Was the tumour checked for BRCA? If positive would make breast more likely.
Did the lymph nodes contain lots of lymphocytes or mainly tumour cells? If lots of lymphocytes perhaps there was a significant immunologic response to breast tumour which has obliterated the primary.
Were the tumour cells subjected to IHC staining to give some clue as to origin?
I would not call her M0 until you show that the beast cancer is not in itself a metastasis from another area. That is why IHC staining might be of help in locating a primary. It is likely breast, but there is no proof of that at the moment.