I think almost all of us (♀/♂) are more or less affected by this. Work interferes with family & vice versa. In your view, which one is too detrimental & how to achieve so called 'balance'? Is it possible really?
This is really a very scary picture... then almost all the families and homes have to be cared and led by the less intellectual and least influential people!
You need to compromise and sacrifice to reach that level of balance which can be acceptable by most of individuals around you. Otherwise, you all will suffer from the consequences. Satisfaction can be reached even with a slower pace, you are still getting there! Conflict resolution is always possible. It is hard to achieve though and needs a lot of practice, time, and patience. Thanks
Yes Dr M. Sanjoy Singh ...we shouldn't be engaged solely for our present (career) only... we have sacred responsibilities and have to sacrifice a little for our future (offspring/descendants/followers) also.
Perception and Persistence, Everything is real it is the function of art to renew our perception. What we are familiar with we cease to see. Sometimes choices bring us to the right place both are challenges.
I find, in my personal/professional life that there are ebbs and flows in my academic effort. It comes down to “what fills my tank, right now”. When I am able to move my academic/clinical activituse in a positive direction, I spend more time on them AND when I encounter barrier after barrier without over-coming them and moving forward, I get “burnt out” and retreat to the enjoyment of family time.
Our academic successes rarely out live us and a well raised off-spring is a great legacy.
What is our purpose in life? Few are remembered as academic Greats. Being known as a Great Parent fills My Tank.
Dear Christopher A Smith , I really enjoyed your see-saw technique, very useful and contributing. Congrats... you're one of the Great Parents. Regards- Rabiul
We must determine the time to work does not affect our responsibility to the family and its own business and in the end I believe that the flexibility in dealing and result progress in work and family happiness .....
There are many variations that play important role in considering whether a balance can be achieved or not.In eastern cultures especially in indo-Pak ,a family is extended to many individuals along with equal number of expectations for taking part in all types of family gathering.No one expected to miss any event of closed family and unfortunately such events lasts of many days.Individuals who are working at higher ranks have better control on the proceedings of job and at the same time over the family members as well. They are most likely to keep a balance between the family affairs and job obligations.In most cases people have great difficulty in meeting both the demands of job and family because of the ever increasing demands of both family members and bosses at work.Inflation,health related issues, job insecurity, and community obligations are some of the other factors that are affecting the individuals in a significant manner to keep a balance between work and job.I think for a ordinary worker , achieving balance is a continuous struggle .on some occasions he becomes successful and on others he looks for better strategies to achieve the same .
It is only possible to avoid today, if both partners are willing to sacrifice something. Old rules do apply no more; males must be willing to push the baby buggy.
The problem, in fact, is absent if both spouses work and are interested in their work. Then the home is seen as a continuation of the work, and the work is as the home. When my children were young, in addition to kindergarten and elementary school, they frequently visited mine and my wife's work places (my son especially liked the university where my wife works as a professor, since the students never refused to play with him - they are essentially children too). Well, the value system is forming a special one: my wife always said - I have students, children, a husband a dog. In this case, I asked, what punctuation mark is between the third and fourth word? Comma or dash? I still don’t understand.
It's good to have a workable family. However, it's not easy to have satisfaction for each member. This could be managed for the beginning years after the marriage. Also this is not easy period, one part has to scarify and accept the situation. Usually, at least in the Middle East and North Africa Countries, once you have a children one may change the family plan in order to achieve a balance life.
Thanks Prof @Elhadi... yes, initial period of conjugal life is crucial & that part is to be dealt delicately. Later readjustment is worthy and effective.
Work and family should complement each other. If husband and wife are equally engaged in science and teaching students, then their relationship is based on mutual understanding, mutual respect and mutual enrichment of both work and family.
An ideal balance is just a mental phenomena and rarely achieved in actuality. Couples who have a shared acceptance and regard about the nature of work of his or her spouse have greater chance of creating an impression of balance.
It is very difficult achieving any physical balance. The most important thing is to make good use of the idle times. Where necessary it is advisable to return to the family immediately after work.
Juggling over work and family responsibilities is very challenging. But at the end of the day, it is the happiness and joy of everybody which wil come first. I think, it is more appropriate that we should have this idea of flexibility and adaptability when work and family comes in. Coupled with patience, great understanding and mutual respect from one another. They shouldn't be the cause of "detrimentalism". They should be the source of inspiration and motivation for yhe sole purpose of our life.
Work is so very important to provide good life and education to our children, however wirk related issues should not be carried back home, as family time is so very precious and important.
The basis of all is the understanding and joint planning activities. Family is very important, but it's important to find time for yourself and your work. Otherwise, someone will always be dissatisfied.