I have a very stubborn child and at the same time he is kind and loves helping others. I have followed him with a variety of educational methods but I have not benefited from them. I want advice.
I know several stubborn people. My remedy: go on "their side", don't fight them and give evidence slowly to make them change their minds.
Some see the benefits "of the other side' and adopt new habits.
Those that are stubborn, I think, became like that (inherited from ancestors) in order to survive. In order to see an alternative idea, method, etc, they have to see details in a slow manner, peacefully.
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The causes of stubbornness in people vary. Studies show that approximately 30% are due to a genetic factor or due to lack of dopamine. The latter is responsible for the feeling of joy and pleasure. In addition, it helps in the process of education and the stubborn person is dissatisfied with a decision or work that turns out to be wrong. Some acquire this status as a result of erroneous social upbringing in the family, including parental orders and demands
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Probably is a multi-factorial however I feel is much culture related.
If the stubbornness is a virtue to be cultivated rather than a defect to be corrected? Many successful people have been successful because of their stubbornness.
Thank you very much Dr. Leonardo Cannizzaro for your interest in the subject and for your kindness in answering
I have come to the conclusion that my daughters's stubbornness is passed on from my wife. There is no way to change it so I carry on giving advice but don't expect to be taken up. No use to scream or get angry, so keep calm and perform your duties as you see fit. Maybe miracle will happen later on, your advice will prevail later on.
Great question and thanks for sharing it. I must admit, I am a stubborn person but I used it when I know myself, I am right, I don't like being bullied and being shut down with my freedom and dignity. Do I inherent it from my ancestors, I am not quite sure becasue I was adopted at 6 years old. Growing up was not an easy journey, perhaps my stubborness relates to survival and be able to stand on my own without the support of family. Though, I never lose sight of being kind to others especially those who needed the most.
There may be chances for stubbornness to be hereditary, however some people that are extrovert can be taken as being stubborn, because they are always lively and cannot allow dullness around them, and there can be a swing of this trait to having a calm person as he or she ages
My stubbornness is definitely learned and is a survival tactic to prevent being continually treated as a push-over. Reading up on this a bit, I learned that stubbornness could be a genetic defect.