Dear Dr Mahesh Kumar, parents are expected to act responsibly by teaching values in their children. The teaching of what is right or wrong should be taught even before the child understand. In most cases, parents are being too protective or "stubborn" and this may have negative impact. We need to create a balance between dependence and independence as children grow into adulthood. At this stage, parents should not underestimate their children's readiness for freedom and take responsibility. At this point, we can only guide and encourage but not to dominate or enforce.

Dear Dr Mahesh Kumar, parents are expected to act responsibly by teaching values in their children. The teaching of what is right or wrong should be taught even before the child understand. In most cases, parents are being too protective or "stubborn" and this may have negative impact. We need to create a balance between dependence and independence as children grow into adulthood. At this stage, parents should not underestimate their children's readiness for freedom and take responsibility. At this point, we can only guide and encourage but not to dominate or enforce.

Children are dependent on parents till attain age and adequate education. Therefore, level of freedom to children may be decided by parents. If children are free from boundary then future growth and output of children enormous in any directions.

Kids should be given the freedom to make their own decisions regarding many things like what they want to dress and what sport do they like to play... we can impact their decisions through consultancy and information about things... It is important for kids to be independent and to learn to live with their decisions...

A parent should be able to evaluate his/ her child and give him/ her the adeqate responsibility from the early age. However I find a lot of parents overprotective in this context, which is not good. A three year old child can be made responsible for storing his toys in the evening for example. If children are taking responsibilities from the early age, they become responsible adults. And that is what we want them to be, don-t we?

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A nice question indeed! Well, it depends on what age group you are considering. I won't recommend liberalism for children and teenagers below the age of 18.

There must be special vigilance on them, like what content they watch or use on the internet, what kind of TV. shows they watch, with whom they hang out, everything.

After 18 years of age, a person develops a sense of right and wrong, and I think one is capable enough of taking the responsibility of his/her own life.

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It can be decided as per the child's nature and subject concerned.

Parents have to understand the nature of their child to decide on that subject.

Pandit Iswar Chandra Vidyasagar (pioneer in primary education, female education, reformer of Indian society) was very much stubborn in his childhood. He always want to do reverse to the sayings of his parent.

So, his father always ordered him to to do the reverse work to his own intension.

When Iswar was feeling fever, his father said - "Iswar, you should take your bathe today". So, Iswar will not bathe on that day.

That tough personality of Iswar was used afterwards in social reform. Even being a man from rigid Bramhin family, he logically identified the wrongs of the Hindu society.

He fought whole of his life against all odds to stop child marriage, multiple marriage of males, to legalize remarriage of widows, education of girls etc.

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Its depends on the nature of the child and growing system or the environment on how he or she did grow with. As per mine, I can give 94%.

Well said Abdelnaser (and others)! The nature of the child as well as the age and environment all play important roles in the independence of a child. There are many 6-8 year olds who can handle many things on their own but I also see many students (around 18-22) who can barely manage life's essentials.

I think that the scope of freedom given to children should be generally proportional to their age or the level of maturity. James Dobson wrote that “[o]ur final task in building self-esteem for our children comes as we transfer responsibility from our shoulders to theirs”. This transfer should go gradually: younger child – less responsibility, older child – more responsibility. I’ve mentioned these issues in my paper on the problem of overprotectiveness in family. See: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/322065567_The_problem_of_overprotectiveness

I agree with my colleagues

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Kids should be given some space of freedom to think how to fix problems that they face. However, this depends on their age& problem size. In all cases, they should be observed well& they should be guided towards the correct action to be made.

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Parents should give their children as much freedom as possible for making their own decision after giving them enough information and training for the decision.

It depends on the children and on us as parents. Idealy we would try to teach children at an early age the rudiments of making decisions, possible consequences of actions and taking responsibility for those consequences. Young children simply go full speed ahead without considering consequences and dangers. As they age they mature and learn how to make decisions either on their own or, preferably, with our guidance and example setting. We should guide and encourage but not preach. Freedom should be gained as the child demonstrates increasing responsibility and accountability for their decisions and actions.They need to learn decision making as a skill within the framework of the society in which they live. Children are children, they are not slaves so perhaps "freedom" is not really an appropriate word.

We are homeschooling our son and try to do at least one hour of teaching everyday. Sometimes he doesn't want, which is fine with us. The alternative would be to put him in a French school, where they don't even let them do a drawing, since they are so busy catching up with their schedule. Others in the homeschool environment don't interfere in anything their children come up with - from running around naked, leaving the house in t-shirts during winter time or even beating up others. While the first two might hint towards a tendency of neglection, the latter can become a bit of a burden for society as a whole later on, I guess. To sum it up, I don't agree with the total amount of freedom that is given to kids in the context of the 'democratic school'-projects but I try to not impose too much. On the other hand, children are neither willing nor able to always take their own decisions, they also look for guidance. So, a kind of flexible structure might be the best.

freedom to children means to care and to teach them

Thank you dear colleagues for your stimulating comments and discussion.

It is true as it depends upon the character and age of the child as well as the parents . Many times, parents want to protect their children from painful life experiences, Parents are responsible for instilling values in their children about what is right and what is wrong. When parents place a certain level of trust in them, then their children ( older children) will be more likely to respect the parents as well as their rules.

Limited freedom: A Guided freedom will be best.

I agree with Colton Magnant.

It is important to let the child a free choice:

He supports the child's self-confidence because he feels reassured about the decision he will take without being attached to him or taking orders.

It depends on age,envirment,behavior,locality,but i think we shuold not go beyond the limits.

Kids are dependent on parents till attain age and adequate education. Therefore, level of freedom to children may be decided by parents.

Scope of freedom may depend upon age of the kids.As they grow older, more and more freedom in their decision making need to be encouraged.

Thanks dear worthy RG colleagues for your replies.

Thanks again

Leadership

When your child does not know exactly who is the leader and the final decision maker, the simplest issues become a source of great inconvenience. May be the first to come to your mind in response to this phrase: "But my sons know who is the leader in our house." You may think they know, but there are many ways we can send such a message to our children in a distorted way, causing confusion that causes them confusion and confusion about this issue. To make some adjustments. The first step to take the leadership is simply to allow yourself to become a leader, to expect your children to obey and to obey this firm foundation. You can build a relationship of love and trust with your children, and most importantly, you will be able to lead your children to adulthood. Values ​​and life skills that are rare only in the children of strong parents who support and support their children.

Do not ask, but give an order.

One of the common mistakes that parents make is to ask the children by asking, and it is not that the way you express yourself "in words: determines whether to exclude from your lexicon all non-specific terms.

If you do not want your child to do something (or stop doing something), go to him in a clear and specific way that leaves no room for confusion

Parents are responsible for instilling values in their children about what is right and what is wrong. Furthermore, they need to give their children sufficient freedom and try them in various aspects of life so that they should get ready for the hardships of life. However, it is important to remember that too much freedom can also spoil children.