The love is cause of happiness but, is the love for itself the happiness?
There is no real happiness without love. However the lack of love between humans can partly be compensated for with love for animals, flowers, nature and substituted with love for your work or writings, from where you get a deepening understanding of human life and its suffering. Without love you advance on a path you did not want to or you did not make a choice to progress along it out of free will but you can still choose to make a fruitful life.
From my observations, married people and those with committed relationships are the happiest. So a simple answer is that love brings happiness, and love gives the happiness to serve and to cherish.
"People in relationships are generally happier than other people, a new Cornell University study finds. And spouses have the highest sense of well-being, whether they are happily married or not..."
http://www.news.cornell.edu/stories/2005/12/people-committed-relationships-are-happier
“When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.” ~ The Dalai Lama
Imagine yourself as a tuning fork. You’re constantly attuned to some sort of signal, and that signal is the greatest influencer of your overall mental and emotional well-being.
By adjusting yourself ever so slightly, a little at a time, you gradually come closer and closer to attuning to your natural state, or true nature.
As you do this, you also become more “attuned” to peace, happiness, and overall greater freedom through having realized great clarity about the true nature of yourself and the world around you.
True love is ultimately the way to peace, the way to happiness, the way to FREEDOM from the cycle of pain and suffering we encounter throughout life (in Buddhism, this is referred to as “Samsara”), and the way to feeling whole again.
http://buddhaimonia.com/love-is-the-way/
Those who love themselves, can love others and remain happy. Sadist people can't love themselves and can't remain happy.
"And now abides faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love."
"Y ahora permanecen la fe, la esperanza y el amor, estos tres; pero el mayor de ellos es el amor."
Dear Mariano Ruiz Espejo.
Love - it's in the happiness of another your own happiness.
The happiness of man - this is one of the greatest mysteries of mankind and delusions. Each of us strive to be the most happy, and if not impossible - to convince yourself and others that you are happy, or that there is no happiness in nature. Hence the confusion - because unhappy people lecture, how to become happy, based on their experience. One says - "The secret of happiness is" another - "The essence of happiness in this." Everybody wants to find the secret of happiness for yourself ... but not all are.
Best regards, Shafagat
The love is cause of happiness, but is the love for itself the happiness?
"Nothing is mysterious, no human relation, except love." - Susan Sontag
"She had a point. Philosophers have argued over the meaning of love for millennia, but a glance at literary history gives us the beginnings of a definition: Love can be a connection to something greater than ourselves, or the thing that shows us who we really are. It is the oldest feeling in the world, yet somehow always feels new. It is patient and kind, yet requires relentless dedication and hard work. It is at once our most comforting support and the thing that makes us lose our balance..."
I would define that oldest feeling as happiness.
http://mic.com/articles/109196/the-true-meaning-of-love-as-told-by-the-most-beautiful-lines-in-literature
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
Please, see these lovely quotes about love and happiness:
i agree with everyone's comment, when you are in love with the right person i guess there you will find happiness. So the two are not to be separated
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
"Don't put the key of your happiness in someone else's pocket."
~ UNKNOWN
The love is cause of happiness, but is the love for itself the happiness?
Think the effect / outcome of being loved is 1 of the happiness in life. Love is also a sacrificial act to our loved one(s) that can yield happiness as we are still alive to do so.
There is no real happiness without love. However the lack of love between humans can partly be compensated for with love for animals, flowers, nature and substituted with love for your work or writings, from where you get a deepening understanding of human life and its suffering. Without love you advance on a path you did not want to or you did not make a choice to progress along it out of free will but you can still choose to make a fruitful life.
The ability for love is the great happiness. And this ability leads us to our happiness or to a non-very-happy-life-experience.
Dear Mariano,
If you speak of the type of "love" that a man has for a woman (or vice-versa) that causes them to want to remain together (and undertake the long and arduous duty of rearing of offspring), then this is clearly an outgrowth of a long evolutionary process, and it's evolutionary advantage is as a mechanism to promote mutual parental bonding for support-and-protection of children for an extended time period. Certainly there has to be more reward or incentive incorporated into the system than the momentary thrill (as intense and pleasurable as that may be) of the sexual climax. The couple in love are made to feel (by their brains) relatively constantly happy and satisfied with one another ... WHILE THEY ARE CLOSE TOGETHER ... so that they will be suitably nurturing parents. The "reward" that makes them "happy" (= "feeling-no-pain" or "high" or "intoxicated" or "half-addled") comes as a constant infusion of "feel good" drugs (provided by the neurochemistry of their brains) enjoyed by couples "in love."
