In some societies, there is a widespread opinion that "in between the mother-in-law and the bride (daughter-in-law)" conflicts or disagreements" at marriage process, or that the children of their families interfere with their spousal relationships, and that this affects marriages negatively.
In your society, do husband's or wife's family intervene in the marriage process? In particular, is there an "in between the mother-in-law and the bride (daughter-in-law)" conflict?
Thanks in advance for your sharing.
Murat
Every society has the same issue ... Mother-in-law vs daughter -in-law !!!!!
Marriages in my community involves both families (Bride and groom family). However, the marriage processes vary according to the tribe or ethnic group. Most often than not, in traditional marriages the brides family prepare the processes and welcome the groom's family. So there is little intervention in such marriages.
I have had a lot of such encounters, many, from my wife's family. The heat of the hot burns of my marriage has issued from my in-laws who would want some members of their family to live with us while expecting me to provide materially for the long queued family! Its only by the assistance of God and our unquenching love that has sustained our marital union for the past decade.
Every society has the same issue ... Mother-in-law vs daughter -in-law !!!!!
When husband and wife are in agreement, or at least respectful of differences and committed to the marriage, it is a strong marriage that others do not interfere with a second time.
Interference occurs when character is weak or otherwise deficient. Not much is said of character development in early years, although it happens well in many people. Modern society neglects character development leaving it to chance, families, and other relationships.
Some years ago the popular videos from study of gorilla families impressed the viewers and caused a shift in the conduct of many people. Society now accepts the notion that the normal conduct is that people behave like animals. In this context interference does occur, but only as one of many degeneracies.
In my society it is the husbands family that is more involved. there is a lot of tension between daughter in law and mother in law
A mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law - that's probably a general problem.
In Czech, there is a harsh proverb:
Tchýně a uzený nejlepší jsou studený (A mother-in-law and smoked meat are the best cold).
Some parents (mostly women) simply feel the need to manage the lives of their children even in adulthood. And this can be pathological.
Please add some vegetable oil with water. Try to mix it. It may create some oil- water emulsion.
Keep the emulsion for some time on the table. Look at it.
Oil and water are separated.
Some relations are like that oil and water.
You may write thousands of essays against my comment.
But it will remain true FOREVER.
Mother in law- daughter in law, wives of same person( where it is present), wife and unmarried daughter of a person residing under same roof ... etc. are such relations.
The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in Russia present, there are a lot of evidence in folklore, and sometimes in reality. In my opinion, this is due to some traditional factors. In the old society, mother-in-law was the boss for the daughter-in-law. In modern nuclear families, sometimes they subconsciously strive to take a similar position. In practice, it looks like a mother gives her son in the daughter-in-law's hands. This causes conflicts between them not always, but usually the son's departure from the family is stress for the mother (Is this girl enough good for my golden boy?). Even in very modern families, I saw and see such a motive. Father usually accept the choice of a son with understanding and do not separate the daughter-in-law from his own daughters. (Son is mother’s, daughter is father’s). However, in Russia the main conflict between the mother-in-law and son-in-law exists. In my opinion – it is result of hard matriarchy, which exists in Russia (!!! this is why feminism does not take substantial root in my country). Many anecdotes exist on this topic. I will give only one expression: "Go to mother-in-law for pancakes." This means an obligatory visit. On the one hand, you will be well adopted on high level, the other - you must "to be conforming".
The family, as a whole, usually does not play a significant role in the choice of a son or daughter, with the exception of some national Diasporas. Another thing is that children very often subconsciously implement family settings in their choice.
From my experience, the answer is yes. ''Mother-in-law vs daughter -in-law'' as insightfully pointed out by dear Aparna.
Regards
I think sometimes yes and it depended on the society and person.
best regard
it's there and it will be But the connection between them should be like friends..
There is certainly a conflict that may be direct or indirect and before or after marriage, especially in the Eastern societies in general and Muslim in particular and affect negatively more than the positive flow of married life and usually lead to the collapse of marriage or marry a man from a second woman
To Amir W. Al-Khafaji. It is natural. In the US, society is very individualistic. Therefore, relations in a small family are very specific, and a large family simply does not exist. Relations between the mother-in-law and the fiancée (good or bad) can arise only where they contact frequently, i.e. where there is a large family, or its relics are present.
Marriage for money, of convenience and other mercenary marriages are rather popular ugly phenomena. Sometimes they lead to bitter disappointment in life and in human beings. It's a problem. As for relationships, I think, if parents respect and highly appreciate their son, they will help, support and encourage the union of hearts.I'm sure, a young family should live separately from other relatives. The friendly relations with our children are the most important in our life, that's why we should give them freedom and opportunity to build their own life.
Respected scholars,
Thank you very much for your valuable comments and the recommendations.
Best regards.
Murat
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