I think self satisfaction is the secret to happiness.
Please have a look at this useful ResearchGate link.
https://www.researchgate.net/post/What_is_the_secret_of_Happiness/1
Very interesting question dear Dr. Ajit kumar Roy,
For me, the secret to happiness is:
- Be Grateful For What You Already Have ;
- Have Hobbies Directed Toward Your Dreams ;
- Don't Wait Til Tomorrow For What You Can Do Today ;
- Do Something Every Day That Terrifies You ;
- Put "The Important" Before "The Urgent" ;
- Forgo The Good To Pursue The Best.
I invite you to see this link : https://www.researchgate.net/post/What_is_the_secret_of_Happiness
Kind regards
Happiness is the purpose of life. Despite this, only one in three Americans say they’re very happy. Several years ago in an interview with Conan O’Brien, Louis C. K. tells of flying on a newly equipped Wi-Fi airplane. He was amazed by the new technology. Until, during the flight, the Wi-Fi went down. Immediately, the man next to him became extremely upset. “As though the world owes this man something he only knew existed 10 seconds ago.”
Louis C. K. continues by describing people’s absurd frustrations with flying in general. People complain about it all the time “It was the worst day of my life! It took 20 minutes to board! We had to sit on the runway for 40 minutes!”
Why do we focus on the negative?. Everything is amazing and nobody is happy. However, happiness can easily be achieved even without the brilliant advances in the world. Rather than being reactive to what’s going on around us, happy people take control of their lives and emotions. If you are unhappy with your life, who or what else can you blame than yourself? And if you can blame someone or something else, how is blame going to make your life any better?. Bad stuff happens to everyone. But life isn’t about what happens to you. It’s about how you proactively respond. The following 10 behaviors, if applied, will change your life. Let me be clear, if you do these things, you will be an incredibly happy person.
1. Let Go Of The Need For Specific Outcomes: Not everything in life goes exactly how we plan. There are setbacks. Stuff happens. We mess up. Over-obsessing and basing happiness on specific outcomes leads to misery. My wife and I have been trying to get pregnant for almost three years. It’s been tough. We’ve had to learn to be happy, rain or shine.
2. Define Your Own Success And Happiness: “Be everything to everybody and you’ll be nothing for yourself.”—John Rushton. No two human beings are the same. So why should we have one standard of success? Seeking society’s standard of success is an endless rat-race. There will always be someone better than you. You’ll never have the time to do everything.
3. Commit 100 Percent To The Things That Make You Happy:
“Many of us have convinced ourselves that we are able to break our own personal rules “just this once.” In our minds, we can justify these small choices. None of those things, when they first happen, feels like a life-changing decision. The marginal costs are almost always low. But each of those decisions can roll up into a much bigger picture, turning you into the kind of person you never wanted to be.”—Clayton Christensen.
4. Be Grateful For What You Already Have: Both abundance and lack [of abundance] exist simultaneously in our lives, as parallel realities. It is always our conscious choice which secret garden we will tend … when we choose not to focus on what is missing from our lives but are grateful for the abundance that’s present—love, health, family, friends, work, the joys of nature, and personal pursuits that bring us [happiness]—the wasteland of illusion falls away and we experience heaven on earth.”—Sarah Ban Breathnach. Happiness is as simple as gratitude. Psychological research has found that people who practice gratitude consistently report a host of benefits:
Physical:
- Stronger immune systems
- Less bothered by aches and pains
- Lower blood pressure
- Exercise more and take better care of their health
- Sleep longer and feel more refreshed upon waking.
Psychological:
- Higher levels of positive emotions
- More alert, alive, and awake
- More joy and pleasure
- More optimism and happiness
Social:
- More helpful, generous, and compassionate
- More forgiving
- More outgoing
- Feel less lonely and isolated
5. Say “I Love You” More: This may be strange, but if you tell your friends and family you love them, they’ll be blown away. I once knew a Polynesian missionary who told everyone he loved them. It was clear he was sincere.
I asked him why he did it. What he told me changed my life. “When I tell people I love them, it not only changes them, but it changes me. Simply by saying the words, I feel more love for that person. I’ve been telling people all around me I love them. They feel treasured by me. Those who know me have come to expect it. When I forget to say it, they miss it.”
6. Have Hobbies Directed Toward Your Dreams: Most people’s hobbies are just hobbies. And that’s okay. It’s good to have an escape from reality. However, research has found that a person can experience leisure in anything. Your work can become your leisure—where it literally rejuvenates you.
7. Don’t Wait Til Tomorrow For What You Can Do Today: Nothing in life is permanent. Kids grow up. Friends move away. Our loved ones pass on from this life. Let’s live in the present and appreciate the most important things in our lives before it’s too late.
8. Do Something Every Day That Terrifies You: Happy people step out of their comfort zone. You can’t grow if you don’t challenge yourself. And growth is a requirement of happiness. If you’re not growing, you’re slowly decaying and dying. Elevated risk makes you feel more alive and puts you in a state of flow—which is an optimal conscious state where you feel and perform at your highest level. You become completely absorbed in what you’re doing—pure presence.
9. Put “The Important” Before “The Urgent”: Stephen Covey says that most people spend their time on urgent but unimportant things. We wake up and immediately check our email. Thus, we put our lives on reactive, rather than proactive mode. After all, email is simply a database of other people’s agendas. Instead, happy people always put the important stuff first. Not only important, but important and non-urgent. The important stuff includes exercise, reading good books, setting goals, writing in your journal, and spending time with those you love. None of these things are urgent. We could easily put these things off until tomorrow—which is ultimately never. The most happy and successful people in the world spend most of their time on the important.
10. Forgo The Good To Pursue The Best: A lot of things in life are good, even great. That doesn’t mean we should do them. In Good to Great, Jim Collins says that once-in-a-lifetime opportunities come up every day. Most people take any great opportunity that comes their way, even if it’s not in alignment with their life vision. Consequently, most people’s lives are moving in a thousand different directions. They aren’t able to consciously move forward in a singular direction.
Happy people live in the present. They don’t miss the moments that matter most. They are incredibly grateful for all they have. They focus their lives on the important and essential. They forgo the many good opportunities in order to focus on the few best ones. Regards
Dear Prof. Ajit kumar Roy, good family, sound health, successful career, contentment and self satisfactory are all secret of happiness.
Dear Dr. Ajit Kumar Roy Sir,
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