"The conventional view in biology is that there are three major drives in love – sex drive, attachment, and partner preference. The primary neurochemicals (neurotransmitters, sex hormones, and neuropeptides) that govern these drives are testosterone, estrogen, dopamine, oxytocin, and vasopressin.
Central dopamine pathways mediate partner preference behavior, while vasopressin in the ventral pallidum and oxytocin in the nucleus accumbens and paraventricular hypothalamic nucleus mediate partner preference and attachment behaviors. Sex drive is modulated primarily by activity in the mesolimbic dopamine pathway (ventral tegmental area and nucleus accumbens). Trace amines (e.g., phenethylamine and tyramine) play a critical role in regulating dopaminergic activity in the central nervous system, and consequently in these pathways.
Testosterone and estrogen contribute to these drives by modulating activity within dopamine pathways. Adequate brain levels of testosterone seem important for both human male and female sexual behavior. Norepinephrine and serotonin have a less significant, contributing role through their neuromodulatory effects upon dopamine and oxytocin release in certain pathways.
The chemicals triggered that are responsible for passionate love and long-term attachment love seem to be more particular to the activities in which both persons participate rather than to the nature of the specific people involved. Individuals who have recently fallen in love tend to show higher levels of cortisol."
Although we still have much to learn about the suite of emotions we call love, the one thing we know for certain is that, like all our emotions, they are regulated by the brain's neurochemistry, which evolved through a vast number of successive reproductive generations as a system to help support the successful replication of our genes. So, if we look upon our survival (successful procreation into the future) as a good thing, then surely we must also consider love (and the blissful half-addled state of drug addiction it represents) as good (or "healthy") for us.
Regards,
Bob
see references cited at: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Biological_basis_of_love
I'm not romantic, but I think love isn't only a biochemical - neurochemical processes. It is only smth that is able to switch these processes on.
I totally agree with all the above replies particularly with Dr. Subhash C. Kundu, because you can give something to someone if you own it, otherwise it is impossible to give it to others.
As Dr. Subhash C. Kundu states, "Those who love themselves, can love others and remain happy".
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
“People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”
~DALAI LAMA
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
"Love means making the other happy, even from a distance."
----- Unknown
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
"Where your pleasure is, there is your treasure: where your treasure, there your heart; where your heart, there your happiness."
----- Saint Augustine
Dear all,
Here love is a generic word which can be love of any thing. Love of greed, love for hate, love of power, love of wealth, love of luxury etc are all types of love that are extremely dangerous, destructive with negative energies in the souls of those who emerge themselves in the love affairs of these things. Such kinds of love are centered on the self and every thing has to collapse to that end which has a black hole syndrome, a detrimental and bad end.
The other and beneficiary love is the one whose center is not only self but the outside, the love of things around us that is the one which brings true complements and real happiness as happiness is a state of mind that exists due to the harmony of things in and around and as far as our imaginations can be extended.
I have found that loving and being loved does not always equal happiness. Love is a commitment, a devotion, and a contract to care beyond any circumstances--even those that are unpleasant and may make you sad. Happiness contains the capacity TO LOVE during any circumstances. Loving contains the capacity TO HAPPINESS during any circumstances. But doing one does not beget the other (being in love does not necessarily make you happy, being happy does not necessarily make you love). Love shines by actions such as commitment and devotion. Happiness shines by actions such as faith, perseverance.
THE WINE OF LOVE
I am a hunter of taverns, don't ask me about the Beloved.
I am dumb, so from the dumb, and distracted don't ask for an oration.
I'm preoccupied with my own blindness and wretchedness,
So from the blind don't ask for sight and vision.
Your languid eyes have brought on my own languor,
So don't ask from one so smitten for aught but delirious ravings.
Don't consort with a wandering dervish, but if ever you do,
Never ask him about wisdom, philosophy, scripture, or of the sayings of the Prophet.
I am drunk with the wine of Thy love, so from such a drunkard
Don't ask for the sober counsel of a man of the world.
~~~~
Explanation: In this poem by Imam Khomeini [Dey 1365 AHS], he may have been playing with different facets of his own personality. He was famous for his speeches, some of which have been translated by Hamid Algar in Islam and Revolution (Berkeley: Mizan Press, 1981), yet in this poem he protests that he is not to be asked for an oration. He is a philosopher and theologian, yet he cautions that one should not turn to him for philosophical insight.
