Im not sure what exactly you want to lap (which kind of material), but we are using Chemlox Polishing Fluid (bought by Logitech) for lapping GaAs-wafers. But it's written you can lap silicon and lots of electro-optical devices ...
hmm we save our structures with crytsalbond wax, because we have to remove it after lapping. Its melting at 50-70 °C and can be removed in aceton easily.