How to raise your self-esteem in daily life, take responsibility for your own happiness, boost your self-esteem in love, friendships, business relationships etc.?
Self-esteem is related to "Self". To raise the self-esteem, one should not under evaluate oneself. One must make the "self" strong. Otherwise one feel depressed.
Self-esteem is related to "Self". To raise the self-esteem, one should not under evaluate oneself. One must make the "self" strong. Otherwise one feel depressed.
Self-trust and confidence and ability to know that you are capable of knowing and thinking positively!
Self-efficacy is important in this respect but, more important is self-contentment (the state of being satisfied with what you get after paying your maximum effort). Many persons lose self-esteem through greediness (a weakness of the dissatisfied that could be utilized very well by influential adversaries to humiliate & enslave the greedy).
Although I believe I don't suffer from pride, I think my self-esteem must be high, because I usually feel happy and comfortable, and because I notice that many are jealous of my accomplishments. I work mostly to combat the sense of pride, and I do make an effort to be maintained humble, increasing my knowledge as much as I can.
It's not easy. But I make an effort, daily.
If you look around, carefully, there's always much better than us, and there's always much worse, to avoid.
Dear All,
My method is simple: being honest and avoiding wicked and immoral people.
Dears,
Lose of self esteem is a psychological problem developed within because of a feeling not performing as we expect or sudden reduction of performance in what we used to do or devaluing self. In such cases we have to seek reasons or causes as to why we are in such state of existence.
Knowing causes or reasons enable one to find solutions either rectifying faults that cause those feelings to appear or changing ways we do things to perform what we are capable of and regain self esteem or to recognize that to err is humane and no human being is free of fault to recover from self incrimination and lose of self value. All these diagnosis and self medications do work when we are honest and true to our selves.
Difficult question with customized answer for each person. It depends on what destroys your own esteem, so the remedy is always personalized. You have first to indicate the factors that makes you feel down and then it could be easy to start working on removing them.
Dear Amir, to increase self esteem or develop self esteem in self and others, seethe pic. I always think that I can do as well as others and they can do as much as me. So I have the same respect for others as myself. I am open to challenges that test my abilities, and I strive to do well. Without thinking of increasing self esteem, it is done. In all things, I am thankful to God who gives life and abilities, and avoid falling into pride or conceit.
Dear Dr Nizar, I agree that self esteem is tied up with self efficacy (Bandura), and self confidence. (Here is a pic on how to develop this self esteem/ confidence.)
Dear Enzo, you mean that your self esteem increases as you age. Wonderful, what a good reason to age GRACEFULLY :)
To raise your self-esteem, one first have to: Know thyself (γνῶθι σεαυτόν).
Plato employs the maxim 'Know Thyself' extensively by having the character of Socrates use it to motivate his dialogues.
But see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Know_thyself
Then you have to work hard and do what you ought to do, and you self-esteem will you understand from the "others"!
Self-esteem is affected by both LOC internal & external. The extent to which locus of control, one takes seriously, manifests itself as a threat in upholding the self.
The primary factor for raising the self-esteem is positive sense of self–worth or self-respect! High selfesteem may cause many positive outcomes and benefits!
"It seems like such a minor thing, holding oneself in high regard, because most of us have been taught how to be unselfish and generous to others. Any hint of selfish interest was severely frowned upon during our formative years, and we still carry the echoes of that sentiment to this day."
"When we are first born, we are completely selfish creatures. We have little awareness of others around us, and we couldn’t care less about the feelings and needs of anyone other than ourselves. We care only that we are provided with the warmth, nourishment and attention that we require on a regular basis."
Self-esteem is all about how much we feel valued, loved, accepted, and thought well of by others — and how much we value, love, and accept ourselves. People with healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities, skills, and accomplishments. People with low self-esteem may feel as if no one will like them or accept them or that they can't do well in anything.
Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself. ...
Aim for accomplishments rather than perfection. ...
View mistakes as learning opportunities. ...
Try new things. ...
Recognize what you can change and what you can't. ...
Set goals.
In some academic institutions, authoritarian managers will try to sell 2 products: they hit some "down the line" staff & try to show their bosses that they are keen about the interests of the institution in (keep me in the post )manner. Some scholars will surely lose their self-esteem if they do not resist & this is cowardice. On the other hand, there are heroic scholars as this story shows:
In the summer semester of 2012 , a scholar was not paid the right amount of money for his work. He wrote 2 complaints to the managers & mobilized the employees Union but the administration was adamant not to pay the difference (about 400 $). The scholar decided to stop teaching summer courses(these are optional for the scholars) & he did it in 2013 & 2014. It is true that he lost about 3000 $ but the institution has also lost about 25000 $ in revenue (the managers did not tell this story to their bosses) & the main gains of the scholar were self-esteem & dignity which are more valuable than stacks of gold.
