If you can find a way to laugh at what you don't agree with, you will have a lot less stress in your life.
I can say No. One should learn to say no either to superior or junior!
If one can say no to the superior, it is less stressful than saying yes and doing something that you don't like.
There is no question of stress, if one has to no to the junior. Rather it is in form of advice.
Being Director of the Institute, I used to disagree with the Vice Chancellor in meeting!
I can say No. One should learn to say no either to superior or junior!
If one can say no to the superior, it is less stressful than saying yes and doing something that you don't like.
There is no question of stress, if one has to no to the junior. Rather it is in form of advice.
Being Director of the Institute, I used to disagree with the Vice Chancellor in meeting!
I don't always agree to my superiors (director, deputy director) or my juniors (lab assistants etc). I have learned to LET MY YES BE YES, and a NO be a NO. But I will be polite in my disagreements.
It's only in our Eastern cultures where more is expected of us to conform to ideas, but why should we go against our better judgments? Thanks.
It depends on the situation, environment, time and place. So, in my case, I am always agree with juniors\seniors if and only if the subject is good one, honesty one etc....overall I am agree with the TRUTH facts...Yep, sometimes feel stress or sometimes not, it totally depends on the surrounding of the subject...
No matter how careful you are in such relationships with colleagues, stress is inevitable!
Dear All,
It is impossible for an honest man to agree always. For cunning and opportunist men the first rule is to agree with everybody mainly with the boss(es). There may be two areas where one feels to express his/her opinion: professional and general ethical questions these later involve personnel relationships. There are situations when one is able – and has plenty of time - to do as Ivo put it. However, there are tense situations as well as issues on principles when one cannot use golden mean tactics and one is “forced” to show his real opinion because the moment of truth has arrived. These situations are delicate because the most “cruel” and dangerous phenomena of our hypocrite world are when one should articulate the truth.
I hope that in normally operating work places, where the rule is to be correct and honest, the delicate situations are rare.
There may be defensive technics not to contradict anybody and to keep smiling but nor everybody can tolerate such frustrating conditions.
Dear all,
The answer might not be as easy and straightforward as it seems. I did not have times or events where I did express my disagreements to superiors or juniors for that matter. But saying no to superiors might have consequences, from creating frictions to hinder your future progress and peaceful professional life there or face to lose your job and that episode follows as negative mark on your employment experience which creates havoc not to get employment elsewhere as the would be employer contacts your previous employer and asks the reasons why you left that job.
I think this is one of the hidden strategies employers in capitalist systems make employees voiceless and mute to work like slaves. It is imperative that you have clean records when it comes to your behaviors and communications with colleagues and particularly superiors as far as my understanding is concerned here and probably elsewhere where freedom is intrinsically erased.
When I was in Ethiopia you can argue about things you disagree with department chairs and argue and nothing happens. I am afraid it is not like that here.
I try to abandon the place,where there are bad human beings.I'm sure,I can't change them and I hate quarrelling.There is no sense to spend time and health on them.I dislike bureaucracy, and I want to be far from them to whatever degree is possible.As for disagreement, I try to find a constructive grain in every opinion.I adore my students,my colleagues,my administration.I'm in a great mood,going to work and meeting a security guard, a cleaning woman or a cook in the way.As a rule we smile, say good words or use a humor. I communicate with all my colleagues with pleasure, including our staff in Church and a personnel review board in the Institute, with whom I get along with.From time to time it's no easy matter to find a common language with the members of my family.It is not ridiculous,when I can't convince them of the truth of my words.I feel upset about disagreement with the dearest. They will be convinced when they test my truth in their own experience.
Agreement or disagreement needs to be fact oriented. When I find the viewpoint of the superior or junior is factual and in institutional interest, I agree. If I find the viewpoint is with ulterior motto, I normally disagree. But both the situations leaves a learning for me. Neither I hesitate in learning from anyone irrespective of the fact that some one is superior or junior nor I impose my viewpoint on my juniors.
To avoid the (expected) stress, one needs to present an argument.
If a decision is taken to increase student tuition that one disagrees with, one can argue that some students may be forced to pull out, while others will be forced to work to find the extra money, therefore, the overall progress and reputation of the institution will be diminished. Then the proposer will be on the defensive and maybe forced to reconsider the decision.
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