I guess that anyone faces at least unjustified hate from a hater in his/her life. IMHO, haters are weak, and psychologically ill people. Probably, the best way to deal with these personalities is to avoid them; however, in some cases avoiding them is impossible. Therefore, I am asking about the best scientific approach to deal with them provided that the violence option is excluded.
Haters, very challenging. As Swift (1989/2014) puts it, "haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate” and advises “shake it off, shake, shake, shake it off.” That probably doesn’t translate across cultures, but it’s a joke with a song popular in the US several years ago. :-) More seriously, there are many books based on Psychology for dealing with difficult situations, feelings, and people. I personally recommend, “Messages: the Communication Skills Handbook” by Matthew McKay. The chapters on active listening and assertive communication would probably be the most helpful. For my Introductory Psychology classes, I provide students with links to free authoritative ebooks from Australia's national health service that cover a lot of the same topics and much more (but less relevant for your situation): http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/about/index.cfm . You can also find summaries with an internet search for, “how to deal with difficult people” (e.g., https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Difficult-People ). Hope some of this is helpful, Mohamed! ~ Kevin
Thank you Kevin for your answer. I will study the resources you mentioned and return to you if I need more details or explanations. I agree with the 'shake it off' approach if it will not encourage mind ill haters to underestimate the value of the reaction. I guess that facing such situations should be case dependent, right? Anyway, I like the song and I will add it to my favourite playlist :)
My tactic is to be extremely logical, and make it evident the 'hater' (I prefer using the term 'envious') is not logical. If the 'envious' are psychotic there is not much you can do to change them, since anything you do is 'wrong', just show yourself more intellectually logical so others disqualify their opinion and respect yours.
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