I am interested in finding values of forces between grains on a closed 3D surface under shear. The computational assets I have are limited to one or several machines. The interaction and grain dynamics needs to be realistic.
You can use a Discrete Element Method (DEM) software to modelling flow and get the the interaction of particles at the micromechanical scale. There is a lot of open-source DEM softwares: LMGC90, Yade, Ligggths, etc.
I suppose, everyone has his own "best" software since it's a subject to personal preferences, but just for instance my colleagues used to work with Star-CCM+ with CD-adapco coupled with CFD-DEM and also EDEM from DEM-Solutions to simulate mass flow in combine harvesters as well as straw and grain interaction.