What is the best way to discipline our children?

11 November 2018 28 6K Report

We would like to know the best way to discipline children by their parents.

Dealing with them sincerely and teaching them the teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah of the Prophet and the truth of the hadith and not lying.

Hassan Nima

10 Healthy Discipline Strategies That Work

The AAP recommends positive discipline strategies that effectively teach children to manage their behavior and keep them from harm while promoting healthy development. These include:

Show and tell. Teach children right from wrong with calm words and actions. Model behaviors you would like to see in your children.

Set limits. Have clear and consistent rules your children can follow. Be sure to explain these rules in age-appropriate terms they can understand.

Give consequences. Calmly and firmly explain the consequences if they don't behave. For example, tell her that if she does not pick up her toys, you will put them away for the rest of the day. Be prepared to follow through right away. Don't give in by giving them back after a few minutes. But remember, never take away something your child truly needs, such as a meal.

Hear them out. Listening is important. Let your child finish the story before helping solve the problem. Watch for times when misbehavior has a pattern, like if your child is feeling jealous. Talk with your child about this rather than just giving consequences.

Give them your attention. The most powerful tool for effective discipline is attention—to reinforce good behaviors and discourage others. Remember, all children want their parent's attention.

Catch them being good. Children need to know when they do something bad--and when they do something good. Notice good behavior and point it out, praising success and good tries. Be specific (for example, "Wow, you did a good job putting that toy away!").

Know when not to respond. As long as your child isn't doing something dangerous and gets plenty of attention for good behavior, ignoring bad behavior can be an effective way of stopping it. Ignoring bad behavior can also teach children natural consequences of their actions. For example, if your child keeps dropping her cookies on purpose, she will soon have no more cookies left to eat. If she throws and breaks her toy, she will not be able to play with it. It will not be long before she learns not to drop her cookies and to play carefully with her toys.

Be prepared for trouble. Plan ahead for situations when your child might have trouble behaving. Prepare them for upcoming activities and how you want them to behave.

Redirect bad behavior. Sometimes children misbehave because they are bored or don't know any better. Find something else for your child to do.

Call a time-out. A time-out can be especially useful when a specific rule is broken. This discipline tool works best by warning children they will get a time out if they don't stop, reminding them what they did wrong in as few words―and with as little emotion―as possible, and removing them from the situation for a pre-set length of time (1 minute per year of age is a good rule of thumb). With children who are at least 3 years old, you can try letting their children lead their own time-out instead of setting a timer. You can just say, "Go to time out and come back when you feel ready and in control." This strategy, which can help the child learn and practice self-management skills, also works well for older children and teens.

reference/ https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/communication-discipline/Pages/Disciplining-Your-Child.aspx

regards

Reza Biria

Children learn from the environment and those in it. Appropriate parental behavior can provide children with some kind of model by which they can choose the true principles which characterize the real essence of being good and humane.

Dickson Adom

I sit them down, reason with them what good outcomes the family would gain if they did what was right. We then draw a new roadmap for doing things correctly. It has worked for my cute boys.

Md Zafar Alam Bhuiyan

Hazim Al Dilaimy ,

To teach them etiquette in the early life, to give them time and family best education , norms, values and the required other things for the development of Discipline, Children shouldn't be told the fake , falsehood from friary tale to teach them false !

Thanks

Mahender Singh

When the child is in budding age since then inculcate and imbibe the good habits, accept the genuine demands, refuse politely but firmly the wrong ones, tell about dos and don'ts, inform and make the child realise the righteous path , honesty, respect, moral values, tell about the life of greats, instill self belief, esteem and confidence, put some examples what is right and wrong. To become a responsible, sincere and worthfull citizen what's the ethical way . There should not be difference between what you said and did before your child. Lead by example and be supportive when the child is in dires.

Prabhjot Kaur

They behave as their patents do with their family or society. I think children learn with parent’s own discipline.

Dharmendra Arya

Parents should follow two guidelines

1) Create a connection before correction.

2) Correction usually involves children in focusing on solutions.

Vinod Kumar Singh

It's important to tell kids what the right thing to do is, not just to say what the wrong thing is. For example, instead of saying "Don't jump on the couch," try "Please sit on the furniture and put your feet on the floor."

Be sure to give clear, direct commands. Instead of "Could you please put your shoes on?" say "Please put your shoes on." This leaves no room for confusion and does not imply that following directions is a choice.

Leonardo Cannizzaro

The metier of parents, relatively to the education of their children, is, as many say, the most difficult job in the world. Therefore, I do not know what is the best education to give to children. If I reflect, a moment, on our (mine and of my wife) parents experience, I would say that my wife has always been and is still rather rigid and rigorous, while I have always been rather tolerant. My daughter, who is 24 years old, is very tidy, rigid and studious. My son, aged 27, is absolutely nonconformist, extrovert and imaginative.

Abdullah Noori

We need to be very patient with our children. Besides being friendly, we also need to be strict on certain occasions and say no to our children.

Dawood Mahdi

All the above answers of the dear colleagues are of great value. I highly recommend to be a good example for them.

Sandhyarani Khomdram

Good bonding with children and maintaining good discipline by the parents as children learn from their parents and they are their role models.

Sanatombi Devi Yumkham

Good connection with kids from infant stage, minding our manners in front of children, implanting good moral values, spending quality time with them.

Eman Ali Al- Khafaji

. Teach children right from wrong with calm words and actions. ...

Set limits. ...

Give consequences. ...

Hear them out. ...

Give them your attention. ...

Catch them being good. ...

Know when not to respond. ...

Be prepared for trouble

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