For 1. you could (if that is allowed for your system) add alcohols (e.g. 20 (vol/vol)% ethanol) or other solvents with low surface tension. At 20 (vol/vol)% ethanol in water, the solution has a surface tension still close to that of pure alcohol. This will greatly enhance wetting of your particles, whether it will also stabilize them longer term, I am not sure?
For 2. you could use a polyelectrolyte that absorbs onto your solid and gives it charge thus making it better dispersible. I have often used Styrene Maleic anhydride, neutralized with NaOH, like SMA1000 from Cray Valley. There are also other polyelectrolytes, like Calgon-types (polyphosphates). This approach should also stabilize the particles.
It is difficult to find general articles on this. However, I did find a presentation by Horiba which describes how to disperse powders for particle size analysis:
If you need a good book on this topic I can recommend Prof. Tadros's book:
Tadros, Tharwat F., ed. Dispersion of powders in liquids and stabilization of suspensions. John Wiley & Sons, 2012.
It is a popular book so should not be difficult to find. You can also search the book and download chapters via this link: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/book/10.1002/9783527656592
You could do it by reducing the polarity of water by adding a less polar but miscible solvent to water. Alcohols are a good choice. You could also try other solvents.
Try sonication if you are interested in making a suspension.
Methods like UV irradiation, ozone treatment can help sometimes, they increase the hydrophilicity of your material but there is a risk of chemical changes to your material. You could try these methods if they suit your application.