I suspect you need to use the GGRAPH version of the box-plot and add an ELEMENT line to plot the weighted mean. One of the regulars on the SPSS mailing list is an expert on GGRAPH, and will probably know how to do this. I suggest you post your question there (link given below). HTH.
Figured that out quite some time ago, thinking it is best to give this an update. The following is the syntax that I used to solved that problem. This is used to plot box plot overlaid with dotted plot (with mean symbol indicated in red).