You can use Tungsten Carbide milling media and the size of the milling ball will depend on the jar size of the ball mill. Usually for 1000ml jar ball size ranges from 0.5mm to 10mm. Usage of process control agents like toluene and stearic acid is recommended to avoid excess agglomeration.
Usually standard ball to powder ratio of 10:1 is recommended. Ball to powder ratio will vary depending upon the type of the ball mill (Low, Medium and High Speed mills).
For your reference I have attached the useful literatures.