He is a cleric who has written a famous commentary on forty sayings of the Prophet, a partial translation of which has been published as Forty Hadiths: An Exposition of Ethical and Mystical Traditions, Part 1 (Tehran: Islamic Propagation Organization, 1989).2 All of this is superseded by his inner life as a mystic lover. The language used to express this is that of Hafiz. The tavern, kharabat, may also be brothel or gaming house. In the tradition of Hafiz, it is the place of mystical ecstasy, where the 'wine,' the love of God, is served. The Beloved, yar, or friend/companion, is commonly taken to indicate God.
The languid eye, cheshm-e bimar, literally sick eye, is used for the seductive languid eye of a mistress, and this genre of poetry is understood to mean the spiritual attraction of the divine. The 'sick eye' of the intoxicated beloved is half-closed, disdainful. The wandering dervish mentioned in the poem is a Qalandar, an itinerant dervish with a reputation for being something of a rogue. Hikmat, literally wisdom, has the technical meaning of a kind of philosophical theology or theosophy.
Note: IMO the author of the explanation (above) appears to make a difficult search for doubtful nuanced religious meanings for all of Imam Khomeini's words, which to my ears sounds like he may be simply musing upon his present status as a man-of-God contrasting his own past interactions within some of the more human pursuits of the mundane and secular world through which he traveled ... that is, he is simply saying ... pensively sighing ... that he is now intoxicated by the wine of God's love, rather than a love of the world ... but I am not a scholar of theology, Hafiz, nor poetry ... but only a simple man who never forgets to acknowledge his powerlessness before God, and who has been blessed with what seem to me the same very human feelings of life-and-love ... and waking-from-sweet-dreams-of-yesteryear (having dozed-off-sitting in the stillness round my evenings' firesides), I often imagine hearing pensive sighs, and-ask-myself, were they my own dream-sighs ? ... or perhaps some of Imam Khomeini's, carried from faraway by gentle breezes, and echoed time-and-again-over-countless-years, or were they only brought to me by the magic-carpet of the mind soaring over the many intervening dunes of time ? ... however they come, they sound familiar ... like the voice of a brother [BDS].
~~~
an excellent brief biography of Imam Khomeini is here: http://www.al-islam.org/wine-love-mystical-poetry-imam-khomeini/preface
source of explanation here: http://www.al-islam.org/wine-love-mystical-poetry-imam-khomeini/ghazal-poetry#wine-love
Dear Martina,
Yes a significant negative correlation
The interrelationship between "true" love & "true" happiness is reciprocal with love usually imparting happiness & happiness allowing for better love. Love is multi-dimensional & is not reserved for male/female interaction and happiness, sometimes, is mixed up with pleasure although happiness is more than that & encompasses internal peace. True happiness is demonstrated when a person faces the ups & downs of life with resilience & resolute without over-retraction or distress.
Dear Ashwin,
The poem is beautiful, however there are other poets also very romantic and good. Also in this life.
Dear Ashwin
Very nice to Rumi Sufism known for his vision. His poetry may seem easy but it is the work of a meditation befitting his elevation of mind (maquam). She is dedicated to her only love "God"
Dear Mariano,
Yes, love is the cause of happiness, but I'm not sure whether love is happiness for itself.
For if we truly love, we will sacrifice to do so when necessary; however, during the process, we might not experience happiness, but suffering. Yet, we'll find happiness and satisfaction as we see the outcome of our sacrificial love.
In the following quote Viktor E. Frankl talked about success and compared it to happiness. Please allow me to adapt what Frankl said to our discussion here:
“...happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect...or as the by-product ..Happiness must happen...you have to let it happen by not caring about it...It will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
Here are three lovely quotations, I hope you like them.....
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind; love does not envy, love does not boast, is not proud. It is not rude, is not self-seeking, not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1Cor 13:4-7).
If one has an ability for such deep feelings, he is happy.
Doing an act in which there is no love is a waste for every one. Different people love different things. Love could be spiritual love, or materialist love, or physical love. The hidden or manifest objective of love is one's subjective happiness. It is not important whether one admits that or not; what is important is to know why one does what one loves. Even the ascetic, detached and sages love doing what they do. There is no love for the sake of it. The objective of love may be manifest or hidden
A phrase of Jesus that St. Paul wrote in his letters is:
"There is more joy in giving than in receiving".
