The standard way to calculate the energy density of an electric field is to equate the work required to two change the separation of two charged sheets of infinite extent by a given amount, to the energy stored in the field between (or outside of) the plates. This yields a positive-definite energy density proportional to the square of the electric field. Doing the same for the gravitational field yields an energy density proportional to the negative of the square of the gravitational field. Yet, it seems to be accepted that the energy density of the gravitational field is positive. Can anyone explain this to me?