. They have thick skin. They don’t blow up or blow things out of proportion. They can live comfortably with change and disruption and opposing ideas and attitudes.
5. Be Loving
Love is the great neutralizer of negativity. It allows us to see pain behind anger, to recognize hidden misfortune behind very public expressions of bitterness and to reach out with kindness and compassion to those who strike out in fear and blame. Love truly does conquer all.
And the purer the love, the deeper the happiness it produces. Pure or perfect or unconditional love is no longer simply an expression of love to a particular person (my mom, my child, my best friend), but is a generalized expression of an internal condition of the soul.
6. Be Forgiving
Forgiveness at its highest form is forgiveness broadly applied, as an expression of a forgiving heart. It is the attitude of forgiveness. It manifests itself even as the offense is taking place. It is spontaneous forgiveness. It’s the attitude of Gandhi to his jailors, and Jesus to his crucifiers. And it is a character trait of the very deeply happy.
Those who carry the weight of grudges grow to be crooked and disfigured with hate and resentment. But those who can throw off such disfiguring burdens of the soul are lighter, freer and happier.
7. Be Selfless
Selfishness is the great destroyer of love and compassion, of kindness, empathy and happiness. The problem is that it is also quite a natural part of the human condition.
But there is a paradox that is also, at least in part, a solution to the problem. It is when you truly lose yourself in serving others, that you actually start to find yourself on a much deeper level. So uproot the natural, but crippling characteristic of selfishness and learn to release and love and feel. Step into the moccasins of others, see through their eyes, feel with their hearts. Serve, bless, help and watch the selfish impulse slowly drain away.
Out of that service you render will rise a deeper sense of meaning and purpose and joy in living for something higher than yourself.
8. Be Honest
Be true to others. If you say you’ll do a thing, do it. If you’re not sure you’ll get to it, don’t say it. This builds credibility. Others will come to trust and respect you when they are confident your word is a stronger adhesive to action than a law suit is a disincentive to being dishonest. And as a wonderful side effect, there is an inner confidence and joy that comes to people who live honest lives.
Be true to yourself. Don’t pursue a career in medicine when you ache to become an architect or teacher. Don’t allow the incongruence and dissonance that is the result of living out of sync with who you fundamentally are. But who are you fundamentally? You are a person with immense potential, a man or woman who has the spark of divinity glowing within your soul, who has unbelievable stores of possibility. Be true to that part of you.
Be true to universal principles. Integrity to higher values, to universal realities, to truth, is our highest call. Unhappiness is largely the result of living incongruently to truth. Somewhere inside each of us is the soft yearning to live a higher, nobler life of integrity. Something speaks from our souls, longing for the good and the holy. We can hear it whisper when we’re quiet enough to hear it. Happy people are those who live more consistently to those principles.
9. Be Persistent
When the going gets tough, what do you do? Do you sit down, role over, and play dead? Or do you buckle in, readjust, hit the gas, and blow through barriers?
The road to happiness is liberally sprinkled with obstacles of difficulty and challenge, of trial and tribulation and sorrow and pain. Those who persist, who persevere and endure, these are they who are the happiest amongst us. They achieve more and do more and overcome more. Why? Simple: They don’t give up; they persist.
10. Be Expectantly Patient
What do I mean by being expectantly patient? Perhaps it is best put this way: Be impatient enough with life that you run more than sleep, that you climb more than fall, that you learn more than cram, that you laugh more than cry, that you live more than die.
Be patient with yourself as you allow yourself the room to learn … and allow yourself to trip and fall … and allow yourself back up on your feet to brush yourself off … and develop … and improve … and evolve … and grow. And be patient enough with others that you confirm and validate and love them even when they are not living up to who you know they can be.
Being expectantly patient is the patience that allows for mistakes, but doesn’t settle for where you fall. It smiles when you stumble, then runs a little faster after recovering balance for the sheer joy of the run. It’s accepting life’s ups and down while still living with passion, expecting challenge and opportunity, sometimes at the same time, and sometimes one through the other.
It is the art of simultaneously accepting the common lot of imperfect humanity and recognizing the potential for something amazing in each one of us at the same time.
The most important component of an individual's personality is morality, humanity, humility and culture
The character is very important in any way, however, relatively it's different from country to another. People may reach their goals by just show and talking, others hardly working with highly character don't reach their goals. It has no unified rule. It depends !!!
What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills - your EQ - not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.
- Daniel Goleman
Character is the basis of happiness and happiness the sanction of character.
- George Santayana
Do something wonderful, people may imitate it.
- Albert Schweitzer
It is not just a character but a strong will character, discipline, and a wise and inquisitive approach to life and people help a lot in achieving the indicated goals.
No good character, individual would not be able to sustain success in life.
Good character is very important not only in the aspect of maintaining the success status but it is vital in our daily dealings
Valuable contributions by respected colleagues on this discussion
Man must set goals for his life and strive to achieve them, because achieving goals makes us happy. There is a need to keep us in front of the stresses and problems of life and make us breathe, we draw and plan and change the effort, and dream to achieve and access to what we want, and these goals must be lofty, important and useful, not limited to personal interest.
How is character important in achieving goals, happiness and success in life?
Dear respected Han Ping Fung, thanks for sharing the attributes of character a person must possess for someone to achieve goal, happiness and success in life which are staying humble regardless your achievement, Passion & perseverance, Sociable, Helpful and Forgiveful.
Best regards,
Kifilideen.
character is individual characteristics that, when put into practice, have an extremely beneficial impact on human development.
A person of character seeks true happiness in living a life of purpose and meaning, placing a higher value on significance than success.
- Michael Josephson
Happiness is not the whole aim of education. A man must be independent in his powers and character; able to work and assert his mastery over all that depends on him.
- Maria Montessori
Excellent contributions to the discussion. My sincere thank you to all colleagues.
Best regards.
Kifilideen.
Kifilideen, thank you for your insightful and profound question. I would add a positive note to my earlier comment. You may not receive external value that you deserve when you live by the internal value of integrity and character, which, is a consequence of the sign of the times i.e. if you live that way in the late 60s and early 70s, you would flourish. Several great thinkers and creators didn't receive the external merit and value they deserved in their lifetime and only received it after they died. You may not fit in now, but it is still important to be determined and work towards your goals that have internal value even though the world has been upside down for quite some time. Perhaps that this upside down world is at its peek isn't so bad, it made you and the amazing people who gave feedback think more about it.
You never know when things may shift. To sacrifice my character or integrity would crush my soul. When someone does sacrifice their character, it creates dissonance within them and that disharmony spreads to those around us, and it creates this social norm of nihilistic thinking and living. It is my foolish hope that the few of us who do not sacrifice our character, who have the courage to stick to living the way we do, will spread this way of living to those around us.
We only have one life; I live it in a way that is meaningful to me so that I don't have anything weighing on my head and so I don't have regrets on my deathbed.
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