For introductory chemistry textbooks, they occur simultaneously. But unless there is a direct transfer between charge species, (say between sodium atom and chlorine gas) especially in solution, the charge transfer between chemical species can be mediated by ions of solution. In this case, does oxidation occur first or reduction first? on which factors this sequence vary? This is important in the case of solution actively participating into solution and recycling itself.
I am well aware that, absolutely deterministic time would be not found in this case (but rather a probability) , since such chemical interactions are bounded by rules of quantum mechanics.