Memo: January 15, 2020. Affair Partnering Strategies. Transference.
A distinct pattern in extramarital affairs data is the use of displacement and projection strategies by Mate Poachers to unlock Married Partners' cognitive and affective empathy. In professional counselling setting, these strategies occur as Transference. Transference helps process clients' issues and conflicts. Counsellors or Therapists through cognitive empathy help clients identify the root of their conflicts and increase adaptive functioning, behaving more on reality and less on instinctual cravings. However, in non-therapy or counselling setting, transference by Mate Poachers can be used to successfully trigger Counter-Transference in Married Partners. In counter-transference, Married Partners cross the boundary of cognitive empathy into affective empathy, that could lead to extra-marital affairs. Subsequently, in extramarital affairs, Affair Partners maintain the use of these strategies to sustain the affairs.
I think this is very true. The Mate Poacher identifies a weakness or need in the Married Partner and meets this need. Their perceived altruistic ways or ability to make themselves 'the answer' to the Married Partner's problems is their power. The Mate Poacher works in a way that the Married Partner is unaware that s/he is being manipulated by the Mate Poacher.
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