Dear Sandesh,

I hope that what follows can be of some help for you.

D. Baumrind, for example, was able to conceptualize three styles of parenting: Authoritative, authoritorian, and permissive. Authoritative parenting is the case when, in their relationships with their children, parants are demanding in intellectual terms, but warm in their social interactions with their children.

Authoritorian parenting is the case when in their relationships with their children parants are demanding in intellectual terms, but cold in their social interactions with their children. Permisse parenting is the case when in their relationships with their children parants are guided, say, by the slogan, "laissez faire, laissez passer, laissez aller (i.e., let it go) .

There is accumulated evidence that shows that, in contrast to authoritarian or permissive parenting, authoritative parenting fosters the child's psychological development, be it cognitive, social, interpersonal, moral, emotional, and so forth.

I wonder whether you are acquainted with the classical work of Martin Hoffman on the practices parents use to deal with their children's misdeeds. He conceptualized three types of socialization practices: Power assertion, withdrawl of love, and inductive or explanatory practices. Power assertion is the case when parents use their physical or psychological power over resources to deal with their children's misdeeds (e.g., "Bob, if you hit you brother, then you will not have tows or fruit-gums anymore). Witdrawl of love is the case when parents make use of a kind of blackmail to deal with their children's misdeeds (e.g., "Bob, if you hit you brother, then Mom doesn't like you anymore). Explanatory practices is the case when parents explain to their children the negative effect of their misdeeds on others' well-being (e.g., "Bog, if you hit you brother, he will be sad and hurt).

There is amassing evidence that shows that power assertion and withdrawl

of love on the part of parents favor the appearance in their children of a hereronomous morality, a morality based on the ideas of fear, constraint, and unilateral respect. In contradistinction, explanatory strategies or practices favor the appearance in children of an autonomous morality, a morality based on the ideas of equality, cooperation, and mutual respect.

Kind regards,

Orlando

Of course. That's for sure in addition, the character of the child is also related to the character of the parents.

In an article by (Sing et all) the researchers studied the effect of mindfulness training on the parents of children with SIB. In a nutshell they found that mindfulness had a positive effect on the parents and that this positive effect had a "spill over" effect on the children. In the end parents were happier with thier parenting style and SIB was reduced in the children.