Giving is an act of love. Receiving is an act for which we are grateful. For giving we love, for receiving we are loved. In both of them there is love and happiness.
Dear Mario.I totally agree with what you suggest. The essence of the greatness of these Men comes from their heart that knows only love
Dear Stephen,
Yes, the love can be without sentiment or sense of pleasure but of sacrifice. I think in the sacrifice of Jesus in the dagger, but it was the cause of his ethernal happiness in the heaven three days after and of our salvation if we believe in him and keep his word. Thank you for your interesting contribution: sacrifice for love could be cause of future or ethernal happiness for others, and this is its great value.
Dear Mariano,
I do not know about your interpretations but based on some who have written about this topic some consider the giving to be giving blessings to others and then you are blessed (not necessarily loved, you can even be hated for following the word: 2 Corinthians 9:5-8King James Version , KJV). And as is pointed out here, one-sided not reciprocated human fleshly love does not make us happy it can rip the heart out of the chest and fill cans with tears.
Yes, of course, love is the root of the happiness. It itself contains the happiness.
Love is the natural flows .It is a tuning with our mind & Heart & our heart represents divinity within us ,& our mind also co -relates with the said forces of tuning our line of behavior ,co-relates with the family ,social surrounding & community with whom we come in our contact feel their present a happy surrounding & Rosy fragrance within us.
For our association members they certainly inspire a loving feeling with them which remain all the time everlastings for them ,for which they is no end of time .
To this we can certainly said that '' LOVE IS GOD -GOD IS LOVE''
Everyone defines happiness according to their personal perspectives. Each individual describes their inner feelings in a way that you can't compare with another.
Happiness originally and logically means the inner state of well being or a pleasurable or satisfying experience. It enables you to profit from your highest: thoughts, wisdom, intelligence, common sense, emotions, health, and spiritual values in your life.
10 Ways LOVE = Happiness
See link!
https://100musicalfootsteps.wordpress.com/2009/05/21/10-ways-love-happiness/
Dear Brenda,
According to my interpretation of your article: happy people stay happy through out their lives and miserable people stay miserable through out their lives. "The results were the same as for the 18 studies. Participants reported an increase in life satisfaction around the year of the wedding (compared to before the wedding), but, as the authors noted, “this effect was short-lived.” Over time, the participants went back to feeling as satisfied or as unsatisfied as they were with their lives before they got married."
However there was an effect of happiness preparing for the wedding that lifted the couple up for a while. Like the old saying:
" If you want happiness for an hour—take a nap. If you want happiness for a day—go fishing. If you want happiness for a month—get married. If you want happiness for a year—inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime—help others."
Getting married is an active serious decision that would and should increase our happiness through increased feelings of security.
Dear Mariano,
We celebrate those who went beforehand today. I was looking at pictures of the candles on the graves from my relatives. A reference to 1 John 4 (KJV) engraved in the stone caught my eyes for the first time:
Love Comes from God
7Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 8He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 9In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. 10Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. 12No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and his love is perfected in us. 13Hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit. 14And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world.
15Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God. 16And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. 17Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. 18There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. 19We love him, because he first loved us. 20If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 21And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.
So I see once again that I am a sinner and need forgiveness.
Dear Roland,
My vote for you today denotes sending a little love to children in Romania
Love is happyness I think, yes. Why if not we feel like if we had icebergs and vulcanos at the same ime in our souls when we love something or someone? It gives us adrenaline, but also it makes us be more cooperative and kind with others. And this, my friend, makes the difference. Love makes us be more honest, polite, confident, and every other states.
And I think hate doesn't exist, it is an inexistence of love. Poor souls...
I think this is a very good question, my congrats to you, Mariano. And my best wishes.
Dear @Mariano,
Thanks for your comments. Yes, love can involve feelings, thoughts, words, and/or actions.
God demonstrates His love through His grace and mercy in His creation, forgiveness, redemption, and salvation. His love is active, unfailing, unchanging, eternal, and sacrificial. He delights in loving His creation and all of us!
A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself.
Josh Billings
Dear Colleagues,
Good Day,
Here are two lovely quotations about " Love and happiness", I hope you like them.....
If this discussion of love includes dogs, let us not forget birds. My personal experience of birds who have lived with us [my family] is that they loved us on the same, deep level that we loved them. Some scientists claim that animals do not 'feel' as we do. Well, these little individuals loved us deeply.
