Dear Fatimah

Motivation is something that comes with the personality of the people . Some can be , even if apparently happy all the time . But that is the motivation they present even with the difficulties of life , and escaping everyday . Able to put it into practice is a matter of time , even for people who think negatively about your own life .

To motivate people around you , you need to have positive thoughts , recognize that the errors appear to learn and grow in life. Tell people how important they are , but always sincerely . The simple fact of the talk as a coworker , relative, or friend is important to our lives , can be the starting point to be able to motivate the person .

Able to explore , along with the people you want to motivate , the good things in life, they can enable a new way of seeing the world , and to understand how things ( natural beauty , lively people among others) are important for natural cycle of life , and recalled that in everyday life, become more proactive , happy, and aware of its existence to the world and people person . Feel important and responsible , is a factor that motivates anyone .

Now , if the person has too disheartened to the point of being depressed , it is important that it seek medical help. Depression can be genetic or even past experiences origin. With the help of a psychologist , she can explore and experience the good life the best way possible according to the knowledge of professional

Fatimah, try a little good humor, and if the person resists, bring to work some home-cooked food and share it with that person. You will see how quickly food can counter a sour disposition!

Talk and open discussion between two people can solve lot more problems or can make the situation better. Sometimes we don't properly communicate the message and our expectations clearly to the people we are dealing with.

Expectations work both way and if it do not work as it was thought either from one or from both ways the bridge starts to collapse. Some people are very good at self motivating and some are not. Who is good at self motivating always is a better performer and much productive and seems to be happier. For the other kind of personality special care and attention to be taken to resolve the issues by encouraging verbally or by offering some sort of positive direction upon completing the project with a very good and positive impact on his/her career. It is common human psychology that everyone wants to lead a better life and if anyone can communicate this messgae properly and in a timely manner that really helps.

Try to open multi channels of communications; direct and indirect.

This is a very interesting discussion. We may attempt to motivate a negative minded person by:

a) Keeping the communication channel open,

b) Talking to him and understanding his "perspective"

c) Involving him in various activities.

d) Listening, listening, and listening to him.

As they say, its is from "negative" that a positive image is developed (true in photography !!)

People are negative because they are

1) Not that successful

2) Pessimistic because they failed and never managed to tried again

3) Who aren't satisfied with their lives

So best is to have extended discussion with them to understand their viewpoint. Listen carefully. Give examples of positive and negative instances that the person can easily understand and correlate. It is a very slow process, so have a lot of patience. Find persons with whom the person has more confidence and interact with them. Involve them in activities where they can be successful.

Leave alone motivating a negative - minded person; it is better if we can identify that type PERSONALITY and avoid wasting time on such CLOSED people...

Every individual is brilliant to identify a OPEN and a CLOSED person, if there are welcoming character to OPENNESS then imparting any input is at ease and motivating to the teacher / trainer...

Thank you all. Very interesting approaches and responses. You have given me lots of insights and guides to strategise the matter professionally. First of all knowing the personality and perspective, then listen, understand and communicate either direct or indirect (humour may helps)... than the most important one is extended discussion. Will try my best. If I fail, Ill get someone close to do it. Thanks again.

It is clear that motivations are associated with that person's personality and one of the hardest things to do is to change someone's attitudes. I think everyone debated this subject in a very precise way, but this may not be as easy as it seems. For example, a person can feel down because of family issues and it will affect work productivity. Since those issues are personal nobody will know why that person is not performing well and feeling demotivated. So, I suggest a direct approach. Let him/her express his feelings and his expectations. Get to know what he/she thinks about the main issues that are "closest" to him/her. Then, you will have to do your part. You need to keep his/her humor up and his/her expectations high. Also, failure may be an option. I always say that it's when we fail that we actually learn. If we keep on winning we will feel like we're on top but if somehow we lose we crumble down so fast that it may be extremelly hurtful either for ourselves but also for an organization. That's why everyday you have to talk and approve his/her work if you feel he/she has done his/her best. Dealing with people is one of the hardest jobs and sometimes only time can change people for the better.

Thanks Pedro

I think negating is itself an opportunity to capitalize. What itch person to revolt the things which we believe to be positive? Answering this question you will turn that switch off which irritates the things which you believe are postivie

I think negating is itself an opportunity to capitalize. What itch person to revolt the things which we believe to be positive? Answering this question you will turn that switch off which irritates the things which you believe are postivie

Cultures place a high value on revenge and offer more social support to avengers

http://www.apa.org/monitor/2009/06/revenge.aspx

creating a positive sphere of energy is the great quality

which differs from person to person

mentor the person in concern by external to know the hidden potential

"sometime situations can be used as a motivational tool" These may work:-

1) Don't keep that person idle as "empty mind is demons place". so keep her/him busy with few entertaining task.

2) Do some hangout with that person in park, let her/him to know the beauty of nature like about flower , tree, water fall or little pond, animals,birds and insects. Because nature is best friend for all of us. Ask his/her thinking about those and then explain briefly in positive way.

3) In home she/he can try like painting(whatever is coming to her/his mind), few funny games, few good books may be holy or entertaining or may be inspirational books.

4) let her/him to serve few very poor people or it could be beggar. the resulting smile of beggar will make that person to learn humanity and our roll for each other.

5) Ask that person to do few exercise(yoga is best if he/she can try).

6) Ask that person to listen some classical music or the music he/she loves but classical music is most effective.

7) we cant bring any instantaneous change. Remember "changes always take time". our task is just to start with few positive things.

Suggesting the following ways to motivate the negative-minded person:

1) talk to the person 1 to 1 in quiet place, put up listening ears to listen diligently, ask sensitive questions to understand the problem and show that you care & want to help.

2) may be the negative minded attitude / behavior is just symptom - try find out what is the root cause causing him or her to be negatively minded e.g. personal problems like health issue, financial problem, family problems, peer problems like trust being violated etc.  Once the root cause is identified (sometimes not that straightforward), try to address the root cause as best as you can.

3) after knowing the problem, root cause & the person - depending on his or her character / attitude, some people needs constant motivation & kind words to change, some people need outright reprimand so that s/he can wake up - do this tactfully & discretely.

4) ensure yourself is always positively-minded with positive attitude & behavior to motivate the other person.

5) seek help / opinion from other more experienced person / counselor if you find that this is beyond what you can do alone.

6) don't give up on that person especially if s/he is deemed important to you.

Many years ago a teacher told me something like that: If you have a very negative person or unmotivated don´t give he/she any attention. Give you attention to them how really are interesting and motivated, but imminently when the unmotivated person shows any kind of interests or positivity you give feed-back and give the person attention . 

A leader is one who can motivate others to accomplish the mission.  In saying that, I would personally seek out what motivates that particular individual.  If you seek earnestly, it will become apparent to you what motivates that individual. e.g., maybe just a word of affirmation, maybe public affirmation in front of peers, maybe an honorary award, cash award, time off award, etc.  If you are consistent, that person will begin to notice how much you care for them, and when they do, their disposition will change, and you will have won a valuable and trusted member of the team.  I've been a leader of people for over 28 years, and I have had some extremely taxing challenges; however, as a result of the personal advice that I am giving you, I've had as many success stories all because those individuals truly knew that I cared about them and would do anything I could for them within reason. I was going to ensure that they were properly trained and they had the resources in which to empower them to do their jobs correctly.

I am afraid you have to come down to his/her level - to all the negatives - & analyze the situation (personal attitude, personal problems) to see where the stumbling blocks are. Then, you have to build on it from his/her level slowly. It is hard work, but can be rewarding.