Dear Dr. Concha Diez-Pastor,
Your (bravo) is much appreciated. The scholar's story continued & he also opted to not teach another summer course this year (utilzing that it is optional). This will raise the institution's loss to nearly 37000 $. Had the "genius" unversity's administration paid the 400$ in 2012, this loss would have never happenned. The free scholar has dignity & integrity which is a matter that is little understood by the "snobs*" in the high positions.
* A snob :Anyone who thinks s/he is better than someone else based upon superficial factors.
Dear All,
My self-esteem does not need to be raised. It is high enough. I agree with Concha: other people’s opinions do not influence my self-evaluation and esteem.
Dear Iolanda-Gabriela,
Generally, doing good (= being ethical, helping others and the community) is not a universally evaluated human quality. In many societies, self-esteem is assessed by positions and money.
Dear Iolanda-Gabriela,
Humility and modesty should be manifested by our reactions to the outer world. Self-esteem is a strictly personnel issue.
Dear Concha,
In a highly contraselected (Buggins’ turned) world, the healthy self-esteem is the last shelter of the personality.
Dear Ting,
Dear All,
Fortunately, I do not want to strengthen my esteem in the eyes of others. Or other people’s opinion can matter if they are correct and able to estimate virtue, ethics, honesty, good will and performance.
Dear Iolanda-Gabriela,
What is a researcher self-esteem? Is it the evaluation of your scientific performance measured in IFs or in the eyes of your bosses? Is it the future evaluation of your scientific results and deeds?
Dear Iolanda-Gabriela,
I am waiting still for your explanation. I am - unfortunately - poor in imagination.
Dear Iolanda-Gabriela,
Lucid and objective self-evaluations can be found in the empire of dreams or false and emotionally overstressed views you can obtain at Facebook threads.
Dear Iolanda-Gabriela,
Repeating my former answer and adding some altering to it:
Generally, doing good (= being ethical, helping others and the community) is not a universally evaluated human quality. In many societies, self-esteem is assessed by positions and money. Being really and not approximately good is a par exellence goodness, the highest level of human ethics.
Nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself ---!
This is good article SELF-ESTEEM AND ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENT by Ranjit Singh Malhi, Ph.D.
http://www.tqm.com.my/web/05_bookArticle_11.html
Just a simple note about the good article of Ranjit Singh Malhi. He says & I quote: "Numerous studies show a positive correlation between self-esteem and academic achievement.".With due respect, the academic achievement ought to be specified. Is it real or unreal ? and what is its level? There are many examples of deceitful persons who acquired academic achievements by sly means & the result was "arrogance" & not "self-esteem" because they will kiss the hands & legs of top managers to move upwards. There are many examples of persons who considered the general high school certificate as top achievement; when the results of the general high school exam were announced, I heard a barrage of bullets fired near an old neighbor's house. I went out to see & ask. Surprisingly, they were celebrating a young man's pass in the exame with an average of 55/100 !!
Self-Improvement-Self-Esteem And Faith In Life : "What is self improvement? It means improving yourself to become the person you want to be: self confident, happy, finding love, prosperous and having peace of mind etc.
Indeed, all these things are obtained through improving yourself. We all know that when we do not have peace of mind, we are not happy, we do not have love and we are not prosperous. It means that we have to improve ourselves.
Self improvement has two parts. One is self-esteem and the other one is your faith in life..."
http://www.life-success-secrets.com/self-improvement.html
-------Six Behaviors that Increase Self-Esteem ------
Even if you’re at a point where you’re feeling very negatively about yourself, ---- be aware that you’re now ideally positioned to make rapid and dramatic improvement.
See six behaviors through link.
http://changeforgood.com/six-behaviors-that-increase-self-esteem/#.VXR9YlIcbfc
"Basically, self-esteem is how we value ourselves. It is an essential requirement that is vital for us to thrive – to have normal healthy development. It is how we perceive our value to the world and to others.
Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives. It arises automatically from within based upon a person’s beliefs and consciousness..." Fine blog series about this issue - follow the link.
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/creating-high-self-esteem-week-1-karen-chaston
Build your self-esteem by recalling all the ways you have succeeded, and your brain will be filled with images of you making your achievements happen again and again. Give yourself permission to toot your own horn, and don't wait for anyone to praise you.
--- Jack Canfield
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