On the more metaphysical, sublime, or transcendental level: as some have intimated above, 'divine' Love is greater than 'love' on the human level. When felt, it appears the ultimate in Life. True happiness and fulfilment. The reality of our being.
'And Love is reflected in love' [Mary Baker Eddy].
This question reminds me the notion " cause with effect ". Love and happiness are feelings of émotionel order. In my opinion love is considered as the system of ignition of the happiness if as without flame the candle cannot be lit to enlighten us
Beauty is when you can appreciate yourself. When you love yourself, that's when you're most beautiful.
--- Zoe Kravitz
Dear Zin Eddine Dadach,
One can love others only, if one loves itself!
Dear Zin Eddine,
I agree with Subhash, and moreover one cannot love oneself and others without love to God, and one cannot love to God without love to the others and to oneself.
Dear Napoleon,
I would not say "faraway God", because God is present in the Catholic community, in his word, in the priest, and in the Eucharist sacrament, all with fidelity to God and the church. All of them are present in a mass.
Dear Napoleon,
God, his Son Jesus Christ and their Holy Spirit are present corporally with his body (of resurrected Jesus), his blood, his soul and his divinity in the Eucharistic sacrament of the Catholic church. We do not believe in pantheism (God would be all things), but his laws are present in all the creation in all time. Both are proof of the love of God to his creatures and the reason of happiness of these when they correspond with love to God too.
@ Mariano
Indeed, God is love. He created us out of love and gave us the possibilty of being above the angels if we follow the path he has mapped out: the path of faith by love of God and of all human
None of the answers above covered the second question of Mariano: is the love for itself the happiness?
If we cannot love ourselves we cannot love others. How can we give something that we do not have? One gives out of abundancy. When we exercise self esteem, self trust, self affection we exercise abundancy of all these feeling, enriching ourselves. And from richness and abondancy we embrace the world with our love, we are exercising happiness through giving.
If we answered the second part of the question. To sum no happiness without love. So to reach when you love your idea is first to agree to accept any other. Obviously that love is the heart of happiness. This makes me think of a coin that has the same value on one side is mentioned the value of this piece but on the other we can put any effigy.
Dear Napoleon,
Respect to a person is not respect his errors. What would Anglicanism be without Catholicism? From the century I to the century XVI there was only Catholicism. After such date Anglicanism was a separated branch of Christianism. I think that a separation for infidelities is not an example of love or happiness. If Jesus builds his Church over the Pope since St. Peter to our days over Pope Francis, his Church is the Catholic. Call church to other separated branches which are built over other things, I believe sincerely it is a linguistic abuse because Jesus creates only one church and this is the Catholic one over the stone of Peter and his successors.
"Who eats my meat and drinks my blood inhabits in me and I in him", the word of Jesus is a proof of His real presence in who receives the Eucharistic sacrament, and this true communion is possible in the Catholic church. The Anglican communion is not this but a representation or imitation without the same material and spiritual content.
A separation is not a motive of happiness because there was not or could not have true love as it occurred for historic crimes and infidelities which I understand you like do not talk. I respect you as person but this does not exempt your and our responsabilities before God.
Dear Napoleon,
Tolerance with the errors does not save, it is not love, it is not happiness. God hates the sins, but has mercy with the sinners while they live for its conversion to the truth.
The love includes the truth, and without truth one cannot be happy.
Dear Napoleon,
You interprete freely my words and say things I did not say. You should excuse you for your offensive words which are not love. Jesus calls to the sinners, much are called, but few are the elected ones.
Dear Mariano,
CoNfessing Jesus Christ nothing else, nothing else is important for salvation.
"Examine me, O LORD, and prove me; try my reins and my heart." "Examíname, oh SEÑOR, y pruébame; escudriña mi mente y mi corazón.…"
Dear Béatrice,
St. Paul says that who confess to Jesus as Lord and Saviour will be saved. But Jesus says that who keeps His word will not see ever the death (John 3,16; 8,51; 12,48-50); who believes in Him (John 11,25-26); who eats His flesh (John 6,51.54.58). And this last is what a Catholic calls Eucharist sacrament.
Dear Napoleon,
I say things I know, but I do not hate to a sincere Christian believer.
But Luke 10,25-28 gives us the words of Jesus about the love and the ethernal life, what more happiness?
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