Hi,

You need to interview, Lesbians, because this is a common feature.

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Hi,

It is quite probable to see such cases and we should not feel surprise or shocked to observe this....If we see from the perspective of the other person (ex spouse).. the person is not in relationship anymore and is free to fall in with anyone which may or may not include friends and relatives of ex spouse.

This is quite an interesting one. I highly doubt the absence of sensitivity as we rarely are absolutely free of some kind of 'emotion' about an Ex.

It is entirely possible to enter into a relationship with a spouse's ex because I have done this. My husband and his wife went through the "hating" cycle during their divorce and probably the first year after divorce. I met his ex about six months into our relationship. I did not feel threatened in any way by their past relationship. I did think if they got back together, it was nothing to do with me. That never happened. The three of us ended up as best friends and family members. After all, they had three grown sons together. The three of us were very secure in our relationships, and there was no friction between any of us. Doris, the ex-wife, once told me she felt like I was a daughter-in-law to her. I wondered at the time what that made my (by then) husband! Our family reunions were always fun, loving, and inclusive. Maybe it is because we were all "hippies" at that time. Whatever it was, it worked.

Look up mate poaching or spouse poaching.

Spouse/mate poaching had nothing to do with our relationships. They definitely did not want the other one back. There were no hidden agendas in our relationships. Maybe you have not had trusting relationships...transference...

I meant to reply to the thread not your specific comment. No need to be rude. The man is looking for studies and papers and I was simply providing key words to possibly search on Ebscohost or Psychinfo.

Misunderstood, sorry.

the question was ”is this a touchy subject?”, then evidence for a “yes” answer is in the thread above. Very interesting to see it acted out in real life. No blame attached.

If you look up for fundamentals of relationship building in management, perhaps these can link up with psychological aspects as well. For example, if we state that in order to have a successful business relationship, there is the role of common goals, visions, synergistic goal fulfilment, mindset, thinking pattern, etc. The business partners often break-up and reunite, things like that keep happening. Either by taking it down to two individuals or considering business partners as INDIVIDUALS, it ultimately appears to link with the psychological state of people involved. If not the evidence to your question, but some theoretical constructs may be observed/ built.

Es absolutamente imposible pensar que no se presente sensibilidad. En cada uno de los involucrados hay presencia de sentimientos, sensibilidades, actitudes y creencias que moldean su comportamiento. Lo indicado es establecer las características que se evidencian en cada uno de los involucrados en términos de: compromiso, cultura, tipo de relación, grado de amistad, etc.

Yes it is possible for to enter into a relationship with a spouse's ex. We have several examples of this in my family. I became friends with my second husband's ex-wife. My first husband's third wife and I have become friends. She had a lot to do with improving my relationship with my ex-husband who at one time had threatened to kill me and my second husband. Now my ex-husband has even become friendly with me and my second husband. My oldest nephew's first wife and second wife have become friends. My sister's first husband and second husband have become friends. My youngest nephew's ex wife has become friends with his live-in longtime girlfriend. In all these cases children are involved and that may be one of the reasons why divorce and the resultant anger are worked through and eventually resolve to better relationships for the sake of the children. Everyone involved tried hard to be able to forgive expartners for hurt that happened in the past. In trying to insure the best for the children, the unexpected genuinely friendly feelings between ex-spouses and current spouses was an added benefit.

Different strokes for different folks. When I was first married, we were together a couple of months when my wife’s ex got out of prison. He had been in jail for Bigamy and wanted to take his wife back in a relationship, with me, in my house. I never tried it, I saw too many emotional loopholes for my tender system.